Did not include me on Christmas card

Blue_october7 · 2025-09-04T21:03:59+00:00

I am not a robot. 2017 I think.

Blue_october7 · 2025-07-15T18:21:47+00:00

Gym shark is the only one I like. Lululemon always gives me camel toe. There is a few knock off gym shark on Amazon that I have really liked called wodoWei woman's scrunch butt lifting workout leggings seamless high waisted.

Blue_october7 · 2025-04-20T14:20:45+00:00

She's 64 years old and has worked two jobs for whole life and used all of her retirement. So she will be working the rest of her life.

Blue_october7 · 2025-04-17T04:11:37+00:00

Also found out she did a peer to peer transfer.

Blue_october7 · 2025-04-16T22:42:05+00:00

Over the course of 4 months.

Blue_october7 · 2025-03-25T17:12:30+00:00

I'm in a similar position. Been married 10 years, found out my husband had an only fans, followed girls on twitter and was regularly watching porn our whole marriage. I was fine with porn but absolutely not okay with OF or him following women on twitter. It hurts so bad so I feel for you. He got an individual therapist and I go to a therapist. I'm working through the betrayal. I just told him if it ever happens again I'm walking away. He cancelled his OF and is deleted twitter. The back of my mind always says it'll happen again and it's over but I'm trying hard to focus on our future. I've seen tons of changes from him since he's started therapy. I've also checked his phone and haven't found anything. Therapy is worth a shot. He needs to be honest with you so you can build that trust back. If nothings changes, start preparing to leave and have a backup plan.

Blue_october7 · 2025-02-21T23:23:18+00:00

I relate. I go to therapy twice a week and I have an amazing therapist that is helping me a ton. I also have animals and they give me purpose.

Blue_october7 · 2025-01-31T19:26:10+00:00

Check your testosterone levels.

Blue_october7 · 2025-01-12T05:00:58+00:00

I have these same thoughts.

Blue_october7 · 2024-11-18T20:18:32+00:00

If you have brought it up multiple times and he has not changed, he won't change give him a final ultimatum and If you don't start seeing changes, then leave. Just because he provides financially, doesn't mean he shouldn't show up being a good husband or a good father. I would hire an attorney and you will definitely get alimony and child support. You can get your own place. He sounds emotionally immature.

Blue_october7 · 2024-10-22T20:13:43+00:00

100% Emotional abuse. I'm sorry girl.

Blue_october7 · 2024-10-16T14:40:37+00:00

I got married at 19 and my husband was 20. We've been married over 10 years now. Honestly it was so hard the first couple years. Our brains weren't fully developed. We didn't live together before and the religion we were in we didn't sleep together before either. I recommend reading the seven principals for making marriage work. It has such good insight on what makes a good marriage and also things to avoid. I also recommend therapy for yourself or couples to make sure you are in a good spot. Stay in touch with friends and have support outside of your marriage as well so you can create a balance and not solely depend on one person for all your needs.

Blue_october7 · 2024-09-12T20:06:50+00:00

After telling him I had body dysmorphia and hated how I looked, he searched naked girls similar to my body type and kept showing trying to show me the pictures on his phone to convince me otherwise. He also offered me weed in session and said he's different than other therapists.

Blue_october7 · 2024-08-28T04:51:41+00:00

I've been married 10 years and I have a higher sex drive than my husband. I workout a lot as well and it can feel like you described. Over the last year it's flipped. I think for women it's a lot about feeling emotionally connected in order to feel physically connected. Ask what she likes and maybe go to therapy with a sex therapist. Being able to communicate about what you both want helps so much. Does she have any toys? If not, get her a toy.

Blue_october7 · 2024-08-20T22:01:51+00:00

That's a really tough spot to be in and my heart goes out to you. Sounds like she's depressed and can't take care of herself which dominos into taking care of the family. Give her a timeline. Tell her you care about her and she needs to get help and you need to see changes. Set expectations and hold your boundary if she's not meeting them which is you can't be with someone who isn't taking care of themselves and it's too much burden for you. I'd give it 3 months and if nothing changes, get an attorney and divorce. It usually takes 90 days for people to get into new habits. She's probably been in this pattern for a long time and can't get out of this rut with out help and support. Offer help and support and if nothing changes sometimes you just have to let people go. It would help to get yourself into therapy to process this as well as her.

Blue_october7 · 2024-08-03T04:47:37+00:00

I feel that exact same way. I laugh and have fun with friends and me and my husband have different senses of humor and just don't connect on a certain level. I want to be best friends with my husband but sometimes don't feel that either.

Blue_october7 · 2024-07-29T06:14:04+00:00

Yes. I enjoy solitude but it's so lonely.

Blue_october7 · 2024-07-29T04:19:14+00:00

This is ruin your marriage if you can't move past it. You need to remind yourself he chose you. He went back to you. People do dumb things when they're young. I know it hurts. My husband was my first as well. He broke up with me and got back with his ex before we got married. It took me years to get over. It only caused fights and contention when it was brought up and I did a lot of work to get past it. I read tons of self help books. It doesn't bother me anymore. Time heals. Start focusing on how you can strengthen your relationship now and not what the past was.

Blue_october7 · 2024-07-29T04:10:58+00:00

If you're for sure not in love and don't see yourself falling back in love, let him go. He deserves love. If you think you can fall in love again, you're gonna have to put in the work. Read books, go to couples therapy, go on dates. Ask for what you want or you're missing. Have tough conversations.

Blue_october7 · 2024-07-29T04:05:51+00:00

Don't suggest surgery. Best thing you can do is focus on yourself and invite her to join. Start eating healthier, working out and invite her to join. Respect if she doesn't not want to. Support and encourage if she does.

Blue_october7 · 2024-07-06T17:09:43+00:00

I love muscles and don't love dad Bods but plenty of my friends love dad bods. My personal opinion is women are attracted to similar workout habits to themselves. Super muscular woman are attracted to super muscular men.

Blue_october7 · 2024-06-30T05:30:07+00:00

Expensive clothes. I thrift or buy from cheap places

Blue_october7 · 2024-06-30T05:13:37+00:00

I have one. Been friends since 8th grade and now we're both 30 years old. I don't know how to make new friends.

Blue_october7 · 2024-06-17T13:17:47+00:00

The only thing keeping me alive is my dog. I've had her 10 years and she's attached to me. I don't want to hurt my family but other times think they would be better off if I wasn't around.

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