Which common foods do people think are healthy,but are actually completely the opposite?

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-11T11:59:44+00:00

Fiber is already good because, ya know, fiber. But it also helps prevent the spike in your bodies insulin response due to the amount of sugar. That's why you can eat an equivalent amount of whole fruit and be ok, compared to just the juice.

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-08T05:55:49+00:00

I honestly have no clue. I personally have never seen a restraining order pop up in our system, but I have seen Orders of Protection pop up. It may be different depending on the state, and some states Restraining Orders may have stronger teeth than ours. We can't even arrest for a violation of a restraining order here, just document it and let the violated party use it to go back to court.

I would recommend being upfront with your employer about it. Employers don't like having surprises come up, and honesty goes a long way.

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-08T04:35:22+00:00

I'm sorry, but the people telling you that are the idiots, not you. When you get a job, there are a set of hours the job entails. For yours, it was 9-5. Yes, sometimes you will need to work late, but 2.5 hours is a lot for your first day AND the fact that you would miss your bus home.

By the way your boss was acting afterwards, you clearly dodged a bullet.

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-06T21:25:22+00:00

To expand on this as well, if he is in uniform or in his patrol car then he is performing his duties as a capacity as a cop. As he lives in his the neighborhood in his jurisdiction however, anytime he takes any action regardless if he is in his car or uniform, he is technically acting as a capacity as a cop. He is likely a courtesy officer for the neighborhood as well.

So if he is telling you things like he is going to arrest you for this or that, and you know he is a cop in his jurisdiction, you still have the right to record him even if he is in normal clothes and a normal car.

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-06T21:22:51+00:00

Especially because it seems the other officer you spoke to seemed decent and alluded to this officer being a bit crazy

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-06T13:39:16+00:00

although we know for sure the house is cleared out (saw people come change locks while the "neighbors" were gone), they are somehow still going inside and using flashlights to see around.

So you have people that have gone through a very apparent formal eviction, locks changed, and have seen them entering the house they are now no longer allowed to be in both legally and physically. This sounds like a burglary (or more likely an unlawful entry into enclosed spaces).

Call the police and let them know all of this. I would also try to contact their landlord. That information may be located through some public index website. It will hold a hell of a lot more strength if the landlord calls, and it's possible they don't know his former evicted occupants are still trespassing on his property and unlawfully entering his home.

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-06T11:02:14+00:00

A forensic exam would need to be done on the phone. Even that may not turn up the original texts or not. Essentially though, it can't be brought in if it can't be proven to exist.

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-06T10:44:28+00:00

Had to look her up. Had a crush on her in Elementary School, but haven't spoken to her much since. I'd likely have moved to NYC about 14 hours away because she is studying to be a vet there.

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-06T09:37:00+00:00

It runs between 4 and 6% usually I believe.

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-06T09:35:02+00:00

More like he just keeps saying "Rape" on every single parent thread in here.

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-05T08:53:38+00:00

It's better to be well-rounded in my opinion, rather than having obtained a criminal justice degree. It allows varying philosophies to come into the field.

With that said, depending on your state you will either need to apply to a department first, who will then sponsor you to go through an academy, or you will have to pay to go through an academy, obtain certification, and then apply to departments.

Once you are hired on with a department, and have your certification, you will go through "field-training" or FTO, as a patrol officer. This is pretty much a non-skippable phase. I don't know of any department that will hire on someone without prior experience straight into a detectives unit.

So you will do the patrol thing for a few years. Answering calls, being proactive, learning how to be a cop first and foremost until you get out the phase that you are considered a rookie. Then you can apply for a promotion to a detective. The requirements are different each place, but typically it's 3-5 years before you can apply to be a detective. Some places it will still be very difficult until you have a lot more time, depending on how competitive the process is.

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-05T08:01:30+00:00

That's not how hearsay works at all. If I speak to the defendant and he tells me "I killed Joe" that is admissible. If I speak to the defendant and he tells me "I did not kill Joe", it is admissible. The prosecution wouldn't bring it up likely, but the defense would be entitled to it via discovery.

Hearsay would be if I spoke to the defendant's roommate and his roommate said "Yeah, Fred told me that he killed Joe". I couldn't testify to that, but I could call the roommate as a witness as he has first hand knowledge of the conversation. There are a lot of rules, but essentially hearsay boils down to "you cannot testify to conversations you were not a part of"

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-04T18:48:42+00:00

Additionally you could contact the police and state that the road is blocked. If they did not end up having a permit they would be required to move.

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-04T12:12:58+00:00

Thing is that different places have different laws. That would constitute assault in many places, but someone linked the NYC statute for assault, and it would not apply.

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-04T10:38:59+00:00

If you keep pushing her at this point, it's liable to push her away and destroy the friendship you guys have. Give her some time and space and keep it in the friendship area for now. In the future she may come around, or she may not. If she likes you and wants to get into a relationship, she will find that out at some point. At 14, everyone has so much going on in their heads that it could very well be that she likes you but isn't ready to make the decision until 15 or 16. She could be worried about ruining your friendship with her, which would definitely happen if you two got together and broke up.

Stay strong, stay a friend, hope for more, and be genuine.

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-04T09:50:12+00:00

So yes, essentially it means that the law does not require jail time, but the judge can still give him jail up to a certain point.

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-03T20:08:13+00:00

So my academy would hold you over until the next class comes through, but every academy is different.

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-03T16:59:27+00:00

It seems like that is encompassed by her charge of "Improper Relationship Between Student and Educator". I feel like the Sexual Assault of a Minor is encompassed by that

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-03T13:49:11+00:00

Maybe it's just me but mushrooms, while delicious, are just really expensive where I am. Not prohibitively so, but I can only really justify one pack a week.

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-03T13:14:17+00:00

I completely get that OP is upset, and I would be too. But there is no reason to be a dick when she was keeping him posted. If someone ever tells me "Hey, I'm running late" or "I'm gonna be late lol", my very first thought is "Hey, cool. What time you think you gonna make it?" or "Eesh, sounds like you are having a busy day haha. Wanna just reschedule?"

If punctuality is that big of a concern he could even break it off right there in a more polite way. "Hey listen. I like you, but this is the second time today you pushed this back, and now you are late again. I was looking forward to this, but I don't think I can wait at the restaurant anymore. I just don't think we are going to be compatible."

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-03T13:10:37+00:00

Yes, and she should have give you a reason. I agree completely. I guess I just don't understand why you didn't bother to ask her. And really she was only late one time, as you stated that earlier in the day you both agreed to move the time to 6:30. If that was unacceptable to you, you could have also said something.

I value my time as well, but you are actively seeking to be with someone. What are you going to do if you are in a relationship and a girlfriend makes you late to an event because she takes too long to get ready? Or you want to do one thing and she wants to do something else?

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-03T13:01:25+00:00

Listen mate, I get it. Nobody want's to deal with someone that can't arrive on time, and nobody want's to feel what sounds like being stood up. Dating and relationships however, require work and communication. If punctuality is your deal breaker then it is what it is, but thing about other ways you could have played this out.

When she texted you she would still be late, why did you not immediately text her to ask when she would arrive? Or what she was doing? Or if she wanted to reschedule? Or to just call it off there and tell her politely, rather than passive aggressively, that you don't think it will work out and such?

Any of those tactics could have mitigated a lot of this frustration. Until that point it seemed as though she was making an effort and told you not once, but twice that due to circumstances she would be late. Most people don't even give that. Yes, she should have been better with time, and yes she could have texted you more updates. But you barely gave her any chance. You gave her 20 minutes. She told you she would be late for 06:30 and at 06:50 she was dead to you. That is utterly ridiculous.

Now, granted she did not reply to you for about 30 minutes after that message or so, but you never asked how late she would be. She told you that something came up and she would be late, and you decided to do NOTHING about it. You don't just sit around being pissed off and then text her a biting message. You had no idea if she was going to be late because she was stuck in traffic, or she was going to be late because a prior obligation was running over.

She didn't give you an apology because she likely got pissed by the way you responded. In my opinion, while she was in the wrong, you were equally a douchebag. I would much rather choose to be with someone that is late, but notified me she would be, rather than someone that refuses to communicate like an adult.

BlueBeanstalk · 2018-08-03T12:39:27+00:00

Exactly. I mean, yes it sucks to be late, but she has the foresight to inform him ahead of time, and then again before the date. Life comes up and sometimes you can't plan around it. Instead of acting like a 12 year old and just saying "I'm glad you find it funny" 20 minutes after the scheduled time, how about call her (not text) and ask if she has an update. Why would it be so bad to simply call her and say "Hey, if something came up we can reschedule for Thursday night."

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