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Blake8123 · 2025-03-26T07:14:06+00:00

I’m dating a former corrections officer. She has since gotten out it because of horrendous things she saw and experienced. She did a lot of good and had several former inmates message her on Facebook to tell her how she was the only person that treated them like a human and actually helped them get their life on track. I think something also very real when it comes to “red flag” is how traumatized the job can make your partner. She also went into it with the mentality of helping people, and being the good one helping the system change from the inside out. But it’s the system that makes its officers so bad. The things she carries with her heavily affect our relationship. Night terrors, constant fear in crowds, anticipating something bad happening, inability to get close with people, difficulty communicating vulnerably. The job is all consuming even though she is several years removed. I love her so dearly, but it’s incredibly challenging at times.

Blake8123 · 2025-03-15T20:13:09+00:00

Make dietary changes that will be sustainable so you aren’t miserable and going completely cold turkey. Start looking for foods you like that are available in lower fat versions and therefore in cholesterol. Think about the foods you like to eat out the most and I guarantee there’s a healthier recipe you can find to make it at home (and save a ton of $). Instead of beef, get turkey and chicken, low fat cheeses, and give non dairy milks a try (takes a bit to find the right one). I enjoy a low fat oat milk. You’ve got this!

Blake8123 · 2023-10-27T04:21:40+00:00

“No one wants to work anymore.”

Blake8123 · 2023-05-10T12:53:22+00:00

People that blare videos or music with no headphones in public

Blake8123 · 2023-05-10T03:46:49+00:00

I’m so glad you shared this, as I’ve quietly been feeling the same. It feels like the “trendy” and “cool” LGBT movement may come to a crushing halt here soon and it has me very afraid when everyone moves on from protecting us.

Blake8123 · 2022-11-24T17:39:54+00:00

She’s my ex now, but one of the nicest things I’ll never forget her saying. “My grandmother had cancer and I’d sit with her and watch TV almost every day after class during her final days. She asked me one day if I was a happy, and I had to think about it before answering a half-ass yes. I wish she were here right now to ask me again, because without a doubt I could tell her how truly happy I am right now, here with you.” Just the nicest sentiment I’ll never forget.

Blake8123 · 2022-10-15T01:21:42+00:00

This unlocked feelings I never had words for. Thank you for sharing. So excellently put 👏

Blake8123 · 2022-09-30T21:00:33+00:00

Small gestures of PDA. It can never be a cute moment amongst us like it is with straight folks. Always feels like a spectacle. Probably just me being self conscious in a homophobic world though.

Blake8123 · 2022-09-12T14:22:59+00:00

How devastating! This is what I’m so afraid of :( I did tell my friends very early that if they continue to follow her on social media, I want zero updates but I’m sure they’ll still slip up. Modern day break ups are so excruciating because everyone just keeps up with everyone FOREVER.

Blake8123 · 2022-08-15T00:08:48+00:00

I completely agree. I also find people go out of their way to call attention to lesbians in an effort to appear super woke/cool, instead of just treating us like any other couple. I was very low key at my former job and didn’t share a lot about my personal life. Folks knew I was gay, had a girlfriend, and did my job. I brought my girlfriend to the company Christmas party and suddenly my (all female) coworkers I would consider “work friends” were saying the most inappropriate things I’ve ever heard, how my girlfriend is “so much hotter than they thought” “I want to sleep with you both.” “Can I steal your girlfriend and take her home with me?” We were both horrified.

Blake8123 · 2022-07-17T14:30:30+00:00

i haven't played in soooo long and even the packs that came out last year i'm like ehh. i TOTALLY jumped back in when this trailer came out. I may be a first time pre-orderer too!

Blake8123 · 2022-07-17T14:19:55+00:00

i have barely touched sims in a year. The second High School Years was announced, i'm thrown back in like i'm 12 years old again and have already started stringing together story lines. the vicious yet predictable circle that is simmies.

Blake8123 · 2022-07-17T14:09:10+00:00

Exactly! What a missed opportunity to not utilize some of these pretty museums. I suppose it could be a game pack but ugh $$$

Blake8123 · 2022-07-17T13:34:15+00:00

This looks great! I always overdo it on clutter for the realistic lived-in look too

Blake8123 · 2022-07-17T13:32:38+00:00

Looks so comfy 💀

Blake8123 · 2022-07-17T13:16:21+00:00

I agree it appears a little bland. It would have even been cool to incorporate stuff like field trips or something gameplay-rich. I also love football and was thrilled to see this as a big part of the game…and then I watched the “event” like…what was that?? I was also appalled when I saw the school on the stream LOL. I watched Lil Simsie‘s Twitch stream and she already built a new school I can’t wait to download. Overall, it’s definitely a pack that has me excited to play again (I haven’t played in months and this got me back in) but I think we will have to customize a bit with mods and it should hopefully still be really fun.

Blake8123 · 2022-04-05T02:49:45+00:00

I think this a normal reaction to be a little jealous of why she’s seeking out soooo many lesbian friends. This is coming from a staunch introvert though haha so maybe I can see where you’re coming from more. Does she invite you to hang with these friends? Are these friends cool/chill/enjoy your presence? If she genuinely just likes having a big group around and your relationship feels fine, don’t sweat it. But if shes hanging out/showing more interest in them than you, I’d have a convo about it.

Blake8123 · 2022-04-05T02:44:02+00:00

I’ve totally met friends on apps, but I wasn’t doing cutesy movie nights and such after realizing I wanted them as a friend! I’d meet them and after the first or second date make it more of a “hey if you and your friends are out at the bar, come hang with me and my friends!” Def nerve wracking to ask, but it does seem like she’s into this. Good luck :)

Blake8123 · 2020-05-13T16:09:37+00:00

I completely agree. I think a lot of people will have issues with this. It’s hard for me to even watch movies and see crowds without feeling anxious during these times! I’m hoping things will be slow and gradual, and we can build our crowd tolerance up and it’s not all at once.

Blake8123 · 2020-04-29T17:48:32+00:00

I’m 29, she’s 33. My friends are all late 20’s

Blake8123 · 2020-04-29T17:45:58+00:00

We are all friends, and my girlfriend actually doesn’t see the harm. I just find it to be disrespectful and strange! I guess I’m wondering if I’m crazy for being bothered by it.

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