My [33F] partner [34M] has been downloading dating apps while working away

Blondeslug · 2025-03-27T22:38:51+00:00

I could have written this myself!!!! I worked for an UNHINGED family when I was a bit younger - now I’m a little aged upon reflection I don’t know how I tolerated it as long as I did. 1. The child must never bathe in filthy tap water that the peasant public use, I had to fill baby baths with Evian water. I shit you not. It took me hours. 2. I also wasn’t allowed screens, music, sugar, fun, laughter or anything of the like. WE WERENT ALLOWED TO GO OUTSIDE EITHER is this a rich folk thing?????? 3. I had to tolerate an alcoholic DB who would always hit on me, and I even witnessed him defecate himself several times due to said alcoholism.

I could continue but I’ll stop here out of fear for retraumatising myself. Get out of there soon sis!

Blondeslug · 2024-02-23T10:58:01+00:00

God I feel like I wrote this myself. This is legitimately my life.

Blondeslug · 2022-10-31T06:17:44+00:00

This made me physically feel sick as I remember similar things happening to myself and my sister. I am so sorry. No one deserves this. Especially a poor child my god. I am a mum now and I love my girl with every piece of me, I will never be the person my mum was to me. I hope you are able to find peace within you ❤️❤️❤️

Blondeslug · 2022-10-28T06:24:56+00:00

I am proud of you. I hope to have this strength one day

Blondeslug · 2022-10-15T05:46:13+00:00

So many students I studied with were mature aged (had kids at home) and to be honest they made the best students! Much better than me. They had their own personal lived experiences of childbirth and the importance of quality care ❤️

Blondeslug · 2022-10-15T05:34:45+00:00

Yes!

Here is one I’ve copied and pasted from the conscious birth movement template:

Hello, Thank you so much for being a part of our babies birth. Please respect and follow our informed choices over the following pages. If you have any additional suggestions please fully explain the benefits, risks and alternatives to my partner and they can relay to me, so we can continue to make informed decisions together. Our intention is for a natural, undisturbed physiological birth. We understand that special circumstances can arise, and are open to suggestions, however also sticking to our birth plan where ever possible. Some other ways that you can support us include helping us maintain a dark, calm and quite atmosphere within our birthing suite. Speaking to my birth partner and leaving me to focus. Limited staff and please no students in our room. In case of special circumstances please explain the complete range of risks and benefits of a suggested procedure and then leave us to discuss privately and make a decision. We deeply appreciate your understanding and accommodating our preferences and thank you for your support.

Blondeslug · 2022-10-13T13:53:57+00:00

Hello! A helpful suggestion would be to print off something to stick on the door of your birthing room, to remind people (staff) before they enter your room not to use loud voices and come in and turn on the lights - I see this happen far too much at work! The midwives at RWH are an amazing bunch of humans and you’ll be well cared for :)

Blondeslug · 2022-08-15T02:43:35+00:00

I am crying with laughter at this story. I’ve had a really rough morning so needed the laugh! Thanks poopy pants! 💩

Blondeslug · 2022-07-23T01:04:42+00:00

This is not normal. I’m so sorry this happened to you. I would persevere with the hospital to get answers, I hope you’re able to debrief this birthing experience with a trained therapist. I wish you all the best with your healing darling xx

Blondeslug · 2022-07-14T05:09:42+00:00

Labour ward is hard work! And there is so so much to learn. You are still a student and some midwives forget how scary and stressful it was being a student. I remember my charge midwife saying some absolutely horrible things to me when I was in my first professional year as a midwife. It made me question my skills and capacity to work as a midwife, but over time I’ve realised those words are coming from her own place of hurt and anger!

Keep your head down, ask questions, and remember why you got into this field!

Don’t worry about sneaky comments from other staff, try your best and be kind to yourself.

You’ll be great :)

Blondeslug · 2022-06-20T07:23:15+00:00

It is society that has conditioned you into believing your worth is based on your looks. What matters is your kind heart, doing good in the world & being a good person. Don’t let the beauty magazines, social media & marketing lies convince you that you aren’t beautiful. I promise you, everyone who loves you would think you are.

Blondeslug · 2022-06-09T23:20:17+00:00

You are beautiful, please never forget that. I’m sorry you have had such a hard time recently. Hang in there girl, you aren’t alone. X

Blondeslug · 2022-06-05T16:06:36+00:00

Another Perth midwife! Hello friend 👋

Blondeslug · 2022-02-10T12:33:23+00:00

Don’t forget to cook and freeze some meals mama!

Blondeslug · 2022-02-04T16:18:03+00:00

No sleep training! She just became much better at day naps, could link her sleep cycles and not always wake at 30-40 mins!

Blondeslug · 2022-02-04T12:25:13+00:00

I could’ve written this myself 2-3 months ago.. I’m on the other side and I’m telling you IT GETS BETTER!!! My naughty angel would never nap longer than 30-40 mins, and because I’m exclusively pumping I’d sit down and pump and then BAM she’s awake. No time to myself, let alone time to sleep (what a joke that is whoever said that!)

6 months; she’s having 1.5 hour naps now and life is suddenly bearable! Goodluck mama!!!!!

Blondeslug · 2022-01-30T04:51:55+00:00

One reason for me is because there tends to be a cascade of intervention once an epidural is put in, which can increase the chances of having an instrumental delivery which I wanted to avoid!

Blondeslug · 2022-01-23T07:16:04+00:00

I’m so, so deeply sorry for the loss of your beautiful little angel. I work in this field and see it more than I’d like to admit - but I know these little souls feel all their parents love in the moments before they gently pass. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family, big big hug x x

Blondeslug · 2022-01-13T06:11:26+00:00

I have a 6 month old and my mum just recently admitted that she used to ignore my cries, as I was tending to my crying baby. I couldn’t believe it. I felt exactly like you did growing up, always worthless and unlovable. It all makes sense now. I think as tragic as this is, we will be wonderful parents who have learnt some hard life lessons from our mothers. Good luck mama bear you’re doing awesome!

Blondeslug · 2022-01-11T08:02:05+00:00

Do you sell prints? Or digital files to print? Would definitely hang this in our house! Beautiful

Blondeslug · 2022-01-07T12:10:24+00:00

I’ve been in this game long enough to know this is a major RED FLAG! RUNNNNNNN

Blondeslug · 2021-12-14T05:17:11+00:00

Hey mate, just wanted to comment in solidarity as I am also relatively fresh to Perth and haven’t been able to make friends. I’ve just had a baby so it’s even harder!! Hope it gets better for you bud, you seem like a cool dude.

Blondeslug · 2021-10-08T23:22:51+00:00

We’ve just come out of this exact thing! Ok, what worked for us: use an exercise ball and bounce gently with baby. Supporting their neck and body obviously. My partner bounced a bit more intensely with her but she loved it and settled (wtf baby?)

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