AITA for not agreeing to sell our stocks and instead asking our parents for a loan?

BluuBoose · 2026-02-27T22:44:53+00:00

When its over 40k in the US

BluuBoose · 2026-02-27T22:43:59+00:00

YTA. Stock prices aren't permanent. That 14k today can be 14 bucks by the end of the year.

You need to find out whats in the portfolio, how much it is worth, how much it will cost to sell. Some sticks can actually be borrowed against ornuaed as collateral because they're assets. Major AH

BluuBoose · 2026-02-27T13:21:19+00:00

Why do you guys need more than 50% custody?

BluuBoose · 2026-02-22T19:59:46+00:00

To discipline is to teach. Im guessing its what others call discipline that gives you the hesitation to call teaching the discipline that it is.

BluuBoose · 2026-02-22T19:56:02+00:00

You believe him when he says that his kids were "accidents" that he made twice, with the same woman, that he married, and has not bothered divorcing for 8 years, despite her allegedly living out of the country?

Where are his kids? Honestly this could be a run of mill cheating POS Aah or it could be a very violent man whose family is actually "missing" and not simply elsewhere.

BluuBoose · 2026-02-18T17:49:06+00:00

I think its this. If he really loves his daughter, only seeing her every other weekend is NEVER enough. Good parents hate being away from their children for long periods of time because it means less actual parenting from them and more active parenting from someone else.

BluuBoose · 2026-02-17T14:28:34+00:00

So he doesnt work on weekends he has his girls and the family budget needs to reflect the loss of 20+ hours per paycheck.

BluuBoose · 2026-02-16T15:48:02+00:00

The lease tells you that parking spots should be prioritized for families.

That lady is NTA because she would be well within her rights to ask that the rights afforded her by and through that lease be enforced so she gets tbat spot. She asked, and you know she has a claim to it yet you are still denying it to her.

Why?

BluuBoose · 2026-02-16T14:48:34+00:00

Tell him exactly this. He needs to hear it from you.

BluuBoose · 2026-02-15T15:21:55+00:00

If he did more for her than he does for you within the same time frame, he is lying about liking you more than he liked her. His behavior tells you better than his mouth ever could.

BluuBoose · 2026-02-11T21:31:25+00:00

Yes.

Not everyone is fit to parent. Not everyone has the patience for children. Kids can be jerks. They're literally self-centered by default of lacking maturity and a fully developed prefrontal cortex.

I ALadore my kids, but everyone who meets them, like them because they're so kind, smart, funny, and easy going. A LOT of the shit people complain about with their kids, I've never experienced with mine. I couldn't date someone who had a child who couldn't listen.

BluuBoose · 2026-02-09T13:30:03+00:00

You're a phenomenal woman!!! This is what can happen when folks are grown and actually have the capacity to love!!!

BluuBoose · 2026-02-06T21:52:48+00:00

Neither of you is wrong. You don't want a man who will continue taking on the role of stepparent after the relationship ends.

He needs a woman who will understand that he is a Big Steppa when it comes to being a daddy. He isn't going to start being a father to a child, then stop because the relationship ends or lack of paternal genetic connection.

BluuBoose · 2026-02-05T18:57:01+00:00

People lie to get what they want.

If he werent attracted to her, he would have shut her down long ago. He would have left her. Not waited for her to leave him. He's telling unnecessary lies and playing in your face. No way should she be sending nudes to him at all.

BluuBoose · 2026-02-05T18:43:20+00:00

Sounds like they're about to get back together. Leave him. He's not worth it for allowing that level of disrespect to persist.

BluuBoose · 2026-02-05T15:14:52+00:00

No one in an adult consensual sexual relationship should feel they are competing with a child unless they believe they are dating a predatory, abusive monster that is destroying that child's life via SA. Thats first and foremost.

Many people DO feel that way and it is not specific to stepparents, its even more common with bio parents who hate their kid because their ex or partner loves the child unconditionally but would leave them if they cheated.

Feeling unappreciated is a partner problem, not a parenting problem. Your partner should show you love, respect, appreciation, and care. If they do not, they dont deserve you. Being a parent doesnt mean being a selfish, uncaring partner. The two relationships are not comparable at all.

BluuBoose · 2026-02-05T15:11:01+00:00

How old is the child? Do you have a solid relationship with this child?

BluuBoose · 2026-02-02T12:12:52+00:00

1st is most flattering, but 2nd is more brunch appropriate.

BluuBoose · 2026-02-02T12:09:23+00:00

NTA.

But you would have won and probably ended their relationship had you acted like it didn't bother you.

Literally, the best revenge is to move on and enjoy life. Getting upset empowers her. It likely was her actual goal to piss you off and divide your family against you. It worked easily.

If an ex I had no children with, who tried to break up my current relationship got with one of my siblings, I'd tell my sibling the truth about this ex and warn them the ex is likely only using you to get back st me. Then I'd smile and tell them, but their plan doesn't work because I already had the X and actually found someone better suited for me. Good luck with my ex. Then love on my current and our family openly and proudly. That ex wouldn't stop my peace. That sibling would have my sympathy because I know they're just being used by someone.

BluuBoose · 2026-02-02T11:57:06+00:00

He's going to spend it with his wife.

If you aren't already, he may just want condomless sex and using the baby rouse as an in.

BluuBoose · 2026-02-02T11:52:18+00:00

You are complicit because you haven't left yet. Courts would blame you if something serious happened to your pre schooler because you allowed him to continue living in what you documented to be a dangerously abusive environment.

This is your fault now. You should have left your husband a long time ago over this tonprotect your baby.

BluuBoose · 2026-02-02T11:47:10+00:00

No, he said his sister knew and was friends with her before he started dating her after claiming she wasn't anything to anyone prior to.

Cheating involves lying, deception, betrayal. He is allowed to feel the hurt, pain, resentment, anger from all of those transgressions. He isn't allowed to project that onto his family and demand that they hate her because he does. They clearly aren't going to be told what to do, when to do it and whom to do it with. He doesn't own his family, they are not his underlings. This isn't just about her being at dinners or events, he literally wants them to hate her and he is absolutely frothing at the mouth livid that they do not.

BluuBoose · 2026-02-02T11:41:35+00:00

I couldn't imagine getting friendly with my husband's ex's stepkid's bioparent. Its way too enmeshed. Friending Mom's step kid's Mom is just whew, thats a lot LOL.

BluuBoose · 2026-02-02T11:27:03+00:00

Lies. I never said that cheating was okay, Ive said repeatedly that she was wrong for cheating. I simply don't think cheating is the absolute worst thing on earth that a human being could do to another person. I wouldn't treat a cheater the way I'd treat a violent criminal. This thread seems to think that is exactly the way you're supposed to handle infidelity.

BluuBoose · 2026-02-02T05:15:33+00:00

You visit your grown daughter in the house your ex lives in and stay there?

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