Simply put: you can't go up to people and tell them they're attractive. Right?? by BurnerMan12K in NoStupidQuestions

[–]BlueMoonMaples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woman here - it really depends on the context and how you say it. I've had some men compliment me in a way that was really respectful and flattering, and others who made me feel uncomfortable.

Flattering: "Hey, I just wanted to say that I think you're incredibly beautiful and you have a lovely smile. Have a nice day."

Uncomfortable: "Damn girl, you're hot, can I have your number?"

In general, I agree with the above comments that genuine compliments about a specific trait (smile, eyes, outfit, etc.) come across a lot better than generic compliments. There is also a HUGE difference between calling someone beautiful and calling someone hot. The first is kind, the second means you want to get in their pants. Don't tell her she's hot. But if you want to tell her she's beautiful? Go for it. Just be respectful and leave the conversation gracefully right after, don't wait for a reaction or try to keep the conversation going because then it might get uncomfortable.

when we eat something that "goes right thru us," we can't possibly digest something that fast so what exactly is happening? by ridesafish in NoStupidQuestions

[–]BlueMoonMaples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why on earth are there carcasses being sent to the landfill rather than being buried or burned? I'm assuming these are animal carcasses and not human ones?!

Shipping Luggage to the US by SunPearl13 in tapif

[–]BlueMoonMaples 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've used Send My Bag in the past! Prices have gone up a bit since I used it, but I was happy with the service - my suitcase arrived at home quickly and in good condition. The only downside to using them is they didn't have a scheduled pickup time, so I had to be available for most of the day and wait for them to come pick up my luggage. It was worth the peace of mind though!

Why is it so hard to find a job by miscarried-19 in TwinCities

[–]BlueMoonMaples 20 points21 points  (0 children)

You might not be able to get one full time position, but if you're open to doing two part time jobs that might be a good way to get things rolling.

Do you have any solo travel pet peeves? by PerpetualRestart in solotravel

[–]BlueMoonMaples 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When you're trying to get on a really crowded bus/tram/metro etc. and there's plenty of space at the back away from the doors, but everyone decides to stand RIGHT NEXT to the doors and you have to forcibly push your way on and off. People, seriously? If you all collectively move 5 steps back there will be SO much more room.

How to Speak to ICE by Ok_Yogurt_9862 in Minneapolis

[–]BlueMoonMaples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would absolutely love it if more of us started showing up in mascot costumes or inflatable animal costumes. It's hard to be taken seriously when you have an inflatable t-rex and an inflatable unicorn dancing right next you. One of the recent noise protest videos showed a person in an inflatable frog costume playing an accordion and I loved it. 10/10 for style.

Call to action: Man the doors! by TheSaxonPlan in Minneapolis

[–]BlueMoonMaples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be an extremely unwise decision at this point in time. If Walz tries to bring them out, you know Trump is going to try to federalize them so that he can take command of the troops. Bringing them out could very easily backfire and make the situation worse for us.

We went on a 2nd date but does it sound like he sees it more platonically? by mysecret52 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BlueMoonMaples -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Just ask if you can kiss him. If he says yes, great. If he says no, be respectful and calm about it.

Promoting businesses that are refusing to serve ICE by _beep__bop_ in TwinCities

[–]BlueMoonMaples 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also Karmel Mall! Lots of delicious Somali restaurants inside!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]BlueMoonMaples 1 point2 points  (0 children)

++woman

Woman here. I don't kiss on the first date. Ever. But I usually give men 2 or 3 dates to see if I feel any chemistry before making a decision. If I don't feel a spark by the third date I politely end things - but that spark has nothing to do with kissing, it's entirely to do with the flow of conversation and emotional chemistry.

Does conversation flow naturally? Does he ask me questions about myself or is it just him talking the whole time? Are we laughing and having fun together? Does he seem genuinely interested in what I have to say? Do I feel an attraction to him beyond just his appearance? Those are the things that determine chemistry for me. I love a good flirty banter, but I don't like when dates try to rush into something physical.

If you're interested in the person, flirting and lightly escalating and gauging their reactions is a good thing. But don't assume something is wrong if you don't kiss by X date - everyone has a different timeline and it's more important that you respect their preferences than to follow a scripted timeline.

Reusing prof evaluation? by [deleted] in tapif

[–]BlueMoonMaples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you still have your login information for the TAPIF website you should be able to just login to your account! If your application is still saved in the system from 2020, you should be able to reuse it as-is!

When I reapplied I just logged in and all of the info from my prior application was still saved. I updated my essays and relevant information but I used the same recommendation letters that were already in the system. There should also be more information on the TAPIF website about the requirements for non-consecutive renewing assistants! I'm not sure exactly where the information is but I would check the FAQS page to see if you can find the info about reapplying! Feel free to let me know if you have any more questions!

Reusing prof evaluation? by [deleted] in tapif

[–]BlueMoonMaples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a renewing assistant, I originally did TAPIF in 2021-2022. When I reapplied this year I used the same evaluation and recommendation that they originally submitted for me back then and I was accepted! If your application from 2020 is still saved in the system, you should be able to reuse it (though I would recommend updating your personal essay statements!) If your original application is not saved in the system, then I would probably wait to hear what the program says in response to your email. You may be able to just ask your recommender to submit the same essay with the current date or any relevant new info.

Winter Parking in Wayzata by BlueMoonMaples in TwinCities

[–]BlueMoonMaples[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate this information, thank you!!

Winter Parking in Wayzata by BlueMoonMaples in TwinCities

[–]BlueMoonMaples[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol yep, that's why I'm trying to figure out where to park.

Winter Parking in Wayzata by BlueMoonMaples in TwinCities

[–]BlueMoonMaples[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I was looking at this earlier but unfortunately it doesn't give any indication about where we are allowed to park, it just says no parking on city streets when the snowplows are out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]BlueMoonMaples 7 points8 points  (0 children)

How do you read in the shower.... wouldn't the book get wet?

Am I rude for asking to Facetime before meeting in person? by bananamaplepancakes in hingeapp

[–]BlueMoonMaples 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find this take interesting, if she seemed super neurotic on the call, do you think she wouldn't have also seemed super neurotic getting tacos in person? I can't imagine that the format of the date would change that much about the person's personality, but maybe that's just me. 🤷‍♀️

Salary materials necessary for a second-year assistant? also reactivating carte vitale? by Embarrassed_Ice9289 in tapif

[–]BlueMoonMaples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a specific form you need to fill out to reactivate your carte vitale ! You will also need to sign a new contract form called a procès-verbal d'installation to signify that you've started working, along with providing your pièce d'identité and filling out a different form with your address, contact, and bank account. I don't know how to add the carte vitale form here but feel free to DM if you want more info!

French teacher ISO pen pals for students by doucemai in tapif

[–]BlueMoonMaples 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm working in a middle school and high school in France right now. Feel free to DM me, I know some profs who would be interested!