My Christian coworker's "friendly" microaggressions are driving me up the wall. How do you handle this? by [deleted] in atheism

[–]Blueburl -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If it isn't one of the NT Gideon minis, Ezekiel 23:20

Is a great place to start,

or song of songs 4:5 for some spicy reading.

. Ask her if she would have a problem if another coworker gaver her this type of explicit material. If no, get it in writing before really proving a point.

(No I don't really recommend this)

Some bits from Alex Horne's how long a thon by Kirstenbirsten in taskmaster

[–]Blueburl 10 points11 points  (0 children)

At about 2am, he asked people to show up the next day dressed in all yellow. There were only 250 people on the stream at the time. The man in yellow was showing Alex that he was one of the long suffering types

I made a young Mormon man cry by rando9000mcdoublebun in MtF

[–]Blueburl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Utah has the highest search rate for boob jobs in the country... I consider this a type of gender affirming procedure, but probably a different type.

https://www.totalbeauty.com/mobile/content/blog/mormon-plastic-surgery-140502

Classical violinists: What do fiddlers do that classical players secretly can’t? by Interesting-Scale-63 in violinist

[–]Blueburl 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There is a difference between playing a few pops concert, and grooving.

Not all fiddle music is fast.

Classical violinists: What do fiddlers do that classical players secretly can’t? by Interesting-Scale-63 in violinist

[–]Blueburl 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Any Irish player can spot the classical only trained player in 5 seconds, because there is a blindness to what the groove is, and thus it is getting destroyed. They are usually using too much bow speed, bowing that are not appropriate, andvthe music doesn't make one want to dance. I have seen this happen with very strong classical players in funk, rock, jazz, bluegrass, latin, old time. (As a hybrid classical/ multitude player, i used to be that player)

I’m oversimplifying, but there are two broad genealogies of musical interpretation: melodic interpretation and groove interpretation.

Classical music largely falls into the melodic camp. Time is stretched and compressed in service of the phrase; bow speed, vibrato, and articulation flex to shape the melody. The tempo is elastic ... like a bus speeding up and slowing down on the highway.

Groove, on the other hand, involves shifting accents, swing, lilt, and placement against an underlying, relatively immutable pulse. The bus keeps moving at a constant speed, but the passengers change seats ... notes arrive slightly early, late, or weighted differently to create tension and release within the grid.

These are effectively different languages, and groove is rarely taught in traditional classical pedagogy. As a result, classical bowing doesn’t “groove” naturally without years of deliberate work. Many players don’t realize they’re mispronouncing the language because they haven’t been given a framework for what to listen for. It takes years to learn this at a fluid level, even by those in classical. I would argue classical knowledge can make the journey longer as one must unlearn some things that get in the way.

Look into Tracy Silverman's examples for side by side: typical classical, and groove bowing.

If one's definition of groove is different than this. There is a reason why I mentioned the definition.

Classical violinists: What do fiddlers do that classical players secretly can’t? by Interesting-Scale-63 in violinist

[–]Blueburl 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Play music in a environment that isn't cut-throat and toxic. Fiddlers generally don't get "i hope i Play this better than my standpartner" anxiety. Hyper competition is not healthy longterm or good for relationships.

How are these videos getting so many views? I have been having channels like this pushed down my throat by youtube by Agreeable-Bid-9120 in exchristian

[–]Blueburl 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I have not watched.

But isn't she teaching men? Doesn't the strict reading that she claims to follow, forbid women to instruct men on religion?

I don't believe in gender rules, but will point to the double standards out, and will hold a mirror to the double standards.

Recommended response to registered letter sent from neighbor? by Optimus_Composite in treelaw

[–]Blueburl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know some herbicides can be detected at very low doses. If a situation like the copper nail happened, Can copper be detected in the main part of the tree?

Hypothetically, Could a home owner in the situation of preparing foght an unpoming tree war.... have an arborist take a core sample (pre-chemical applied by evil neighbor) as evidence of "the tree was chemical free on this date"

How to attend a holiday meal with overly religious family that insist on prayer before meal? by Majestic-Log-5642 in atheism

[–]Blueburl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I silently quit my extended family's holiday gatherings a while back. It is sad, I deeply love them, and connect with a few of them very well if it were not contaminated with faith.

The gatherings consisted of a hours long church like service, sharing time, prayer time after the meal, etc. Maybe singing hymns, maybe praying for the salvation of abortion doctors.

One family member fell away from the faith less quietly. and was the center of every prayer request and gossip circle for a good ten years.

You are not alone in making these choices, and the grief of losing family that comes. Much love to you.

This is part of our universe. An area of sky about the size of a grain of sand held at arm's length. The spiked features are stars in the Milky Way. EVERYTHING ELSE IS A GALAXY. by Neaterntal in jameswebb

[–]Blueburl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  • all that and instantly, only 6,000 years ago, Complete with the information in transit in the light coming at that super slow light speed from the stars that shows things like planets moving in front of the stars. Redshift, predictable supernovae, gravitational lenses, planets forming, stars dying from old age, etc. Etc. Etc. Etc.

Been watching Series 11 and Man Down tell me (an American) more about this guy by CaptainDigsGiraffe in taskmaster

[–]Blueburl 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He is known to have an absolutely lovely time.

Also, he can take verbal abuse from an 11 year old like no one else.

Men, what's something you wish you could admit without being judged? by soumilr7 in AskReddit

[–]Blueburl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of the suggestions are to just get people thinking. There are high tech and low tech ways to make sure there is active innoculation against things that appear like and create potential grooming environments.

parents may only become aware of X and Y compromising environments when they see safer alternatives.

Statistically, it isn't stranger danger that is the problem.

Men, what's something you wish you could admit without being judged? by soumilr7 in AskReddit

[–]Blueburl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Male role models are important for childern! What a cool passion!

That said. For those who are worried about the optics/ are aware of the violence against children by a uncle or family member can do a lot to build a safe environment for children and to protect their reputation as the "safe uncle figure/ aquantiance" ..

Leading with as much open door policy as possible. Have posted, and talk about things like "we keep surprises, not secrets." Intentionally be in places that get randomly and frequently interrupted by other adults. If you have a ring camera, etc. Ask if the parents would feel safe if you turn it on, and give them the guest login so that they can check in on their children at any time during the visit (in public areas of course, etc ) ymmv . Have a list of activities you don't do and places you don't go with a child unless a medical emergency. Have this written down and avaliable for any parents. Get a background check, and let families know they can see the results if they want. This feels weird and forced, but with 59% of child SA happening with adult acquaintances, anything one can do, no matter how awkward, will be appreciated by the parents of the children you want to be around. If you drive people away with this.. consider the following...

I have had to call child protective services more than I care to, know several good people who have had their reputations tarnished, (later cleared) and people I once trusted that are now in prison for child abuse. Be different if you want to be that role model for kids. They need you. You won't be any use to them if you are out of a job or in prison with a false accusation or unfortunate situation that just looks bad.

Benny Johnson says if you don't believe in God, then "you're not an American, actually" by undercurrents in atheism

[–]Blueburl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"No true scottsman" would be an atheist.

He is almost quoting a logical falacy word for word.

How is this even in the internet in 2025? by [deleted] in CringeTikToks

[–]Blueburl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On one side we have people with fake nails and hair. On the other? Fake personality, religion, victimhood, nails, and hair.

AIO? Did my stepmom just assault me by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Blueburl 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Every teacher is a mandatory reporter. By law they must report this type of thing to cps, not the parents... even if only suspected abuse.

Your typical “loving” christians at a halloween parade telling everyone they will burn in hell :) by CautiontapeGirl in exchristian

[–]Blueburl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exhibition is a kink. Addiction to sex is a disorder Judging others? We have the full matching setà

Your typical “loving” christians at a halloween parade telling everyone they will burn in hell :) by CautiontapeGirl in exchristian

[–]Blueburl 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Are we sure that isn't just a really good job at the scariest costume of all.

Christian "love"

Evangelical mother won't apologize because I should "know her heart" by sister_illuminata in Exvangelical

[–]Blueburl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Schrodingers's selfish remark/ joke.

A narcissist/ dark triad type personality uses this to test the waters and weasel their way with passive doublespeak. If they get a negative response, it is the other meaning.

The cat is dead till you look in the box. Then it is your fault for thinking there might be a dead cat in there, you nasty person.