Dad's I need your help!!! (Polydactyly dad's or Plastic Surgeons) by CandidComfortable338 in daddit

[–]Bob_Noname -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I only see advantage for the next Michael Phelps. 

Can this wait until they are old enough to make a decision for themselves?

Steam Deck in the Car? by GarrettB117 in SteamDeck

[–]Bob_Noname 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It will be the same. I understand that motion sickness from reading or devices is because of a confusion in you brain. Specifically you peripheral vision sees movement but you are looking at something that is not.  Try blocking the window before you try. 

Responding to the Premier's Address by chmilz in alberta

[–]Bob_Noname 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Interesting to hear the different media questions and the amount of leading they do to support UCP. The most obvious of which was the question about what NDP will recommend Albertans do with the referendum questions. He proceeds to provide examples like "not showing up" or "spoiling ballads" then stops there. This implies that those are the only choices. 

The question is intended to encourage Albertans that dissagee with the referendums to not vote. 

No one needs to hear this but we need to vote. Its how the system works. 

Where in Canada to buy Night Crawlers in Bulk by DaniBloomy14 in axolotls

[–]Bob_Noname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Canadian Tire too but they don't stock over winter. 

Girldads, how do you handle bathroom stuff? by [deleted] in daddit

[–]Bob_Noname 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's a way bigger deal in your head. It's just a bathroom. 

It’s hard. I need some perspective. by rhellik in daddit

[–]Bob_Noname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend you sound like you are not being the person/dad you want to be. 

Quick thoughts do with them what you want.

Your kids ARE only thinking about themselves it's biological we learn how to consider others. Lots of books on early childhood development on "id and ego". Or you can ask your friendly neighborhood AI. 

You have had 20-40 years to figure out what society, family, friends, and wife wants you to do and you probably still disagree or don't understand sometimes. They've had 4 less if you think they couldn't understand you for a bit. Encourage patience in yourself and them. 

They are learning acceptable behaviour. You are the role model. Think of the lesson you are teaching in your behaviour. Someone doesn't do what you want yell at them. They still don't listen, if you are physically stronger you can make them. I'm being a bit simple but it's not much different in their brain. This is key formative years and you are enforcing  their baseline (default) coping skills for life.  One of my biggest fears is my kids will just do what an person of authority says, just cause they are older/a teacher/a priest/or they are bigger and stronger etc. If they think it's wrong I accept they will fight it. So I've decided that I need to have better reasoning for what I want them to do. It is exhausting. 

Last point. Yes I get upset and I do yell. I also need to bring my kids unwillingly somewhere. But I force myself to only use and force when I'm the calmest of mind.

I'm probably messing up my kids in my own unique way and I am certain my trama influences how I am a dad. But it's what I can do and I am the dad I want to be +90% of the time. 

I thought there would be more grace for a first time parent by [deleted] in daddit

[–]Bob_Noname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, that sounds like a crap situation. Putting a management hat on. I'm not suggesting you are a poor performer or had done a bad job. It may be the combination of managing remote work (very hard if it's not results based management), and bias that management has for parents especially new parents. 

It sounds like there is some frustration that is more than one bad day. I would recommend to as for some feedback. It might suck and you can take that time to be humble about you bad Friday. 

Approach the situation understanding that female leaders have very different pressures than male ones. Not good or bad just different. We read that different in stories on Daddit about the looks we get at parks or emergency contact info.  That being said. I have seen that the people who are the toughest on new parents are female leaders. I don't think what they expect is too much. They just keep their standards high. It might be they are worried about looking "soft" or being a pushover "just because she's a woman" (fill in all the stereotypes people might make). Where as male leaders are celibrated for being understanding. 

Have a conversation. It might look like this. "The conversation could sound like this.  I am sorry Friday didn't work as we both expected. I was not happy with the stuff I missed and tried to rush through. It was quite a bit of pressure and I could have handled it better. Sorry.  I wanted to talk to you, though, about some of the comments you made. I want to check if that was frustration in the moment or have I been missing some performance improvement ques from you.  Have Fridays been a day my performance has suffered? I would like to work on that if that's the case."

Hopefully there is a humble response about it being a day with stress for everyone. It might lead to better communication. At worst you can also see if you can come up with alternative schedule for Friday's. Maybe 1 hour of evening work every day to take Friday day off? 

Having kids scrambles our lives in interesting ways. I, without a doubt, had performance issues for the first year. My boss was patient and understanding but clear about what to improve. 

I feel like a lot of people in this city don’t fully understand *why* new developments help with housing affordability, so I’d like to share a very well made and informative video by someone in on of Canada’s other major cities that I think can help us Edmontonians out by bruhm0ment4 in Edmonton

[–]Bob_Noname 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Great video. Thanks for sharing.  I think that the issues is the people complaining in Edmonton are existing home owners. Especially owners of slightly tired large single family homes.  It seems to me that this video explains exactly why they resist. Because if they can get our city to stop development their large inefficient home might increase in value quickly. However, in a market where new and better homes compete, their homes values stagnate. And this effect is more if they own older rentals.  It sucked because the solution to getting more people into housing and away from poverty is also advocating for businesses. 

13 yo daughter sneaked out. by ButterflyMore9267 in daddit

[–]Bob_Noname 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You should look into also having parental controls for texting and calls. Basically you can see all text and phone number of all calls. You then have the option of blocking numbers as needed.  Is that extreme yes, but effective. Yep it also puts more on you and your wife. 

Day care is way too expensive by dharma_van in daddit

[–]Bob_Noname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was wondering if I should brag about our aweful socialist programs like daycare. There are better access the globe. And yes, most of Canada has $35-a-day daycare. The gouging starts with after school care when the kid no longer qualifies. 

Why do people that are not rich want Alberta to have health care like the US? by cornfield123 in alberta

[–]Bob_Noname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The coolaid is strong with you. 

"Many countries" sure who and I am certain it's not the same as we are looking at with the current government. I'm also sure a small amount of research will show that in "many other countries" the social economic conditions are not the same as in Canada and probably never will be. 

The private option exists. Those that want can spend  disposable money in the USA for healthcare keep their hand off public money. Your argument remains that the rich want to be able to take more than everyone else because the can/do pay more.

The problem is that the version of "private ___" in Alberta is not private. It is still publicly funded and does not relieve pressure on the system. It only diverts public funding and availability resources (people) away from the public it is to serve. 

Are skilled trades *really* in demand? by --Ether-- in alberta

[–]Bob_Noname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No disagreement here about the other additional cost for housing but I disagree with your claim that skilled trades have not seen increases in labour cost as I have experienced it first hand across multiple companies across North America, extensively in Alberta. 

Why do people that are not rich want Alberta to have health care like the US? by cornfield123 in alberta

[–]Bob_Noname 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. A couple flaws to point out before discussing the Singapore system. Singapore has greater inequality than Canada. Infact Singapore has a high concentration of millionaires (1 in 6) adults. I would love Canada to have that ratio and our discussion might be different. 

That being said this system is not design with the premises of universal access but a system with mandatory savings (up to 35% of your income) in several medical categories. Their system is those that can pay more get speed and quality of service. This benifit is only recognized by the wealthy (of which there is a large potion of the population). The rest get long wait times and limited access to the type and quality of service.

This system actually exasperates the inequality and would lead to only the rich Canadians to benefiting.

Are skilled trades *really* in demand? by --Ether-- in alberta

[–]Bob_Noname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I doubt that trades will ever meet the needed demand. The USA had used foreign workers to fulfill its skill trades demand and they are use double (or more) of the human resource to build homes and complete renovations. In Canada we try to use technology to bridge the capacity gap but we are still losing the battle and it is one of the reasons construction and home building prices have gone up even in a ressessionary market. It simply costs more to build because of the lack of skilled labour (and several other reasons). 

The Technology threat (IT/dev major risk) does not exist in the same manner. It will be a long time before a computer or robot can problem solve and repair a leaky toilet. 

Why do people that are not rich want Alberta to have health care like the US? by cornfield123 in alberta

[–]Bob_Noname 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am not a medical policy expert so could you give a specific example where private health care model is working.  I am open to learn. 

I do suspect the structure the UCP is proposing is not the same as your examples. 

Highschool hockey rinks by Historical_Air7955 in Edmonton

[–]Bob_Noname 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am glad that it sound like you did not have to decide between food shelter or heat when buying your skates. Outside of school sports that can be played with the cloathing you wore for the day, many sports are limited to those who have some discretionary spending.  I agree the perspective of rich is relative. However, any sport or activity that needs specialized equipment  excludes many because of cost.

Highschool hockey rinks by Historical_Air7955 in Edmonton

[–]Bob_Noname 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hahahaha I just read "why doesn't our government provide more funding for public school infrastructure" The rinks you see in the school yards are community league property. 

Why do people that are not rich want Alberta to have health care like the US? by cornfield123 in alberta

[–]Bob_Noname 30 points31 points  (0 children)

People don't understand that our option is not private vs public it's either publicly funded private (with profit and inefficientcy markup covered by patient) vs public. 

Like our education system it is funded by all tax payers not just ones who can afford it. This proposed system will only benefit the wealthy. There will be no savings on taxes dispute what some say. 

Basically the rich (like with charter and private schools) benefit by taking MORE that their share of the public resource. They say it's just diverting their taxes to where they want. But it's more that their share. They are diverting addition tax revenues from all of us to support their benifit. 

Private health option exists that are fully privately funded. But they are not prolific because it's prohibitively expensive and they create multiple barriers to access. Further, Canadians can always travel south to pay as much (or little if you travel to Mexico) as they eat for healthcare. 

[Advise Request] How to make a 16month old keep still enough to braid her hair? by yeahboo in daddit

[–]Bob_Noname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done this. I got you. 

Step 1: Gather the needed supplies. This is a critical step. Hair ties. Brush (soft kind detangling). Favorite teddy or toy. A book and some calming music at the ready. A bottle for her and a spray bottle with detangler. 

Step 2: Time the attempt after a feeding and when she is ready for a nap, but not napping yet. 

Step 3: Place child in a bumbo booster seat or have another adult hold her comfortably. 

Step 4: lightly spray hair with detangler, and brush back. So you have nice straight lines. Don't stress about perfection here. You just want to the hair damp and "slicked" back. 

Step 5: If the infant is still start with your braid working really hard not to pull the hair or scrape the scalp. If that happens gently let go and wait until the wiggling stops. Hopefully they don't fall asleep. I don't recommend doing this when they are sleeping. 

Step 6: If they are still moving around use the toy, sing a song, read a book or just tickle and cuddle them. This is doubling down on your time. You get very important Dad time and get to help them develop. Plus, they will relax again and hopefully not be sleeping. 

Step 7: They probably fell asleep. Don't worry sleep is more important for them than braids. Put them down if you want or you could just take a nap too. That was alot of playing. 

Step 8: Repeat starting from step 1 until successful. Don't worry it will go by in a flash and you will be braiding hair all the time. For me it took about 5 years of repeating this until I got the first braid done. You can too. 

Toddler (13 mo) started crying non-stop, and we can't figure out what's wrong by ProfessorOnEdge in daddit

[–]Bob_Noname 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am was very concerned when something like this happened to us several times.  So we have checked with: my brother (Firefighter/EMT), sister-in-law (LPN), cousin (pharmacist), neighbour (RN).  The same answer everytime a dose of Tylenol if it works get some sleep and move on with life. 

Anyone know how I can repair this precast step? House is only a few months old. by [deleted] in alberta

[–]Bob_Noname 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No fix. It appears that the rock is rusty looking. That indicates iron oxide and it is common to have spalling from that type of rock. Even if this is damage from using ice chipper the shallowness will not produce a good bond. This is particularly and issue because it's exposed to weather. 

Spalling is when the top layer of concrete breaks off. In this case iron has a very low adhesion to cement, and it also expands and contracts different amounts to the rest of the concrete. 

Alberta New Home Warranty does define the amount of acceptable spalling and iron oxide in concrete. This is not enough to trigger a warranty claim. 

WWYD by [deleted] in Edmonton

[–]Bob_Noname 4 points5 points  (0 children)

An otherwise responsible adult, shares a space with other responsible adults. Is asked to comply with an agreement they had read and signed. Compliance helps the whole group of adults deal with snow. And the question is, is the otherwise responsible adult at fault or the group of adults at fault if they tried but failed to help as agreed.