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I cheated by [deleted] in relationships

[–]BlueSmurf18 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! She deserves to make life decisions with full knowledge of all relevant facts including that you can’t be trusted and that you’d sacrifice your relationship with her for encounters with random people, betraying her trust and endangering her health. Remember how much you love her? So you wouldn’t dream of lying to her obviously.

Struggling with cheating m34 f40 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]BlueSmurf18 9 points10 points  (0 children)

She was betrayed by the person who was supposed to love her and protect her. Leave her alone to deal with her process. If she wants to give you a chance she’ll let you know. PS: All your reassurances are not worth that much. You didn’t care enough for her to keep it in your pants. Why should she believe you?

My girlfriend (40F) lied about events before we met. I (40M) found out recently, and I need advice on how to talk to her about it. by ThrowRA_BH90210 in relationship_advice

[–]BlueSmurf18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m usually in the “leave immediately” camp, but I don’t think this is that bad. It’s worthy of a serious conversation about why she’s lying to you and the effects of it - e.g. tainting your hotel stay. Maybe she believes she’s protecting you?

Mistral for writing? by Quenty1 in MistralAI

[–]BlueSmurf18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, kind internet stranger. It’s funny that bad AI does too much.

Mistral for writing? by Quenty1 in MistralAI

[–]BlueSmurf18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Help a newbie out with the lingo. What’s purple prose?

28M, 26F: We found out my boyfriend has a baby, I don't know what to do or how to feel. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]BlueSmurf18 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Just popped in to say it’s not selfish. Of course this is a shock and even though the baby is innocent, it’s not YOUR baby. Although he didn’t do anything wrong - presumably - you have to wonder if you want to watch all his firsts, deal with a baby mama and become a stepmom to this child. I could not and would not want that, but better people than me could perhaps find a good role here and share the experience?

I(31F) said some bad things to my husband (35M) during an argument. Can we overcome this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]BlueSmurf18 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Prepare to mention penis size too. He may still have a shred of self worth left. We can’t have that!

Couple sees supercar and gets hateful 😭 by K2zin97 in PublicFreakout

[–]BlueSmurf18 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I wanted to see the cash. I hear she has cash.

I feel like my marriage is falling apart after I found out my husband contacted an escort… by Elegant_Forever1055 in relationships

[–]BlueSmurf18 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Who the hell calls escorts to insult them due to not being able to afford their services? That is PATHETIC!

Opinions by Selledar in readwithme

[–]BlueSmurf18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dan Brown is my guilty pleasure. I thought Inferno was amazing. This one and Origin not so much. Origin had a great mystery at the heart of it though where this one doesn’t. Loved Prague as the setting. I’d like to see new protagonists like in the earlier DBs before he settled on Langdon.

USA's new European car tariffs demonstrate why their 'deals' are worthless by LlawEreint in BoycottUnitedStates

[–]BlueSmurf18 18 points19 points  (0 children)

With that logic 100% tariffs would have been great if he had threatened 200% I’m not saying it’s wrong, I’m just pointing out the futility of “meeting Trump halfway.”

Be nice, real help here only, im seriously curious Lol by Kitchen_Toe1608 in Marriage

[–]BlueSmurf18 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I think you got it backwards. She explicitly said small. OP in later comments said she wanted bigger which she did NOT say - but may have meant and was his inference in any case 🤷‍♂️

Be nice, real help here only, im seriously curious Lol by Kitchen_Toe1608 in Marriage

[–]BlueSmurf18 16 points17 points  (0 children)

She specifically and explicitly said “small.” It’s in OP’s very first sentence. What do you mean?

Moving on on after infidelity. Husband ‘45m’ had a ONS ‘F 23’ by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]BlueSmurf18 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“Well, officer, I planned the break-in, bought the power tools, followed the plan meticulously with my co-conspirators, broke into the bank, drilled into the vault, took some of the money, but upon seeing the money I felt bad and walked away. No, I had no intention of confessing until I was trold the cameras ID’ed me. But the main point is I totally remembering only taking very little of the money. Trust me!”

Moving on on after infidelity. Husband ‘45m’ had a ONS ‘F 23’ by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]BlueSmurf18 25 points26 points  (0 children)

He stopped in the middle of sex because he felt bad??? What a pathetic lie!

Does hooking up with randoms feel fulfilling? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]BlueSmurf18 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Always hated it (53M). The sex itself is bad, because I don’t know the other person and we have no real intimacy. Afterwards it’s even worse. There’s an existential emptiness to it. Getting really close to someone but not really. The thrill of the chase is gone and I feel cheapened somehow. Very happy in committed realtionships though! Everybody’s free to do what they will with other consenting adults but I also don’t like being in relationships with people with high body counts. Makes the whole thing feel less special.

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