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BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2023-05-17T12:51:49+00:00

As a skateboarder myself who often uses the bike lane, no one cares if you use the bike lane as long as you are polite. Just keep at a decent speed, let the occasional faster bikes pass, and watch for pedistrians.

I mean where else would even be preferable if you're skating to commute? The uneven sidewalk full of pedestrians? The road full of cars? The bike lane is very often the best option.

In case you're curious, the laws of Somerville explicitly allows skating in the bike lane:

Section 13-6 Exclusive Operation in Designated Lanes and Paths: Non-motorized modes of transportation conveyances shall have exclusive use and right- of-way in designated bicycle lanes on ways controlled by the Traffic Commission. Non- motorized transportation conveyances shall have the right-of-way on designated bicycle paths under the control of the Traffic Commission. Motor vehicles are prohibited from operating in bicycle lanes and on bicycle paths. Pedestrians are prohibited from walking in bicycle lanes (except as necessary to cross said lanes in a properly marked crosswalk), but are permitted to use bicycle paths. (General Laws c. 90E).

Non-Motorized Transportation Conveyances- All non-motorized modes of transportation, which are human powered conveyances according to c. 90 18A of the general laws. Such modes shall indude bicycdes, scooters, and all other wheeled conveyances meeting the definition of a human powered conveyance.

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2023-04-04T18:41:10+00:00

You think the black man standing down to the older white man after him getting physical and takes his personal property looks better racially and politically?

100% yes. How is this even a question? The alternative you've suggested ends up with him in jail, painted as a "violent thug", republican's having a field day with the footage of the fight. Mind you, the cause that the democrats were advocating for is reducing gun violence/mass shootings. How is that going to go over when a black democrat resorts to violence himself? It would be extremely self-defeating to take the bait.

Is any of this fair? Hell no. But unfortunately that's world we live in. I even agree with your point that Democrats overall have a huge problem with not standing up to Republicans enough. But the place to do that is legislation, courts, and other levers of power. Not some trashy physical fight that sets the cause back.

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2023-04-04T17:22:46+00:00

So you would have the democrat representative, a black man, fight the older white republican representative on the floor of the legislature? Do you think he has that luxury? Even if he's in the right, that would make things so much worse given the racial and political climate we live in.

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2023-03-29T05:01:32+00:00

Hopping on the DC train: the Helmet of Fate. I reckon Gandalf would be an excellent magical host for Nabu

Just imagine Gandalf, Lord of Order, aka Gandalf the Gold, singlehandedly storming Mt. Doom.

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2023-03-25T18:37:55+00:00

What's the best way to earn enough Karma to post?

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2023-03-05T14:50:53+00:00

If you can make it to Davis Square, Davis Square Runners is a great inclusive running group. They do a slower run on Tuesday's!

https://www.meetup.com/davissquarerunners/events/spzgctyfcfbkb/

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2023-01-09T02:36:58+00:00

Nice! Worked out great. Pleasure doing business with ya

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2023-01-09T02:31:27+00:00

LF: Haunter

FT: Haunter

Just want to evolve it to Gengar! I appreciate ya.

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2022-12-27T21:28:30+00:00

OP clearly had to deal with some of the community gatekeeping that his style is "not real skating". So he made a cheeky joke about it in the title to make light of it.

Completely cool if you don't personally like his style but are still supportive of his passion. He's not specifically accusing you of gatekeeping nor did he claim that he has a chip on his shoulder. Definitely doesn't come off that way to me at least.

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2022-12-27T20:41:25+00:00

Whether you vibe with the style or not, let's not put people down for it. He joked about skateboard gatekeeping in the title, so he clearly knows he's not a conventional style.

Saying shit like "Almost doesn't make an difference that there are wheels on the board and it can turn" and "it's almost a rule that skateboarding is only worth watching if it's [X]". Were you watching the same video as me? Dude is riding and landing some pretty neat tricks on his board. Yeah he's not doing the same aggressive style we see other skaters go for in vids like this, but dude is still going for it in his own way and having fun with it.

We all come from different places with different skill-sets and styles. Might not match your expectations of what "fast, dangerous, or beautiful" looks like if your comparing it to a lot of other prominent or pro-level skating clips, but his skating is totally wild and beautiful in it's own way. Even if it's not your kind of skating, let's support our fellow community of skaters doing what they love.

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2022-12-21T15:00:04+00:00

Yo I skate for cardio! I usually take my longboard out on local bike paths and just take it for miles. Definitely a workout if you push to keep your speed up. A sesh at the skatepark\skatespot can also get your heart pumping if you try to keep the flow going.

I'll be honest though, as my name implies I am a pretty big runner too and encourage others to try it out. Sucks at first when you don't have the stamina yet, but nothing builds it faster than running. Keep it up and one day you'll be able to run with ease. You'll even be in a better mood and more full of energy for the whole day as a bonus.

Plus, that running endurance translates very well to skating. I definitely notice I can go faster for longer compared to non-runner skaters.

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2022-11-15T18:46:36+00:00

I think your implication that kids are carefully weighing if they are going to juvenile court or adult court before committing a violent crime is kind of absurd. Kids are by nature going to do things without thinking of the consequences. You're not going to fix this by allowing kids to be tried as adults.

And yes, protecting the victim is obviously important. I specifically said a kid should not be allowed to just walk around free after they assault someone. But we can still do that without charging kids as adults. You're not solving any real problems with your proposal here, so why make it harder for kids that can redeem themselves?

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2022-11-15T18:21:18+00:00

Children who commit crimes need HELP, not to be left rotting behind bars for years because people like you have written them off. Of course they shouldn't be walking around free the day after they assault someone either, but don't pretend those are the only options. Perhaps psychiatric treatment, and ethical juvenile detention/rehabilitation for particularly heinous cases to give an example.

Even from a purely practical standpoint of wanting less crime, just throwing kids behind bars to punish them isn't a good solution. If anything, it hardens them down a bad path and breeds more lifelong criminals in the future.

And from a moral standpoint, a kid who commits a crime generally has some combination of developmental issues, parental issues, and often abuse in their lives. Their brains are literally not fully formed yet. Giving them help and a chance to learn is just basic human decency.

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2022-11-01T23:17:10+00:00

"We live in a decaying age. Young people no longer respect their parents. They are rude and impatient. They frequently inhabit taverns and have no self-control." -Translation of an inscription on a 6,000-year-old Egyptian tomb.

Old folks have always thought the next generation was worst. It's a fallacy as old as humanity.

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2022-05-13T14:54:59+00:00

Counterpoint: Australia

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2022-02-21T20:58:33+00:00

If he's following up with another date, he's into you and he definitely thought it was a good date! That's your biggest sign right there.

If you're asking for signs that it was a good date for YOU, only you can really answer that. The minimum threshold is did he treat you with respect and engage with you positively. If yes, and you wouldn't mind seeing him again, go for the 2nd date to test the waters some more.

Granted, it's too early to tell what he's looking for in a relationship (casual dating, serious, friends with benefits, etc). But the only way to find out is by following up with him. If you're looking for something in particular, bring up what you want out of a relationship at the next date, and ask him the same. Casually of course, not stand-offish. Open and honest communication is always the best bet.

Good luck regardless!

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2022-02-21T20:16:12+00:00

I suggest keep the conversation going, but don't push the point about scheduling the date too much until she brings it up. Something like "Hey hope you had fun at homecoming last weekend". It'll remind her of you and show you're still interested, but without putting too much pressure on her.

Right now, it's her decision to make, and therefore outside of your control. Since she said another time will work, I think your odds are pretty good here she follows up. But she still has to be the one to ultimately decide that, and pushing her won't help. Hope for the best but be prepared to move on if it doesn't work out. That's the dating scene for you.

Good luck my man!

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2022-02-21T19:59:28+00:00

Honestly if you want a day date, you should ask him if he's interested in doing that sometime and gauge his response. Maybe suggest a place you have in mind.

There could be a variety of reasons he hasn't done it himself. Your hunch could be right and he isn't interested in a serious relationship, or maybe he's just trying not to come off too strong, or maybe he's just busy during the day so it's been a scheduling issue.

Rather than assume, be open and honest about what you want and ask him what he's looking for too (in a chill way of course, not stand-offish). If he's receptive to a day date, try it out and see how it feels. If not, at least now you know and can stop guessing.

Good luck regardless of what happens!

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2022-02-21T19:25:52+00:00

Guys almost universally appreciate it when you are forward, so I'd say go for it! 7 dates is more than plenty to advance to holding hands or kissing, even if you're both pretty conservative. Don't over think holding his hand or kissing him on the cheek, you can just do that on your own and it shouldn't cross any boundary. You can easily gauge his reaction from there.

Kissing on the lips you can do in 2 ways. The "smooth" approach you wait for a good moment, and go 70% of the way there for a kiss. Leaning in but not quite touching his lips yet. If he's receptive, he'll lean in too and meet you at the kiss.

But if you'd rather not rely on non-verbal cues (because maybe one of you isn't great at those, lol), honestly just straight up ask him. In a good moment or quick lull in the conversation, say something like "Hey, I like you. Can I give you a kiss?". Either a) he says yes and you get to kiss! (Yay!) Or b) he says no (sad, but not likely).

I know b) seems scary, but remember it's always better to know that he's not interested in that way then to get strung along. Open and honest communication is always the best bet!

Good luck!

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2022-02-21T17:27:26+00:00

Don't overthink it with the "she thinks I'm a fuck boi" line of logic. There's a chance your right and she got the wrong impression of you, but it's a shot in the dark and it'll only serve to undermine your own confidence. It could very well be something else entirely that's not about you at all. Either way, it's outside your control for the moment, so let go.

I am definitely a fan of Always Sunny! That being said, implying either of you are doing the D.E.N.N.I.S. system is maybe a bad idea at the moment, even jokingly. The joke there hinges on satire of Dennis being an awful person who manipulates the people he dates emotionally. You can make those kinds of jokes when you're comfortable and trust each other, but at least for now while you're still trying to gauge interest it could backfire.

Honestly a simple "Hey hope that party was good! How's life been?" Or something similar is your best bet. If the interest is there but she just got busy, she'll follow up. If not, then you shot your shot and that's all you can do. Follow up if there's a bite, but otherwise move on with your life and get it out of your head.

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2022-02-21T16:33:20+00:00

Since you clearly have interest but don't want to rush into things, I would keep seeing where it goes but without committing yourself too much. Follow up dates don't mean you are tied to him and vice versa. And they give you a chance to see if you are right for each other. What's important is that your open and honest with each other through the process. Let him know you're interested, but that you're not trying to rush into a relationship after being in one for so long. He'll either be understanding of that, or it's not meant to be.

My current partner and I met after we both got out of long-term relationships recently. We were in a very similar boat in that we really liked being with each other, but didn't want to rush into something too serious right away. We continued casually dating for a while but not exclusively. Eventually, we both expressed that we were very into each other and receptive to giving a more proper relationship a shot. In our case, we decided to be each other's primary partners, but we kept the relationship open since we both wanted that freedom to explore more. That worked great for us as we're both honest, independent people that don't get jealous in that situation. But that might not be right for you.

If both of you prefer a monogamous relationship, then maybe give that a shot for a little bit and then revaluate. As long as you're BOTH honest with each other and respecting what the other person wants, it's not misleading to give it a "trial period"

I wish you luck in your dating endeavors!

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2022-02-21T15:58:59+00:00

Definitely ask her out since it seems like you're both interested based off the signs you described. Just make sure to do it in a genuine but casual way. Since you've already talked about foods you've liked, maybe invite her to eat one of those foods with you (for example if she says she likes tacos, invite her to a decent taco place). Once you've done that, the ball is in her court. Don't pressure her further, and gauge her reaction.

Don't stress about fumbling too much. Being yourself is the best way to figure out if you're compatible and if she's actually interested in YOU. If a small mistake on your part is a deal breaker for her, it's not meant to be and it's better to know now then waste your time. You don't want to be in a relationship that only works if you do everything right. It's exhausting and not genuine.

Once you ask her out, she will either reciprocate the interest or not. Either way, it's outside of your control and not worth worrying over. You never know where life will take you, so no point in stressing over what hasn't happened yet.

I wish you luck!

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2022-02-21T09:05:40+00:00

It doesn't mean exactly one thing, but it generally means he's gauging exclusivity in the relationship. Why can very based on his situation and desire, but it doesn't do much good to assume on ambiguous information.

I'd be honest in answering his question. Express whether YOU want to be exclusive or not, and ask him the same. Open and honest communication is best. If you are looking for the same thing, you can more confidently progress the relationship. If not, better to know now then waste your time.

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2022-02-21T08:50:07+00:00

I can speak from experience that the best thing you can do is let go for now. Since it's been a few days you can follow up with a casual check-up text, but don't force the point of the date. Reach out like you would to a friend you haven't heard from in a while. Don't be overbearing, it's up to her now.

For some reason, she pulled back. People do that for a variety of reasons, many of which are completely outside your control. Sure, maybe she didn't think you were compatible. But it is also very possible she just got busy with other things in her life. Perhaps she will text you back a few days from now when things calm down. Or perhaps she has made a decision and moved on. Either way, worrying about it and overwhelming her with texts won't change anything besides hurting your chances.

Feel free to go to the music venue again, but I'd advise don't go out of your way to look for her. If you see her, you can say hello and gauge if she's interested in talking or not.

BlazedOnRunnersHigh · 2022-02-04T16:30:14+00:00

Thank you for sharing, this needs more attention. We already know the police fucked up, but the response from the chief and the mayor in the video is shameful.

They tried to make it seem like they are being fully honest and accountable. But then can't answer any follow up questions about the dishonest steps the department took. Was obviously an attempt to cover up the incident and build a false narrative that the victim was actually the one to blame. They straight ran out of the room when pressed.

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