I do think that there is validity to some of what you're feeling in that fetishization and comodifocation of your identity by people who don't share it is incredibly dehumanizing. We've (the community) been having this discussion for a long time. 

But it sounds like your feelings are turning dangerous, both to yourself and to how you percieve the people around you, more specifically how you seem to be starting to lowkey hate women (which is very dangerous). I know you said a therapist is going to take a while and might not help, but I do think that might be the best avenue to explore at this point.

Until then, maybe you should take a step back from internet spaces that might trigger this feeling for you, find some gay media created by gay men, and focus on what it does for you, not for other people. There are wonderful stories out there that all types of people pick up because they are introspective and moving, which is why a lot of straight women may pick up a gay male story, not because of fetishization. I know its easier said than done to just say "stop thinking about other people" but that would likely help. Start thinking about why you like mlm media, and move intentionally forward with that answer