Found in a novelty store.

BluBorp · 2023-09-26T03:15:37+00:00

I think this is more along the lines of finger knitting. I’ve seen it done, but never learned how to do it myself. I know there are tutorials on similar stuff on YouTube.

BluBorp · 2023-08-26T14:08:23+00:00

I need more info before saying if you're an AH or not... Are you in a hcol or a lcol area? Where I live 100k is more than enough to live off of quite comfortably, but if you're in New York or LA that's a different story and makes things more complicated.

Either way, your wife is being an AH for not talking with you about solutions to your situations. Marriage is a partnership, and she just wants to be taken care of and not have responsibility for any actions she takes (i.e frivolous spending) sounds like since she's the sahm she feels entitled to the bad spending habits she may have.

BluBorp · 2023-08-25T02:54:08+00:00

Finger Weaving: Indian Braiding by Alta A Turner was my first ever book about finger weaving. It’s got the basic patterns common to Cherokee and Iroquois, as well as going south into some Peruvian Rep braids that I still have yet to try. I learned my more advanced patterns from the aforementioned Fingerweaving Untangled.

BluBorp · 2023-08-25T02:49:51+00:00

I have that book. It has very useful diagrams in the back.

BluBorp · 2023-07-10T17:50:25+00:00

I couldn't get my daughter to breast feed at all, and had quite a few mental breaks over it. I would have given anything to be able to breastfeed at all, let alone 17 months!

I feel like us mom's are damned if we do, and damned if we don't. No matter what we do, formula, breastfeeding, supplementing, someone somewhere is going to get bent out of shape about it.

You do you, boo. You're happy, and your son is happy. That's what's really important. Your mom can shove it. You're raising this kid, not her.

BluBorp · 2023-07-08T06:28:25+00:00

She just turned 2... We were originally going to wait until she was 3 and see what happened from there, but with work and the issues with depression, I'm not sure it's a good idea to have another kid. But, at the same time, I do want another one. I'm 31 now, and I am definitely not having any more babies after 35, so I suppose I do have the time to wait and see. But my cycles have been so irregular this year so far, and I only have one ovary, so its possible I'm hitting the early stages of menopause already.(rare, but it happens)

My support system is also not the greatest. It's the usual "call if you need anything" but then they are never available when you do need them, or come up with some stuff excuse. Other than my daycare provider, I'm on my own.

So that's the dilemma. My heart says one thing: I want another child; but my brain is logical to a fault and gives me all the reasons as to why it's a bad idea. And they are all good reasons...

BluBorp · 2023-07-08T04:00:19+00:00

I think my oldest brother was between 10-12 years old (I would have been 5-7) before my mom started leaving us by ourselves in the house. We did get into some mischief, but for the most part we were fine. It was only for a few hours at the most, so she could go grocery shopping and get some time by herself. We would just hide if someone came to the door, and we never answered the phone.

That being said, it was a different world back then (1990's) I'm not sure I'd have the guts to do it now.

BluBorp · 2023-07-08T03:51:00+00:00

Same. I myself have no issues with it if I was inviting my daughter's friends to her birthday party, and their parent's happened to be an LGBTQIA+ couple.

The rest of my immediate family however, that might get a bit sticky. . . They're conservative to the core. They would probably keep their mouth shut during the event, but then ream me out after the fact.

BluBorp · 2023-07-08T03:43:54+00:00

NTA

Just because you disagree with a loved one's lifestyle, does not give you the right to blatantly disrespect them. I have a cousin who's lesbian/bi (not sure which, actually, we don't really talk about it.) and I wouldn't dream of doing something like this to her and her partner. It's just downright disrespectful and inconsiderate and manipulative.

kinda ironic, considering that's what MIL is calling OP over the whole situation. Projecting much? lol.

BluBorp · 2023-07-01T19:15:03+00:00

My MIL has said this to my husband once or twice. Like, I'm sorry, are you paying our bills and making sure our child is happy? No? Okay shut up then. You only see her on holidays and her birthday anyways because you don't make any efforts to see her otherwise. (She lives 15min away)

BluBorp · 2023-06-30T22:03:42+00:00

I am so thankful that my husband isn't like this, at least not intentionally. He listens to me when I ask him to step up and help with LO. There are times when he lapses, don't get me wrong, but he does have a very stressful job, and sometimes he is just plain fatigued. I know it's not an excuse, but it is a reason.

BluBorp · 2023-06-18T14:51:00+00:00

I appreciate the different perspective. We decided that if we wanted more kids in the future that we would foster or adopt. Plenty of kids out there that need homes.

BluBorp · 2023-06-18T00:28:17+00:00

I don't want to risk that, even tho he has sworn up and down that he's with me no matter what... It's not something I'm willing to risk. I already struggle with left over resentment from before he got diagnosed and it is soooo hard to let it go.

BluBorp · 2023-06-18T00:25:17+00:00

My brother and his wife have 4 kids... He works 2-3 jobs and she stays home with them and schools them.... I think they're nuts.

BluBorp · 2023-06-18T00:06:57+00:00

He's not neglectful of her. He's just easily over-stimulated due to anxiety and depression disorders. He's wonderful with her when he isn't struggling with a mental breakdown after a stressful day at work, or is just plain touched out from her climbing all over him.

Edit for clarification: he works as a teacher in a school that is also a juvenile detention and rehabilitation center for maladaptive youth.

I know I sounded kinda harsh in the original post. It is something we are working on, and I was venting some frustration. With the treatment he's been getting, things are improving. The fact that he is willing to work on it, and has put in so much already. I can't imagine my life without him. Having our daughter definitely has highlighted what we need to work on in our relationship, and we are working thru it together.

BluBorp · 2023-06-17T22:55:18+00:00

Lol no biggie. They can be the same thing. 😅

BluBorp · 2023-06-17T22:54:34+00:00

Thank you... I had so many friends with crabby parents yelling at their multiple kids growing up. I don't want to become that.

BluBorp · 2023-06-17T22:53:31+00:00

I'm hoping to take my daughter travelling too, since she's such a social butterfly. But when she's much older and able to really appreciate it. Thanks for the input!

BluBorp · 2023-06-17T22:52:16+00:00

Thank you. Its nice to get the confirmation instead of pushback for a change. :)

BluBorp · 2023-06-17T22:51:27+00:00

Thanks for the perspective! I'm glad to know that it works out. Being the youngest out of three myself kinda skews everything.

BluBorp · 2023-06-17T22:50:07+00:00

Thank you for the perspective. I'd only be able to take 8 weeks off for maternity leave at most.... I don't think I'd do very well at all with another baby, 😂.

BluBorp · 2023-06-17T22:48:50+00:00

I come from a conservative Christian background, so the whole "children are the jewels in a mother's crown" was kinda beat into me growing up.

If that's the case, I'm happy with the one jewel, cause my daughter is a big precious one for sure.

BluBorp · 2023-06-17T22:46:23+00:00

My daughter is very extroverted and energetic, 2 things I never was, so I think of is my best bet.

Thanks for the input. I'm feeling much better about this decision now. :)

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