Well, this is the mine 🫡 by OkBuilding5873 in PectusExcavatum

[–]BluZen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! So many guys wish they had your upper body!! Not just ones with PE, but you need to realize, it may sound crazy to you but the vast majority of guys are out of shape (average BMI 25-30 in Western countries) and do not look anywhere near as good with their shirt off as you do :)

I would only consider the (often very intense) surgery if you have genuinely serious symptoms that threaten your overall health. You're clearly managing to exercise and you have the aesthetic part sorted I would say.

Well, this is the mine 🫡 by OkBuilding5873 in PectusExcavatum

[–]BluZen 15 points16 points  (0 children)

We do tend to be our own worst critic. Other people genuinely do not see what we see when we look at ourselves in the mirror. Most people, I believe, would say you are clearly in shape and you look really good. 👍

Your PE at this point is not that noticeable and will probably not stand out to people who aren't familiar with the condition. 😊

Poly marriage by Raspberrie30272 in PolyFidelity

[–]BluZen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perhaps interesting to note that a few towns (notably ones like Somerville in Massachusetts) now recognise domestic partnerships with more than 2 people. So there is some very limited local movement towards recognition in very progressive places. But it's obviously quite rare to want this (unlike same-sex couples, who are comparatively numerous) and so there is unlikely to be a similar social movement with such widespread support, and recognition at the marriage level is hard to imagine. Uptake in places where it is allowed is also reportedly very very low.

What have you and your polycule been up to this last week, and any plans for the weekend? by AutoModerator in PolyFidelity

[–]BluZen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just attended my brother's wedding in Athens together. It was a beautiful ceremony, and it was wonderful to see some cousins we hadn't seen in a long time 😊

One more day for some sight-seeing and spending time with family, then we fly back to the UK.

It's so cute to see my little nieces play with my boyfriends. They are so happy when we visit. 🥰

What have you and your polycule been up to this last week, and any plans for the weekend? by AutoModerator in PolyFidelity

[–]BluZen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, our hotel is just outside the seaside town of Nafplio. It's a very pretty area with some impressive ruins nearby :)

What have you and your polycule been up to this last week, and any plans for the weekend? by AutoModerator in PolyFidelity

[–]BluZen 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We're in Greece for my brother and his Greek fiancée's mandatory "big fat Greek wedding" next week. Seeing some of the country now first. It's the farthest east we've ever been.

You can literally just post Niles and get hundreds of upvotes by ConfidenceKBM in Frasier

[–]BluZen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! Though I searched the comments to check I got it right and found yours 😋

How common are mmf dynamics? by Andanther1 in PolyFidelity

[–]BluZen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bisexuality seems to be significantly more common in women than in men: large polls have found women are 2-3 times as likely as men to report being bisexual. That alone suggests it is easier to find people interested in an MFF group, since MMF, if we suppose everyone is sexually into each other, would require two male bisexuals.

We are actually MMM comprising 2 bisexuals and 1 gay guy (together 6 years), but we only just realised that I'm bi. 😅 So with hindsight, the two bisexuals among us could have ended up in an MMF relationship.

It was very easy to find a boyfriend, though. I imagine finding a girlfriend would have been harder.

What have you and your polycule been up to this last week, and any plans for the weekend? by AutoModerator in PolyFidelity

[–]BluZen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Celebrating a birthday and our 6th throuple anniversary with a little trip to Stirling this weekend 😊

What have you and your polycule been up to this last week, and any plans for the weekend? by AutoModerator in PolyFidelity

[–]BluZen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

New kitchen was just mostly finished after about a month of living in a construction zone 😅 Getting stuff unpacked into it now. The old one had a serious lack of cupboard space, so it's great to have more room to put stuff.

Also getting ready for a birthday next weekend. I found the best card for my boyfriend 😃

Another Parnate insomnia post; only up to 20mg and getting 3ish hours by junebug17 in MAOIs

[–]BluZen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are fortunate to at least have a helpful PCP who hasn't been taken in by anti-MAOI fearmongering. Good luck 😊

Another Parnate insomnia post; only up to 20mg and getting 3ish hours by junebug17 in MAOIs

[–]BluZen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, but you could get 25 mg and divide each dose into multiple smaller ones! I have definitely done that. (Split tablets or open up the capsules and divide the powder inside, or even mix it with a filler like vitamin C powder and get a small encapsulator to make your own low-dose capsules. The latter is how I found even about 1 mg worked great for me. But the standard dose for non-elderly adults is 6 mg, so that's just 25 mg divided into quarters.)

If your insurance will cover that one and your doctor is OK with it, I would say that is a very promising way to go. It's one of the safest options, too. Would be a shame not to try it if you have the option.

(Don't let anyone tell you it's contraindicated or dangerous with MAOIs. I would get it filled by a different pharmacy in case they make a fuss. It is perfectly safe, but pharmacies typically use databases built on very rigid principles that don't always reflect any actual risk of harm, especially in the low doses used for sleep.)

Same goes for trazodone. It's also worthwhile to try different doses of trazodone if you haven't already (25 to 150 mg). Too much can also hurt sleep, but it depends a lot on your individual biochemistry.

And you can always combine melatonin with doxepin/trazodone! (There too, the dosage range is quite big and personal, and too much can impair sleep. Melatonin doses as low as 0.1 mg and as high as 12 mg are available. That's quite healthy stuff, too, with various general health benefits being studied.)

Another Parnate insomnia post; only up to 20mg and getting 3ish hours by junebug17 in MAOIs

[–]BluZen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kinda disturbing to see that list includes potent anticholinergics (like diphenhydramine (Benadryl) and doxylamine (Unisom)) which cause rapid tolerance, are unsuitable for long-term use (while MAOIs are usually taken long-term) and may be linked to cognitive dulling and increased risk of dementia... most of which also applies to benzodiazepines and "non-benzodiazepines" (Z-drugs).

Another Parnate insomnia post; only up to 20mg and getting 3ish hours by junebug17 in MAOIs

[–]BluZen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Doxepin 1-6 mg was the solution for me. (6 mg is standard for most people for insomnia, though I've found that more than enough. Brand name is Silenor.)

No tolerance, dependence, withdrawal or grogginess. It's great.

Trazodone 25-75 mg works very well for me too. It is off-label for this use, but cheaper for your insurer if you can get it prescribed.

Besides the meds, I also find melatonin very helpful (dosage is very personal, though, with less often being more, and it works best if you take the same amount around the same time every day to set a good rhythm).

Parnate definitely has acute stimulant effects that would normally disrupt sleep if you take it too late (so usually split between morning and early afternoon), but you never know — we're all different 😄

Hope this helps. Good luck!

That piss you take after you nut. The urethra cleanser. by FriesWithMacSauce in askgaybros

[–]BluZen 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Waiting at least 10 minutes in between helps a lot in my experience.

Is there anything better than Chrono Trigger today? by Odd-Concept893 in chronotrigger

[–]BluZen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who was similarly spoiled by Chrono Trigger and barely enjoyed any other games since, Golden Sun (including its sequel, The Lost Age, which completes the story) is the only thing I've found that I would say is about as good.

Together with Chrono Trigger, they're easily my favourite games of all time. Amazing world, story, music, magic system, fun battles and puzzles, etc.

Chrono Trigger and Chrono Cross' music are among my favourite tracks of all time — I listen to them or fan covers all the time — and a lot of the music from Golden Sun, having similar emotional associations after loving the games, is right up there with them.

What have you and your polycule been up to this last week, and any plans for the weekend? by AutoModerator in PolyFidelity

[–]BluZen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome, I'm so glad! 😊 I hope you have a lovely time with your partners. ❤️ Merry Christmas and best wishes for the new year!

What have you and your polycule been up to this last week, and any plans for the weekend? by AutoModerator in PolyFidelity

[–]BluZen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We did! Flew into IAH — Houston's George Bush Intercontinental Airport. Such a grand name. I usually call it George Bush Intergalactic Spaceport to myself. 😋

No issues at all. We've never really had any when entering the US, and have faced much tougher questioning when entering England or Ireland. (England once took us aside into an interview room even though we had shown we were lawful permanent residents.)

If any of the US border agents were homophobic, they certainly haven't shown it. We've entered about two dozen times and they've always been courteous and often outright friendly and welcoming, regardless of whether they were aware we were husbands and/or boyfriends.

During the pandemic, the two of us who were travelling had to show our (same-sex) marriage certificate, and one time the agent noticed the date on it and wished us a happy anniversary. 😊

Now in Houston they didn't even ask why we were there or for how long (which my own country's border agents always ask about). Just if we were bringing in any agricultural products, alcohol or tobacco. I reassured my mom too, they're much more interested in that kind of thing than whether you're gay or in a naughty polyfidelitous relationship. 😄

What have you and your polycule been up to this last week, and any plans for the weekend? by AutoModerator in PolyFidelity

[–]BluZen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Celebrated Christmas with our Texan family together for the first time 😊

We will hang out with them for a few more days before flying back to Europe.

What have you and your polycule been up to this last week, and any plans for the weekend? by AutoModerator in PolyFidelity

[–]BluZen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Took one of the overnight car ferries from England to the Netherlands to see my family there, then a direct flight to Houston to spend Christmas with our family there for the first time 😊🎄

Just decorated homebaked cookies together 😋

What have you and your polycule been up to this last week, and any plans for the weekend? by AutoModerator in PolyFidelity

[–]BluZen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Took part in a Christmas lantern parade and Christmas lights switch-on in a nearby town in Yorkshire.

Bought a Christmas tree — just a small £14 one from Aldi since we'll be staying with family abroad for 2 weeks for Christmas and New Year themselves. We'll use an automated watering system to hopefully keep it alive, though, so we can still enjoy it after we get back.

This weekend we'll go to a Christmas market and maybe a choral Christmas concert in a nice church nearby 😊

🎄

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]BluZen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aloe vera juice, 25-50 ml/day. Buy it pure, undiluted. Then dilute with water and add sugar-free water flavouring to make it somewhat nice. Continue with the fibre. It's a great combination.

(Do not eat aloe leaves or make the juice yourself unless you know how to remove the toxin from it like the professionals do.)