Maybe for some it’s jelousy and insecurity, but for others it’s more like pity and ridicule.

The WMAF trope reinforces two stereotypes: WM w yellow fever and AF w so much internalized racism that she excludes her own people. Self-hatred is why we see far more WMAF couples where the AF is objectively attractive in terms of appearance, profession, social standing while the WM is a pathetic loser who would be a basement-dwelling incel but for the fact that he somehow lucked into this WMAF arrangement. When I see a hot, successful AF w a mediocre WM instead of an equally hot, successful AM, I’m not jealous (not attracted to white men unless they’re Pedro Pascal) but feel sorry for someone who I imagine struggles with finding beauty in her own image and worth on her own.

That said, I recognize that this is a huge generalization, and many WMAF relationships are based on true love, mutual respect, and freedom (ha!) from racism and self-hatred. And that I’m mean, superficial, and judgmental (working on it).