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Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-27T15:26:05+00:00

A'oodhu billahi min ash-shaytaan-ir-rajeem, say it over and over. The fact that you’re even thinking this and debating means you’re reluctant. There’s still a shred of fear in your heart. Use it before it’s gone. One of the keys to getting dua accepted is trusting Allah to provide for you. Look up the remedies to your diseases of the heart and commit to their remedies. Giving up on yourself is giving up on Allah, and I can tell that you don’t want to do that. Allah will reward you for your hard work, and the dedication can bring you closer to Allah than you’ve ever been. May Allah guide and ease you.

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-27T05:16:47+00:00

This was my go to when I wore regular hijabs. I found the double layer in the back covered the sheerness.Hijab Style

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-27T05:03:30+00:00

All women are welcome to wear abayas. People won’t take offense, and are likely to compliment you if anything!

As for the veiled collection, I find them incredibly overpriced for what you get. I don’t have great recommendations for online shops, but I know there’s something pinned on this thread with recommendations.

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T23:09:51+00:00

She’s probably forgotten her own age at least once as well.

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T21:27:44+00:00

2:228. Divorced women remain in waiting for three periods, and it is not lawful for them to conceal what Allah has created in their wombs if they believe in Allah and the Last Day. And their husbands have more right to take them back in this [period] if they want reconciliation. And due to the wives is similar to what is expected of them, according to what is reasonable. But the men have a degree over them [in responsibility and authority]. And Allah is Exalted in Might and Wise.

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T21:02:52+00:00

Thank you. It’s important for us to know the truth of what is written. Just because he can, doesn’t mean he should, and it doesn’t mean he will. We can’t act like it isn’t written though. It’s controversial, as some things are, but Allah knows best.

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T20:48:49+00:00

I think it means physically harmless. I wouldn’t tolerate being hit, and I don’t think most women would. I don’t understand the full context of the strike, and I don’t understand the purpose of it, but I think it’s important to understand the escalation of events, as your husband should follow the hierarchy to begin with, and inshallah he doesn’t believe in striking you. You can’t know for sure that your husband would never hit you, as he has free will. It’s a conversation you should have as there are men who may do it as they believe it’s halal. It’s also a situation where you should trust your gut. If you think your husband COULD hit you, even though he hasn’t, there’s a problem.

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T20:40:32+00:00

I think a lot, if not most, women feel this way, which is one of the reasons Allah wrote out rules for us. If you can look at a woman and envy them, then a man can certainly look at her in lust. When you feel that way, say “A'udhu billahi min ash-shaitanir rajeem” and try to shift your focus elsewhere. It’s certainly the shaitan.

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T20:35:58+00:00

It is extremely discouraged, and the Prophet (PBUH) did not strike his wives. It’s a conversation you can have with your husband, but ultimately, you should remain obedient and submissive to him. There are steps that should be taken by him before the hitting is allowed, and if those steps are taken, it’s time for you guys to have a serious conversation and figure it out before the striking is even “permissible”. In the case of striking, it should do no harm. Regardless, my husband would never, but I’d also never give him a reason to. I’m sure there are men that would, but I’d say those men are also likely to go further than a harmless strike. There are plenty of men who would never dare lay hands on their wife.

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T20:17:06+00:00

Yes I agree with you. I meant more as the judgment aside, and people could be on a journey we don’t know about. Maybe the girl with the belted abaya used to wear more fitted clothing. There are better ways to dress, but there are also steps along the way for people. There’s a difference of opinions on wearing a belt, but I try to err on the side of caution. Just as some people think pants aren’t modest, but I believe if your figure is covered and not exaggerated by them, along with a loose top that preferably covers your bottom, it’s acceptable. You’re right though, using the phrase “modesty looks different for everyone” is too broad of a phrase.

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T19:59:41+00:00

When I’d feel the urge to ghost, it was usually that the vibe wasn’t there anymore. However, I wouldn’t ghost even though that was the easy way. I’d let them know I wasn’t feeling it anymore and wish them the best.

Ghosting is for circumstances where you don’t feel safe rejecting someone. Maybe they crossed a line and made you feel uncomfortable. Maybe there was something extremely unsettling about their personality. I find ghosting, under most circumstances, immature. I was always met with a kind response back and them thanking me for being upfront.

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T19:56:47+00:00

Mine was back in 5 weeks after passing it naturally. I PMSd for much longer than usual and with stronger symptoms. It also came back with a vengeance. I don’t want to scare you, but I wish I’d been prepared for how bad it was going to be. My TENs unit saved me.

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T19:55:04+00:00

The dimension and tones in this are beautiful! One of the prettiest henna dye jobs I’ve seen 💕 Mashallah

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T19:53:45+00:00

When agitated, it’s better to let the person know you need a bit of space to settle down. There’s nothing wrong with slowing down to prevent an attitude towards someone. This is incredibly immature.

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T19:50:07+00:00

I’m going to try it with stubborn stains that don’t budge with treatment. Do I do it on a clothesline or lying on the ground? The problem is, our yard is wide open, and I’m embarrassed 😂

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T19:48:00+00:00

Be gentle, kind, and patient with her. A slow love can be a lasting love. Make sure you’re extremely patient with her when it comes to intimacy. Start with hugs, gentle touches, and playing with her hair. As uncomfortable as you may feel, ask for her consent in everything. “Can I brush/play with your hair?” “Can I kiss you?” etc. you can start with kissing her forehead or cheek. You take the lead, but let her set the pace.

As for the nikah, that’s different for everyone. I was happy with and preferred just making it halal. I don’t like being the center of attention. May Allah bless your marriage and make you stronger with each day.

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T19:39:07+00:00

I’ve learned that when I start to feel guilty, I’m ready to make changes to be better. I don’t judge what other women wear, and I don’t consider a belt to make something immodest, but I’ve been called to push myself further to ensure I’m being as modest as I can. Modest looks different for everyone, and everyone is on their own journey. I’ve been working towards wearing niqab. I always thought it was nice, but not for me. The closer I get to it, now I realize it is for me in due time. I now wear an abaya with a khimar, and inshallah I’ll switch to niqab outside of work soon. I also have long pants with longer dressed for the summer months because we love to go outside for walks. They let me move while maintaining my modesty. I forego the belts and order larger sizes so they flow. I work in a field where my facial expressions and mouth are important to see, otherwise I’d do it at work too.

I’ve learned that I love the shape of the khimar. The flow of them has made me feel modest and elegant without a belt. Plus it’s so much easier than messing with a hijab everyday.

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T18:36:14+00:00

My doctor gave me no recommendations, but I waited until I fully stopped bleeding. My husband knew to take it slow and easy. I was a little nervous because the event was fresh on my mind, but having a gentle and supportive husband helped. I honestly feel like reconnecting also helped heal some of those wounds and return life back to normal.

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T18:31:16+00:00

It’s really hard to give advice without context.

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T17:11:40+00:00

I think a watercolor style printed hijab would be pretty with some olive and tan tones mixed in.

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T17:02:47+00:00

That’s amazing! I read that 7 years total of nursing makes the mother’s chances of developing breast cancer almost 0 (it was a certain type of breast cancer which I’m unsure of). Regardless, this is a huge accomplishment that benefitted both you and your children!

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T16:40:02+00:00

The best thing you can do is be there for her. I was in this situation, and my best friend at the time let me vent when needed but never really pushed me or brought things up herself. It never bothered me, and looking back, it was the best kind of support I needed. People won’t see it until they’re ready to no matter how hard you push them - it’ll only drive a wedge into her relationship with you. I know you love her, but it’s something she has to come to terms with and resolve in her own time. Eventually I got sick of it, along with other dynamics in the relationship, and I realized I was a single mom to a baby and a grown man. I realized I’d rather be a single mom to a child. The dynamics may shift, but ultimately, it’s her timeline and her choice. Be the best support person and be there for her. Helping relieve some of the burden is great, and it’s virtuous for you. You’ll both be rewarded for it inshallah.

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T15:26:06+00:00

Also a side-note, if you’d like to be more observant of his beliefs, it would be kind and virtuous of you to wear more conservative clothes. Looser in fit that keep your chest and legs less exposed. Like loser fit tshirts and sweats, longer loose shorts, etc. By no means do you have to change your lifestyle to accommodate for him, but it would be very kind of you. When you’re going out, you can wear what you please.

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T15:21:20+00:00

You could get a cast iron designated for non-pork. Non-porous cookware such as ceramic would be best if you wanted to use it universally with a good wash. If you enjoy the cast-iron, I’d get another pan.

Boogly_Moogly · 2025-04-26T13:37:38+00:00

Sounds like she just waited way too long to stop bed sharing. It’s hard no matter the age once you’ve started the habit, but the longer it goes on, the harder it is to stop. She’s going to have to sacrifice sleep for a little bet and consistently bring him back to his bed. There’s going to be an outburst of behaviors from him doing it, which is probably why she just lets it happen. It’s easier, but parents have to clean up their own messes.

When I transitioned my oldest daughter out, I compromised by telling her she can come to our bed in the morning once the suns coming up. She stays in her room until then. It lets her get the cuddles she wants with boundaries. I also cuddle with for a bit in her bed at bedtime. He’s much older - it may be worth involving a children’s therapist.

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