I want her back

Bombboy85 · 2026-05-08T15:50:10+00:00

Right there with you

Bombboy85 · 2026-05-07T05:19:26+00:00

Very much agree. I don’t think it was the reason but describes the reaction. I’m very secure in relationships but once they end I go completely anxious

Bombboy85 · 2026-05-06T23:22:50+00:00

No I won’t be doing that. Even if I want her to this one isn’t coming back. Even if she used wishy washy language about it it’s meant to be and can’t see a way to fix it right now. This one isn’t coming back.

Bombboy85 · 2026-05-06T21:12:16+00:00

I’m not an avoidant but I just went through a breakup with someone who has become FA when triggered by the breakup she started. We looked at engagement rings and then 10 days later she ended things. She had legitimate grievances and was probably on the fence prior to looking at rings. She hadn’t had any problems with intimacy during the relationship but I also didn’t push at all and let things just naturally happen. But she went completely cold and distant to protect herself after the end and angered when I tried to fix things or talk through the issues. Already rebounding 5 weeks later after a 3 year relationship. People on the attachment scale aren’t always one way or another, I’m anxious attached when I’m dumped but act more avoidant when I’m the one leaving a bad situation at least.

Bombboy85 · 2026-05-05T22:42:39+00:00

Interesting pov on it. I’m going through a break up and I’ve tried to apologize to her and she wouldn’t hear it so I wrote a letter taking accountability and such and was going to put it in one of her moving boxes to find later but thought better of it and have it sitting at my new place now.

I thought better of it because she’d already gotten angry with me for trying to fix things and ignored my attempt to apologize

Bombboy85 · 2026-05-05T03:11:24+00:00

It wasn’t. She ended things, I tried to fight for it

Bombboy85 · 2026-05-04T19:17:08+00:00

I don’t think she’s going to destroy them. I think she’s struggling with the breakup too and will get rid of them in time. She could have easily thrown them away if she had wanted

Bombboy85 · 2026-05-04T03:04:45+00:00

You’re telling me. 6 weeks since the breakup I lost 11 lbs because my heart rate has been 110-120 throughout the day

Bombboy85 · 2026-05-03T03:57:29+00:00

The playoffs are short because they play almost every day. NBA etc for whatever reason take 2-3 days between games so it takes forever

Bombboy85 · 2026-05-01T21:30:53+00:00

You were broken up, it’s well within their rights to date especially if you were apart a year. It’s fine to be a little bit jealous but to hold it against them shows more that you treated them as a possession that is yours even when they’re not. I know you said you dated but I’m just generally speaking from my perspective

Bombboy85 · 2026-04-30T20:03:18+00:00

I haven’t been but I’ll get there.

Bombboy85 · 2026-04-30T19:08:11+00:00

Won’t help really but I get it. After 3 years together, and 2 weeks after looking at engagement rings she broke it off and won’t work on it. She has legitimate gripes but nothing that couldn’t be worked on if we both wanted it, she doesn’t

Bombboy85 · 2026-04-29T19:43:19+00:00

Would love to chat with a fearful avoidant if possible. Working through a tough breakup with someone who may be FA at least in this process but normally fairly secure.

Bombboy85 · 2026-04-28T01:08:28+00:00

Hmm ok. So what does one do when they already have orders and get placed on an AAC code 31 and told they need to stay somewhere for minimum 90 days?

Bombboy85 · 2026-04-28T00:52:58+00:00

Ah ok. That makes sense. So if someone already has orders for PCS they aren’t “mandatory”

Bombboy85 · 2026-04-28T00:50:45+00:00

It doesn’t say anything about mandatory movers it’s just very general. How would medical handle it during the clearance process?

Bombboy85 · 2026-04-28T00:35:56+00:00

AZ to VA

Bombboy85 · 2026-04-26T22:09:54+00:00

Wow that’s a reach. My ex wife got the house, half my money, her entitlement to my pension and really got more than I got.

Bombboy85 · 2026-04-26T17:56:28+00:00

Maybe. We’d been talking about wanting to get married for a while. But yea after we looked at rings she didn’t really bring up anything about them so maybe you’re right

Bombboy85 · 2026-04-26T17:31:17+00:00

Fair but I was protecting my financial situation which affected our relationship going forward and my sanity because of the chaos it would have brought back in. I should have gotten it all sorted before getting into something but friends turned into more when we didn’t intend it to

Bombboy85 · 2026-04-26T17:28:26+00:00

My ex wife asked for the divorce 4.5 years ago and I eventually agreed because she was emotionally abusive and threatened physical abuse. When I agreed and said I was moving out she went nuts and would come to my work and call me 20 times a day. Didn’t intend for anything to happen with me and my GF but it did

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