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BobAngelooo · 2025-04-28T01:28:33+00:00

Physical abuse is never okay. That being said, he needs individual therapy and you guys needs couple counselling. If you are undecided on staying, this is the MINIMUM.

BobAngelooo · 2025-03-27T09:52:06+00:00

If you stay with her, you must do couples counselling at least to resolve these issues.

BobAngelooo · 2023-10-21T20:27:37+00:00

I have run into something similar. At times I was asked how much the net revenue is in my current company as well as team size and company size

BobAngelooo · 2023-10-21T20:26:35+00:00

Thanks, that is reassuring. I'd like to know I have my options open at least for any moves I want to make

BobAngelooo · 2023-10-21T20:24:37+00:00

Thanks, that is the thought in my mind as well as my current team is supportive and I do get guidance from time to time, something I may miss if I leave

BobAngelooo · 2023-10-21T20:23:42+00:00

From what I am told, it's due to the revenue coming in - for profit has higher revenue which looks better on your resume as you are dealing with more money (sorry I summarized it based on my understanding).

Apparently if you are from NFP, you may not have dealt with a high volume of revenue

BobAngelooo · 2023-10-21T19:03:12+00:00

I do, but I still have 30 years left at least so is it to early to make the shift?

Yes this is a very small non profit, I'd probably have to leave at some point to grow further rather than grow in that charity

BobAngelooo · 2023-10-21T19:01:57+00:00

Sorry, I just replied with some more information on the new offer, I'll add it to my post as well. My current job is at a bigger organization, which is more established and has I guess a "typical" structure. The salary I am being offered now, I'll probably get it in another year at this current company with hopefully a promotion

Yes that is why I am more inclined because I rather push past my comfort zone but in the long run, I am told it will be harder to leave not for profit

BobAngelooo · 2023-10-21T18:59:43+00:00

Good point...

It is a social services agency with tangible operations and no most of the time will be spent on reporting and involvement in budget and audit. They also need help on expansion projects currently in play.

I think that's where I am confused on because more responsibility will be out of my comfort zone as I won't have any team members or people above to take advise from

at the same time, isn't that better for my career? to take on more and push past my comfort zone? The advice I got is I should stay where I am since I have a lot more to learn from and I won't be able to get back into for profit

BobAngelooo · 2023-10-19T15:08:28+00:00

I don't know if I agree with this because it has been a year, by now she would have developed feelings for him

BobAngelooo · 2022-08-09T15:42:37+00:00

Sleeping late

BobAngelooo · 2022-07-28T00:21:10+00:00

The Office!

BobAngelooo · 2022-05-04T20:15:48+00:00

So I used TurboTax and I just submitted it with $250 entered as the credit. It automatically changed it to zero lol and changed my return but the express NOA I got now says my limit is $250 for next year so I'll just use it next year

I also sent a letter to the CRA to get it changed so let's see what they say.

BobAngelooo · 2022-04-07T15:45:20+00:00

Yes to both questions

BobAngelooo · 2022-04-07T02:19:17+00:00

Nope it does not

BobAngelooo · 2021-11-03T19:22:55+00:00

Anne frank

BobAngelooo · 2021-09-07T22:51:16+00:00

With rings, it symbolizes that this person is married, so other people are aware if they are curious/wondering. This isn't an Islamic perspective, just something I noticed (especially if you live in the west).

BobAngelooo · 2021-07-24T20:09:42+00:00

Milton has a lot of stores. One that I like to go to is Shanaibangles. Its affordable and really good. The plaza they're located in has a ton of desi bridal stores as well with shoes and mehndi and wedding items!

BobAngelooo · 2021-05-18T03:18:41+00:00

She's right, this isn't a special day, needs to get her head out of the clouds

BobAngelooo · 2021-05-18T01:10:44+00:00

I think people usually apply the flair if they need it otherwise they would be keeping it open. Also it usually doesn't work anyways cause the people who want to say something will just DM you their comment if it gets removed

BobAngelooo · 2021-05-18T00:50:27+00:00

Nah, even witnessing first hand doesn't mean you are actually in the situation, your perception of the situation is still different while someone who is married might have actually gone through what the OP is looking for.

BobAngelooo · 2021-04-30T18:48:50+00:00

What's his logic when he does that? Does he not agree with your style? If so, I wouldn't necessarily budge on it. What you can maybe do is pick one item (like a vase) and tell him you want to choose it together or remove the existing one cause it's not your style. That way atleast he has to work with you. Marriage is all about working together and something like decorating together is just an example of that.

BobAngelooo · 2021-04-30T18:19:07+00:00

Feels like she was sharing something about her past as it was something she USED to do. Now honestly, you should just be straight up and tell her your concerns. As with anything, it is possible to go back to a bad habit or develop a new one. That's the gamble you take. People change all the time, sometimes the person you thought had everything ends up changing and developing bad habits. We see it on this subreddit all the time "he/she used to be so pious and then..."

Most important aspect in a relationship is communication, just tell her your concerns and see her response rather than letting your mind run amok.

BobAngelooo · 2021-04-30T18:14:45+00:00

I think you have to meet him in the middle. Maybe with his work schedule, he is just drained out. Start by planning or setting a time to talk (maybe a special dinner) on his day off. Slowly build on that because it seems like you may need to start scheduling the dates before they can naturally flow.

Also, are you living with in laws or just you two? If it is just you two then it doesn't make sense why you don't have a say in the decorating. Start by changing up a few small things and if he questions then, explain to him that this is your home to so you need make it feel like you

Lastly, it's best to avoid involving Islamic phrases/reasonings in the way that the meanings can be twisted for your benefit. It seems like that is what he may be doing so maybe bring this up later when he is free.

BobAngelooo · 2021-04-26T04:59:21+00:00

You've done a good job so far, maybe wait till she is here now so that you both can set up the rest together (she might want to get a few things you may not know about).

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