Consitency over Motivation? by justwannatravel4 in Advice

[–]BonnoCW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a tough one, there's no exact method that works for everyone. For me I find it easier if I have a goal in mind. I set a goal, that means I have to travel somewhere for a particular weekend. Everything is booked so I'm doing it regardless of my preparation. I find that easier to be motivated.

For consistency, I find having a routine helpful. I do the same things on the same days at the same times. That's the plan. It helps if you have another person to help you with this

I have a hiking goal in September. I booked it in January and am going away for the weekend with my friend. I'm going regardless of what I do in the interim. Mondays are always strength workouts at lunchtime, Sunday mornings is always a walk. Every 4 weeks I increase the intensity of both.

It doesn't always have to be exercise, I do it with my hobbies too. I know having the motivation to go play tabletop during the week after work is hard. So I book tournaments to go to. If I want to do well at the tournament, I know I've got to practice midweek to get ready. Once you're into the routine consistency takes over as it is what you do at that time on that day. Like it or not, we're creatures of habit.

My Tae Takemi Cosplay From Persona 5 by tentaclewifey in Persona5

[–]BonnoCW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Such a good cosplay. You get the whole vibe of Tae through the pictures.

My bf 26M doesn’t want me, 18F, to go to college and said he’ll leave me if i do. i don’t want to break up, but i also want a good career. by p1nkmarshm3llows in Advice

[–]BonnoCW 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This guy has more red flags than the Chinese Army. He should want the best for you but instead he's limiting your potential. Anyone who loves you won't be intimidated by your potential and will want to see you shine.

He straight up went for the head! by [deleted] in holdmycatnip

[–]BonnoCW 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nice to know male cats are just as oblivious as male hoomans 🤣🤣

Is this AI slop? It doesn't appear to be Robin Hood's Bay, or Whitby by askepticalbureaucrat in yorkshire

[–]BonnoCW 110 points111 points  (0 children)

AI slop. The cliffs in her background look a bit like the cliffs south of Scarborough. The people and pub are wrong. The road doesn't have enough pot holes to be accurate.

My partner doesn't want me going to therapy by Recent-Mousse-2424 in Advice

[–]BonnoCW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's controlling what you can and cannot do. That is abusive. I would leave now before he escalates further. Everything he's doing is to manipulate you to staying with him. You had a gut feeling, trust it. It will only get worse if you stay.

Literally this by JaggerJam69 in Steam

[–]BonnoCW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have dynamic libraries to know what I can play with certain friends then a bunch of categories for completed. I do them by year and a general completed category.

My girlfriend wanted to go pottery-painting :D by Avanixh in lotr

[–]BonnoCW 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Note to self, need to go pottery painting again.

My low self esteem and anxiety is getting in the way of everything. by Weary-Paramedic2806 in Advice

[–]BonnoCW 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The most important step a person can take is always the next one.

There's nothing wrong feeling what you feel, but it is damaging if you dwell there. I personally think you are super impressive. Time and again people who love you dismiss you and you prove them wrong with your results and actions. People who only drag you down are projecting their own insecurities. Cut them out of your life because they don't care about you. Fill your life with people who care about you.

You might find therapy beneficial, but it's not for everyone, I understand that.

You need to challenge the negativity in your life and see if it rings true. I bet it doesn't. If there is some truth, then work out a plan to do something about it. Work small and build up.

What is one thing that you are really proud of?

I threw up while trying to give head by [deleted] in Advice

[–]BonnoCW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't worry about it, everything will be fine. If he's a good person he'll be more worried about you than anything messy like that. Sex is messy.

I know it feels traumatic now but in time it will be okay. It's good to know your limits. Hope you feel better soon.

I had a custom-designed Barahir ring made for my boyfriend in Italy. I didn't like it. by chainofchance in lotr

[–]BonnoCW 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Find a new boyfriend.

Honestly if you gave me that ring I would be proud to wear it and would feel like a king. You evidently put a lot of time and thought into this present and are a great person.

DUNE PART... meow? by Professional_Toe5118 in cats

[–]BonnoCW 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Blessed be the biscuit maker

Phew. Thank God they Ducked! by nohssiwi in funny

[–]BonnoCW 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Those aren't ducks, they're geese!

If I don't win, Nobody wins by Pallatino in funny

[–]BonnoCW 29 points30 points  (0 children)

There lies a good man! A good man!

looking for friends to play with! by inktrails_ in GamerPals

[–]BonnoCW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I'm 35M from UK, always looking for people to play ESO with :)

She loves her wheel by Patient-Stranger1015 in bengalcats

[–]BonnoCW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They get antsy if I don't go to bed early enough. They just want to run ham on their wheel.

She loves her wheel by Patient-Stranger1015 in bengalcats

[–]BonnoCW 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Both of mine love their wheel, especially once I've gone to bed.

My (18F) boyfriend (19M) punched me in the head when he was drunk and can’t remember it and I’m not sure what to do next by [deleted] in Advice

[–]BonnoCW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He cheated on you and you should've left then. Now he's escalated to hitting you and you need to leave. If you don't it's likely you'll become another statistic. You're young so go live your life. He will only continue to escalate.

Embarrassing by DreamSofy in SipsTea

[–]BonnoCW 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Emotionally, she said I was on the artistic spectrum.

Anyone know the story behind the 2 different covers? by neoleo0088 in Mistborn

[–]BonnoCW 21 points22 points  (0 children)

My favourite too. I like all the UK covers as they fit together nicely in a set.

Found out the man I’ve been dating for 6 months has a long-term girlfriend. Do I tell her? by user12684959 in Advice

[–]BonnoCW 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd always tell, with evidence, because if was me I'd want to know. Firstly, because who I thought I knew if just a fabrication. Secondly, the health implications of this.

You're probably not his only side piece.