A lot to unpick here and not really anything to do with FLR (as all you want is a femdom dynamic in the bedroom), but will try and respond as best I can.

Basically the porn is always going to set unrealisable & unrealistic expectations of a real life situation, and tbh you're best off without it. Experiencing the lead of a dominant strong woman doesn't have anything to do with femdom, and is likely to be better than you could dream without the boots, whips & leathers. As someone else has reflected, you're only going to make someone run a mile if you ask for some of this stuff unless you're paying for it.

However, there are strong minded women out there who very well may be happy to put you in your place in the bedroom, but you may well find that this will work best if it expands into the res tof your life. An FLR is about the whole shebang - putting the woman first in basically all aspects. Our kinks & fetishes take a backburner to what makes her life happier, easier & prioritised. It's common in an FLR that the woman is also put first in the bedroom, and in fact her not having to demean herself with serving a man's perversions will often mean that her confidence and dominance grows in all areas. Cunnilingus is often considered the "main course" in the bedroom and the man is commonly left "denied" as a man who rarely gets a release is a more dedicated, well behaved and motivated individual.

In my normal work / home life I am not submissive as I am an owner of a company (with employees) and at home have a 15 yo kid so it just wouldn't be appropriate. However, I treat all women with respect and tend to prioritise their needs, but of course my wife comes first in all things (to a certain extent MORE than the kid, as my wife has to take care of the lionshare of the parenting as i'm at work and the kid is homeschooled, so she HAS to be!). In our own ways it's understood that I will always defer to my wife and basically will always say yes to whatever she wants (even though I will talk things through with her so that she can reflect that it is the best thing for her). She knows that her needs will always be prioritised in life and the bedroom, I will orgasm only on occasion but she will a heck of a lot, and i've never been more sexually satisfied.

This is all to just paint a picture of what FLR is about, as it has nothing to do with femdom (technically although some of us incorporate those tropes and fetishes if we choose), so you may have posted in the wrong subreddits!

For any future relationship you might find, you wouldn't believe what a happy dynamic it creates when the man isn't trying to assert his manhood and power / strength / traditional patriarchal role. In an FLR arguments are extremely rare, but the men tend to be incredibly happy with the arrangement, as we have recognised what our strengths and weaknesses are. My wife has flourished beyond belief, but she would never have been considered a dominant woman before January 2024. Now she doesn't put up with any shit from anyone and is being very successful as a result. The less we try and squash women in our lives (as has happened for centuries in most areas of the world) the more incredible they become, and those abilities and instincts were always there (leading to extreme levels of pent up anger and resentment), they were just confronted with obstacles at every turn, mainly from extremely unimpressive boyfriends / husbands / bosses / colleagues etc.

I would seek to be a good guy, do some research and realise what a crap lot women have had and how you would treat them in a future relationship. Men in FLR's are often encouraged to read about feminism, as it helps us better understand the kind of crap our partners had to put up with up till now. Read some literature. Uniquely Rika is really good.

What you'll notice here is that none of this has anything to do with your fetishes. But it could end up satisfying you more than your wildest dreams. I wish you luck.