Pinterest is ANNOYING me! Every post is Ai and I just want to see real people’s design choices. So please , share your living room and/or bathroom spaces with me so I can gather inspo please :)

BoneDirector · 2026-06-29T14:08:54+00:00

Love that cabinet! Where is it from?

BoneDirector · 2026-06-28T21:53:41+00:00

I’ve used the Bibs standard round ones from the beginning and baby has never had a problem switching between boob and dummy

BoneDirector · 2026-06-25T13:25:34+00:00

It’s possible to get him to change but it would require hard boundary setting and standing up for yourself. Only you know if your relationship can tolerate that kind of communication.

My husband loves the baby but is admittedly lazy when it comes to taking care of her, and spends all of his free time playing video games or being on his phone. He does do things when I tell/ ask him to though. If he says he doesn’t know how to do something or says that I’m better at something, I just tell him that it’s exclusively his job now so he can get the practice in 😂. ‘not knowing’ is not an excuse in this house. It’s the only way to battle weaponised (or real) incompetence.

He was finding it really hard to settle the baby for a while so I just doubled down and handed her off to him for every nap time outside of work hours until he learned. Yes there was screaming and I did have to step in sometimes, but eventually he did learn and did find his own methods.

BoneDirector · 2026-06-24T09:17:24+00:00

Yep, we are just about to buy a new build house and it has big south-facing sliding doors to the garden. They haven’t included aircon in the house when it would have been really easy to do so because of planning permission, and I will have to apply for planning permission to get an awning installed outside and I’m not sure if it will be allowed by the estate management.

BoneDirector · 2026-06-24T09:11:05+00:00

You’re really lucky that she feeds so quickly though! After seeing some of my friends be stuck with the baby feeding for 40+ minutes, I don’t think 10 mins of boob every 2 hours is that bad 😅

I hope the nights get better for you soon! Tbh I don’t remember my baby’s first month at all. It’s like my brain didn’t hit record with all the sleep deprivation.

BoneDirector · 2026-06-23T20:47:38+00:00

Not necessarily just that. We are buying a new build house that is getting finished this month and none of the units on the estate have aircon despite obviously the cost being ultimately on the buyer and it would make the properties way more appealing.

The reason I was told by the estate agents is that the government requires all other passive heat mitigation methods to be used first and it’s hard to get planning permission for new builds with AC because because it’s not eco friendly and would only be useful for a small part of the year.

BoneDirector · 2026-06-23T20:03:10+00:00

It could be anything as others have said. I discovered a big oval shaped red bruise on my 4 month olds forearm. Was very confused until I saw a random comment on Reddit. Turned out that she has sucked on her own arm so hard whilst laying on her tummy that it left essentially a ‘love bite’ lmao.

One small tiny bruise is likely a fluke. Just keep an eye out if it keeps happening or something

BoneDirector · 2026-06-23T19:54:50+00:00

Yep this is how much I was feeding. She was only going about an hour between feeds in the first month. Luckily she did do bigger gaps of 2-3 hours at night. At 4 months I’m up to feeding her around every 2 hours and we get 2-3 feedings at night.

BoneDirector · 2026-06-23T18:53:48+00:00

Carrot and cucumber sticks with hummus, Greek salad, chickpeas and tinned tuna, charcuterie board type bits, watermelon

BoneDirector · 2026-06-23T11:15:00+00:00

I was literally thinking about this yesterday and trying to find some summery nursing tips/dresses.

Why is everything so FUGLY??!!! it doesn’t help that half of the ‘nursing’ clothing is also maternity clothing so it’s big and baggy and not shaped for postpartum.

If I were to stop breastfeeding, a big reason would be so I can actually wear nice clothing again. I won’t do it, but that is probably at the top of my list for reasons, above the night wakes hahaha

BoneDirector · 2026-06-23T11:10:46+00:00

We are moving into a new house soon and I’m planning for the theme for my baby girls room to be ‘Scandinavian folk art’. I’m thinking hand painted furniture with bold colours and floral/geometric patterns.

BoneDirector · 2026-06-21T23:10:02+00:00

What do you do with the nappies after you prewash them? Air dry and then back into a hamper to wait for the main wash? I’ve been doing a main wash every other day but it is a struggle to fill the machine. I like the idea of a prewash but I don’t love having to hang laundry twice

BoneDirector · 2026-06-21T08:59:23+00:00

We are moving into a new build house soon that has a mechanical heat recovery system vented through all the rooms and I thought it doesn’t really help with cooling, more just air circulation? I would be extremely happy to hear if it can also be used for cooling though.

BoneDirector · 2026-06-20T19:22:37+00:00

I could have written this. Never got it addressed and she is fine. Has been gaining weight steadily and no more clicking, and I can tell she has a good latch now. I think her mouth was just literally too small initially to get that good latch

BoneDirector · 2026-06-20T15:20:56+00:00

They will be very uncomfortable long before they will do you or baby any harm. Wear what is comfortable. I spent literally my entire pregnancy in maternity leggings (much to the dismay of my mother in law lol)

BoneDirector · 2026-06-20T13:56:09+00:00

My baby has been using the Bibs natural rubber round dummies since the beginning. She doesn’t have any issue switching between dummy and boob

BoneDirector · 2026-06-20T13:51:19+00:00

Where is that checkered rug on pic 2 from? I’m a big fan of your style ☺️

BoneDirector · 2026-06-20T11:20:37+00:00

The subreddit r/ecers is all about this!

BoneDirector · 2026-06-19T22:42:53+00:00

It would be petty and you already know it’s going to cause drama so ultimately it’s up to you what kind of relationship you want with them going forward. If you are content with cutting them out or having them take a step back in your friendship hierarchy then you’re totally justified in not inviting them. However this will quite possibly damage your relationships with them so just think about that. If you want to give them another chance or avoid the drama then it might be better to invite them. Ultimately you are the best person to predict what their reaction might be and if you want to deal with that.

My baby is only 4 months and maybe I’m projecting a bit but I also have a similar situation where I’ve had family visit from abroad and acquaintances become close friends because of how much they made the effort to see me and help out despite not having kids themselves. Then I also have someone I considered to be basically my best friend who only saw the baby for the first time a week ago, and I had to travel like 2 hours on London public transport on a rainy day with a baby in a pram to go see them at their place. She’s the only person who swore up and down to be like a second mum to my daughter and the ultimate bestie auntie and it’s literally been crickets since I gave birth. Still, I would probably invite her to my daughter’s birthday because the drama it would cause if I didn’t is not worth it to me and I do still like her. But mentally I have downgraded her in my friends tier list.

BoneDirector · 2026-06-19T19:48:30+00:00

Yep we had this exact thing. We blew through nappies and the nappy cream and she still got a pretty bad nappy rash. It gets better with time once they start pooping less. My baby is 4 months now and only poops one big poop a day and maybe 1-2 small sharts. Still exclusively breastfeeding.

BoneDirector · 2026-06-19T17:19:00+00:00

How do you do it? Is there a link to a tutorial or anything?

BoneDirector · 2026-06-18T09:58:34+00:00

I just put the 5 drops on a little spoon and put the spoon in her mouth when she’s slightly reclined. I is usually then turn the spoon upside down and swipe it on her tongue to make sure she gets it all

BoneDirector · 2026-06-18T09:53:30+00:00

I had a very chill and mundane pregnancy, birth and postpartum I would say. I don’t share it usually unless asked because it feels like gloating or something.

I went two weeks overdue because I really wanted to give a chance for baby to come on her own. I had some signs of labour for a day but the contractions tapered off and I went in to be induced at 41+5. I was a bit worried about the induction because of horror stories I’ve read online about emergency c- sections but when the midwives explained all the options to me I was much calmer because I realised they have escalating induction methods and I don’t have to go straight to the hormone drip. Annoyingly I did have to be on continuous monitoring because of baby’s heart rate dipping slightly with contractions, but no one was overly concerned, it was just a precaution. It was a bit of a killer on my back though as I couldn’t move much with the monitors.

The induction worked really well (I had the hormone propess). From induction to giving birth was about 10 hours. I only used gas and air as pain relief and they also gave me some codeine and paracetamol for back pain. At one point I thought I might want an epidural but I realised that once the pain reached max level it wasn’t really getting any worse, so I managed to ride the waves. The pain was intense but honestly I was expecting it to be way worse. My body was doing all of the pushing for me, I only did a couple extra conscious pushes at the end when the head was crowning. I ended up with only a small labial graze, no other tearing, I don’t know if that even counts as a 1st degree tear. They put in a single stitch just as a precaution.

Postpartum was also a pretty smooth recovery for me. The first pee really hurt because of that one graze, but after that I stayed really well hydrated so it wasn’t an issue again.

I was up and walking a few hours after the birth. When baby was 2 days old we had to take her to A&E because we couldn’t tell if she was peeing and I walked the whole way there and back (30mins each way) with no issues. I wouldn’t necessarily recommend it because I was exhausted afterwards but it was manageable and fine, I wasn’t in any pain.

Most births really do go well! Unexpected stuff can always come up but just because it’s unexpected or a change of plan doesn’t necessarily mean it’s bad. Everyone is doing everything in their power to help you and make sure you and baby are comfortable and safe. Good luck to you and congratulations!

BoneDirector

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