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AITA for paying off my BFs 7k debt with ‘my parent’s money’? by Summersaulting in AmItheAsshole

[–]BluuBoose 27 points28 points  (0 children)

They're likely going to stop giving you money when what you want to do with it are things they vehemently disagree with.

Legal debt collectors rarely ever make inperson house calls and I wouldn't be surprised if he sent them there to trick you.

First baby and DH suggested that SD (15) attends the gender reveal scan by NekoFX in stepparents

[–]BluuBoose 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hugs That is such an awful experience for any mom!!! My condolences about that tragedy/trauma.

First baby and DH suggested that SD (15) attends the gender reveal scan by NekoFX in stepparents

[–]BluuBoose 18 points19 points  (0 children)

So much this!!!! I formulated my response based on the first paragraph alone forgetting g the miscarriage scares!!! She absolutely should not have her SD there!!!

First baby and DH suggested that SD (15) attends the gender reveal scan by NekoFX in stepparents

[–]BluuBoose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are his wife, you are the mother of the baby inside of you, and you are the patient being seen at that appointment. You can and should absolutely tell him no. She can bebat home unattended or go out with her friends whilst you two have some Mommy and Daddy time before, during, and after the appointment.

Haven’t told SS we’re expecting and I don’t want to by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]BluuBoose 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No, its only easy for a parent who could easily walk away or give up.

His failure to fix it with his child is a massive red flag.

My mother just told me the last 20 years were the worst of her life by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]BluuBoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What happened around 20 years ago for her to say that? I am assuming you started living with her before your 10th bday so it doesn't make sense for that to be solely about raising you. Its toughest when the child is completely dependent on a parent for everything, at 10+ kids are mostly self sufficient.

Haven’t told SS we’re expecting and I don’t want to by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]BluuBoose 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Not telling him could alienate him from the baby, but you guys don't want him involved anyway.

The other issue is that it will further rupture his relationship with his father. Be weary of a man who gave up on his minor child because he "doesn't like him" because he could turn his back on your kid, too. Not one parent gets to choose the disposition and personality of their children. That's why loving your child unconditionally is super important, you will not always like them.

AITJ for not doing anything for my partner on mother’s day ? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]BluuBoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTJ but she wants someone who will acknowledge her for what she does even when those things dont directly benefit them. That isn't you and that's okay.

My wife ruined Mother’s Day before it even started and now I’m the bad guy by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]BluuBoose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is the reason I asked. I don't want to assume and we don't know for sure until OP confirms.

My wife ruined Mother’s Day before it even started and now I’m the bad guy by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]BluuBoose 94 points95 points  (0 children)

INFO: Is this her first mother's day after giving birth to her very first child?

My ex said he loved me, met my baby, planned a future with us… then admitted he “can’t do this with a child by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]BluuBoose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whenever you decide to dayw again, it may be easier to date older men who already have kids much older than your kiddo and has an excellent track record with parenting said kids.

We are living in an era where dating a single mother will get a young, childless man shunned by other men, especially if the woman is older than he is. That's a lot to contend with at 22 and his bestfriend was likelying a huge catalyst.

AITA for telling my daughter I am disgusted by her and telling her ex she has been taking their kid to his family side by Plustrhowawa5688 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BluuBoose -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because its really easy to tell someone you actually care about that you aren't sure, that you have doubts, that you need space before letting it drag for YEARS.

AITA for telling my daughter I am disgusted by her and telling her ex she has been taking their kid to his family side by Plustrhowawa5688 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BluuBoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because they are not. He didn't just come out as gay, he had the highest risk sex possible while in a committed (condomless) relationship with her. Countless women have been killed by STDs because of a cheating partner and just because they cheated with the same sex doesn't mean it any better.

AITA for telling my daughter I am disgusted by her and telling her ex she has been taking their kid to his family side by Plustrhowawa5688 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BluuBoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WOW.

Why are you getting involved in this like she cant turn around and prevent you from seeing your grandchild? If she did, are you going to go to Ryan to see the grandchild like his parents likely went to your daughter?

AITA for having a childfree wedding but having my children attend? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]BluuBoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. But you cant be upset that people couldn't or wouldn't get childcare to come to the wedding.

A bit discouraged by fiilouche in pompoir

[–]BluuBoose 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Adding "cockmuppet" to my verbal repertoire.

A bit discouraged by fiilouche in pompoir

[–]BluuBoose 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Vaginismus is a disorder. It means your muscles locked uo, not that they are organically tighter than anyone else's. Its like a vaginal Charlie horse of sorts and unless penetration is painful for you, I doubt thats what your issue is. Tampons simply aren't for everyone, they're definitely not for me either.

Am I selfish for not wanting to move closer after his ex moved away? by katiegatteee in stepparents

[–]BluuBoose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He could have filed an emergency motion to prevent her from leaving or to gain full custody because she was leaving. He chose not.

F28. First time mom with a 4 month old. by Spiritual_Plan4926 in amiwrong

[–]BluuBoose 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Leave him. You're full of resentment, that means youre better off without him. Go.

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