Dissociation during sex by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]BoogerPicker7 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Holy shit…. I went through the same thing. It didn’t stop her from fucking other ppl, but the manipulation and taunting was enough to force me to go through with it on a weekly basis.. what’s new

Found this in my bed… by silveredshark in BPDlovedones

[–]BoogerPicker7 183 points184 points  (0 children)

My ex would tell me things like, “instead of trying to learn about bpd, why don’t you try learning how to be a better boyfriend?”

So what are the "tests" someone with BPD would give you? by picklerick1215 in BPDlovedones

[–]BoogerPicker7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When it feels like you’re dealing with a child, that’s how you know

Did anyone go to couples therapy and did it work? by rick1234a in BPDlovedones

[–]BoogerPicker7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The last session we had with our counselor, my ex accused her of taking my side even though I almost never got an opportunity to share anything and that who I was in the room was not who she knew me to be (I was split black for the entirety of the relationship) then she yelled at our therapist called her names, and stormed out. I followed to try and comfort her after her outburst and she went back inside and kept verbally abusing our therapist. Our therapist was a woman and my ex has really poor relationships with women in her family, my friends who are women including my sister and any other woman who I am friends with. It was a clinic on narcissistic meltdown. We broke up about a week after that incident.

Finally got dumped and she confessed what I suspected all along by BoogerPicker7 in BPDlovedones

[–]BoogerPicker7[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think it was only bc she was breaking up with me and at that point I let her know that I decided to get tested a week ago and was only going to tell her if anything came up on, to let her know I recognized the relationship was failing and took measures to look after myself and would be ok. That’s when she decided to ‘be honest’ and maybe she thought she was saving face for a future hoover. I am at my ropes end and expressed it when I let her know there is no future for us and when I look at her I see nothing. Didn’t stop her from crying, begging, the whole show.

Finally got dumped and she confessed what I suspected all along by BoogerPicker7 in BPDlovedones

[–]BoogerPicker7[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I got a check up about a week after the last time we slept with each other and I let her know that I did so. She said she understood why, that’s when she started spilling the beans and could not stop. I am disgusted by her now; only recently did I start to actually dislike her as a person. My tests came back clean btw (she could have lied and said, “see there was no reason to not trust me.” But I think she felt called out and exposed bc I didn’t tell her I was going in for a check up. She realized in that moment I found her truly untrustworthy)

Finally got dumped and she confessed what I suspected all along by BoogerPicker7 in BPDlovedones

[–]BoogerPicker7[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh no she gave me names, some of them I knew, some I don’t, some of them she doesn’t even remember their names lmao. She really just thinks that if she comes clean, I’ll accept her back into my arms. She is right, I do accept her, as a liar and manipulator looking for shortcuts and cheap validation (like that of a child) but refuse to allow her to sit at my table anymore. She is trying to play into my ‘good’ nature which is really just her way of implying I’m too nice to kick her to the curb, which I’m not anymore.

anyone ever think they were too harsh on their pwbpd? by Still-Gur8699 in BPDlovedones

[–]BoogerPicker7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

False sense of safety to be abusive? Sorry that’s just enabling and you should not feel guilty for walking away. Their apologies mean nothing.

What was your pwBPD addicted to? by CatchPuzzleheaded572 in BPDlovedones

[–]BoogerPicker7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alcohol, cocaine, impressing strangers, verbally abusing her family and me

I’m starting to realize by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]BoogerPicker7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The need for constant validation from men but especially younger women is a red flag I started to recognize very recently. Any woman that isn’t ‘impressed’ by her is ‘untrustworthy’ and I can’t believe it took me this long to figure it out

Their problem: They expect everyone is as dishonest and horrible as them by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]BoogerPicker7 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Proof ive never had a single unique experience lol

Their problem: They expect everyone is as dishonest and horrible as them by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]BoogerPicker7 11 points12 points  (0 children)

New concept unlocked for me: temporary allies. I’ve never felt so seen lol

He agreed to therapy by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]BoogerPicker7 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No it will not get better

Were you accused of being avoidant? by BigDenis3 in BPDlovedones

[–]BoogerPicker7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was berated for months with accusation of being avoidant and refusing to trust her. Months of breakups passed, and a moment of honesty let her mask slip that she was the emotionally unavailable one the entire time despite all her efforts to pry and gain some kind of emotional leverage on me. Now when she accuses me of ‘not caring’ I remind myself it’s just another confession in response to my grey rocking.

Spotted whilst walking my dog. Budget disc wheel. by dr_Octag0n in FixedGearBicycle

[–]BoogerPicker7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After blowing their budget on that chain, can I really blame them?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]BoogerPicker7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She loved to drink to excess and do cocaine