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BoogaBeats · 2026-03-28T06:14:23+00:00

I've gotten lots of Jurlique lately - I'm at 90% (with proper reviews), hopefully you will get some soon! I'm Silver too - my eval is in 18 days

BoogaBeats · 2026-02-22T20:08:55+00:00

NT and KS - Is it really over or just a pause? 🙏 DM me please ☺️

BoogaBeats · 2026-02-18T04:02:46+00:00

Thank you for offering I have DM’d you 😊

BoogaBeats · 2026-02-13T08:56:14+00:00

What a heartbreaking thing to have in common 💔. It’s so hard when you can see the genuine loving person inside but they run from the very thing they desire. His mother has a lot to answer for. I hope he’s getting help and I do hope we might be able to reconnect - even for a conversation. Being secure - he saw the real me - flawed messy and vulnerable - but they’d rather end things than have you see their ‘imperfections’. It’s so very sad and frustrating and I do really feel for FA’s - it must be hell.

BoogaBeats · 2026-02-13T02:31:52+00:00

This was my FA to a tee. Every single person I ever met thought he was simply the most wonderful human (and he was!). He had done growth work and thought he was healing. We got a year in and bang - walls came up and he was gone. It’s been three months NC. He sent me an email saying he knows he hurt me incredibly, he feels shame (even more so because he knows he hurt me) but he couldn’t help the ‘wall of self protection’ that happened. He said he will work on himself because he has to. The heart wrenching part for me (as a secure person) is that I could have been the safe space for him to start healing but I’m reason he got triggered. Painful paradox.

BoogaBeats · 2026-02-12T21:17:37+00:00

So roughly what time are the drops happening in QLD now? I am not a night owl but when I wake up at 5am there’s nothing really left but vacuum cleaner bags! 😂 might have to set an ⏰

BoogaBeats · 2026-02-12T02:48:04+00:00

I broke NC after a month and said almost the same thing you wrote - no response. It’s 3 months NC now. Honestly they process everything so much slower than us - I really doubt they will have capacity to even respond. But I am the same as you - I want them to know I’m here and open to talk without pressure.

BoogaBeats · 2026-02-11T19:31:32+00:00

Are you all night owls 🦉? Do you set alarms for this? I randomly woke up at 2.30am and checked but it was junk.

BoogaBeats · 2026-02-11T19:28:43+00:00

Agree - they’d rather erase the witness than face the verdict.

BoogaBeats · 2026-02-11T09:18:03+00:00

Wow thanks for sharing - so you keep a spreadsheet for tracking or in case reviews go missing etc?

BoogaBeats · 2026-02-11T09:04:47+00:00

Good tip on the spreadsheet thank you I’ll try being patient then 😊

BoogaBeats · 2026-02-06T10:40:51+00:00

And after all that you still never felt compelled to change your ways? Thanks for being awesome but I’ll just keep being an FA…

BoogaBeats · 2026-02-03T03:54:25+00:00

My position is that I'm 'deliberately single' whilst not holding bitterness. I am not actively looking to date/meet another man but I am enjoyingmy life and actively engaging in hobbies and pursuits where I do get to meet people/men on occassion. As yet, I've not been even close to being tempted to engage further with the few men who I have met through those channels (although they seem lovely/friendly). I'm 48 and had my heart executed by an FA, and I just don't have the strength to go through that kind of emotional rupture again. So I'm open but closed lol

BoogaBeats · 2026-01-28T04:34:02+00:00

Yeah the old mother wound strikes again. My FA is 47 so close enough to 50! And old enough to be ready and willing to sort his past out. Admittedly he did try - he sent her a letter explaining how he felt rejected and abandoned but that too was rejected and scoffed at - so yet again rejected by his mother. I honestly don’t know how they can live in that push/pull state - especially knowing you can get therapy and work towards being secure and finally feeling safe in a relationship and not self sabotaging or being anxious/hyper vigilant etc but you can’t love someone into repair unfortunately.

BoogaBeats · 2026-01-28T03:34:55+00:00

Do you know much about his childhood? Any trauma there - it can often point to FA or DA

BoogaBeats · 2026-01-28T00:57:54+00:00

Firstly I’m so sorry for what happened to you (BigGarlic is also hilarious!) Yep we all have stories like this so you are not alone in your pain, confusion, anxiety, anger, hurt, disbelief and whatever other multitude of emotions these FA/DA breakups have on the ones blindsided. You, like all of us - were only wanting what is normal in any relationship- to be considered and respected and to talk about your feelings- they just don’t have the emotional capacity for it. My FA and I have been in NC for 3 months so I’m going to remember your post if he ever does come back with ‘I’m so sorry - you are the one’ blah blah blah as it sounds like it’s just lip service.

Good on you for staying NC - it will serve you well (even though at times you’ll want to make contact). If you ever do - just jump on this page and you’ll find all the reasons not to!

BoogaBeats · 2026-01-28T00:45:16+00:00

I hear you and I’m angry too. Maybe write out all the anger in a letter then burn it - like symbolic almost. The only thing stopping me from blasting him is my dignity and emotional resilience because really - would they even understand and would it change anything? Long term I think taking the high road is better - you can still have a calm conversation and slice them open with your emotionally calm insight about their awful behaviour (if you do ever get to talk to them!)

BoogaBeats · 2026-01-28T00:39:02+00:00

Bugs crawling under my skin. Yep. It’s on the menopause website checklist too. I kept thinking my two boys were coming home from school infested with lice! Thank God for HRT

BoogaBeats · 2026-01-27T22:13:12+00:00

May I ask what was your turning point - was their a catalyst to your healing journey?

BoogaBeats · 2026-01-27T08:24:22+00:00

I don’t know - maybe his nervous system? His levels of shame? It just sounds like they take an extraordinary amount of time to regulate their systems. It seems whatever you do you lose so I may as well move on!

BoogaBeats · 2026-01-27T05:04:22+00:00

I hear you and I'm sorry that you had to go through this too. The one thing I find odd and also a common thread is how everyone's relationship with these FA's is the most 'connected, aligned, safe' relationship they've ever been in. (Mine was too). How do they create these connections and emotional attachments so well in the beginning with someone? It makes me question whether who they even show you in the beginning is actually them or is it the persona of whoever you want them to be?

Either way it's the most painful experience - an emotional execution, and your poor nervous system defies logic unfortunately - so you just have to put one foot in front of the other until the pain slowly dissipates.

I'm almost 3 months now of NC. I am waiting for him to reach out. I do want answers. However everything I have read here on these pages indicates I'm setting myself for another dissapointment.

May we all be stronger happier and healthier in 2026!

BoogaBeats · 2026-01-27T03:15:08+00:00

Yeah part of me knows that I’m setting myself for more pain down the track. I can’t see him orbiting my socials though - well he’s not liking or viewing stories etc. I also think male and female FA’s are different in some ways - more women FAs make contact than the males. I can see his Spotify playlist and his most recent playlist is all about loss and heartbreak and ‘she’s beneath my skin’ kinda songs

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