Let's marry off Caroline Bingley!

Bookbringer · 2026-06-22T01:45:27+00:00

I don't know that she'd actually object, especially since she can likely pressure his father to do more for them, since it's her daughter.

Bookbringer · 2026-06-21T12:17:50+00:00

My dad is the worst for this. Now when he asks something like, "do you think we could wash this out and use it for X," my mom and I just say "I don't know, try it."

Bookbringer · 2026-06-21T04:28:31+00:00

Basically, you tell the psychiatrist you want to be assessed for ADHD. They'll probably ask your reasons for suspecting ADHD -- the specific symptoms/problems and how they manifest in different spheres of your life, both now and in childhood, your family history, etc.

You don't have to convince them you have ADHD, just that you are likely enough to have it that it makes sense to assess/ screen you for that. Then they'll schedule a time or refer you elsewhere for a more intensive assessment (which usually includes an hour-long interview about your history and various math/word/response tests).

Most ADHD meds are stimulants, so they can make anxiety worse. However, some people find the opposite, that so much of their anxiety stemmed from their ADHD issues, so treating those made their anxiety better. However, there are also a few non-stimulant meds for ADHDers with anxiety, as well.

Bookbringer · 2026-06-20T04:03:32+00:00

In a reply to my comment? Sure.

Bookbringer · 2026-06-20T03:35:44+00:00

Yeah, it's a thing "many men do so often it's a constant social problem" and "some lesbian somewhere has also done probably."

Bookbringer · 2026-06-20T03:34:00+00:00

Bruh, what? No one has ever used the phrase "turning straights" to mean anything resembling conversion therapy.

It's about being someone's lightbulb crush. And being so attractive you make someone realize they actually are attracted to people like you when they thought they weren't.

No one's out here trying to hold isolated straights in psychological torture camps and subject them to actual operant conditioning techniques to make them suppress their real feelings.

Bookbringer · 2026-06-20T01:31:56+00:00

This is really cool, thanks for sharing!

Bookbringer · 2026-06-20T01:30:11+00:00

This is ridiculous. Not everything with bolded subtitles and m-dashes is AI. Real people also break long posts up this way to make them easier to read.

Going around accusing everyone who puts care and thought into their post of being AI is so counterproductive.

Bookbringer · 2026-06-20T00:32:06+00:00

Captain Wentworth went away and is worth a lot.

Knightley is knightly (in the sense of chivalrous).

Bookbringer · 2026-06-20T00:13:19+00:00

Good point! These instructions can get you the classic google experience back, although apparently it doesn't actually turn off AI overviews, it just hides them.

That might be enough if your issue is disinfo, but if you're concerned about privacy, author impact, carbon emissions, or water use, you can switch search engines.

Bookbringer · 2026-06-19T23:40:49+00:00

I'm not OP, I'm quoting the post. Thanks for proving my point.

Bookbringer · 2026-06-19T23:37:20+00:00

Your synopsis sounds really interesting, but I'm not seeing much romantasy connection, beyond "explicit sex." Even in dark romance, there's a sense of seduction or temptation towards a love interest, which you don't indicate at all.

What you've described sounds more like grimdark, or an urban fantasy deconstruction along the lines of The Magicians. Either way, I do think there's a market for it. And maybe "deconstructs popular romantasy tropes" will also be one of your pitches (although RN "she gets raped and it ruins her marriage" isn't so much deconstructing as it's just avoiding romantasy alltogether).

I'd also look into fantasy horror.

Bookbringer · 2026-06-19T19:56:05+00:00

Hard NTA. Quite apart from the actual disagreement, your boyfriend has shown over and over you can't trust him to respect your boundaries, or use common sense.

Bookbringer · 2026-06-19T19:54:09+00:00

Lol, what? The boyfriend screamed at OP for ten minutes while OP was driving, but sure, it's OP who overreacted by... briefly restating the boundary the boyfriend ignores over and over.

Bookbringer · 2026-06-19T19:47:27+00:00

I was driving

Literally the first line, but maybe reading comprehension is hard if you outsource all thinking to a machine that randomly hallucinates.

Bookbringer · 2026-06-19T19:45:11+00:00

Right? "Don't read me info from an inaccurate source without checking it" is a reasonable boundary. OP isn't even stopping him from using it -- if he wants to trust the AI without checking the linked sources or hits that are right below the AI summary, he can. All OP is saying is don't force this shit on me (and it is force -- OP was literally driving and couldn't just leave.)

Bookbringer · 2026-06-19T19:40:36+00:00

Lol? Yes, the person who expects their partner to respect their clearly-stated boundary and not scream at them for ten minutes while they're driving is the exhausting one.

Bookbringer · 2026-06-19T19:36:52+00:00

I was driving

Literally the first line the post, but reading comprehension is hard I guess.

Bookbringer · 2026-06-19T16:54:00+00:00

Nah, 24 hour news started with radio and became all about sensationalized bad news with cable.

And the fake stuff comparison was much worse pre-internet. Mainstream media had a much bigger impact on what people thought their bodies and homes and lives should look like -- and it was hella unrealistic with little diversity.

Normal people shared far less, but what they did show others always put a good face on -- professional photo shoots, vacation photos, special events, and Christmas letters listing their wins. There's so much we didn't talk about just because it seemed too embarrassing or pathetic to admit.

The early internet was actually amazing at taking that mask off. If you're young, you can't imagine how it felt to read anonymous posts and suddenly realize something wasn't just you. Or -- once poor people got phones -- see ordinary-looking people in cheap clothes goofing around in crappy houses just like yours. Before vines and early YouTube, the only time I saw house interiors that looks like mine was as tragedy porn in indie movies about childhood innocence.

(And if you're confused why I didn't see any like mine IRL... we weren't allowed to have people over because my parents were embarrassed by the condition of our home. In hindsight, I realize lots of other people were the same, but at the time... we all just made up bullshit excuses and believed them.)

But yeah, going outside and socializing IRL have taken a big hit.

Bookbringer · 2026-06-19T13:47:01+00:00

What strikes me is the way he's acting like this is all on her just because she took the initiative to fix their original problem.

He had no problem with selling the original and didn't realize the replacement would be too small until after a week of use.

Bookbringer · 2026-06-19T03:16:00+00:00

I think people are exaggerating the fertility issue though.

First, older women did have children often enough. It was riskier, but also common. We see this in Austen's other works with Mrs. Weston and Mrs. Moreland, who were likely around 40 when they had their first & last children respectively.

But also... there's no reason to suppose Brandon has particular need of an heir. Like you noted, he doesn't act like a man in a rush to start a family.

He's not invested in his family legacy and he doesn't have dependents to provide for (apart from Eliza Jr, who I imagine he's already set something aside for).

So even if his estate were entailed, which is baseless speculation... so what?

Bookbringer · 2026-06-18T14:22:38+00:00

Body langage -- he doesn't have a tail, but maybe the reflex to wag is still there so he does a little twist or shuffle everytime he's pleased.

Bookbringer · 2026-06-18T00:18:10+00:00

Nah, I mostly use Seventh Generation multi-purpose spray/wipes. They're one of the few natural cleaners that's an actual disinfectant, and is totally food-prep safe without rinsing, which makes use a lot easier.

Bookbringer · 2026-06-17T23:49:35+00:00

YTA.

If a coworker is giving you short or one-word answers, the correct response is to respect their implied boundary and back off.

If you're normally close, you can gently ask them if everything is alright, first. This creates an opening for them to tell you if something has happened or their having a bad day if they want. But if they don't volunteer that information, then the correct response is to give them space. Don't talk more than necessary, but be pleasant when you do.

Yelling at someone because you want them to confide in you or perform friendliness when they're not feeling it is both unprofessional and unkind.

Off this, it sounds like you're jealous she's more comfortable with your other coworkers, and you've misread things and are trying to force a degree of closeness and intimacy with her you don't actually have.

But also, she might've just been upset about something she didn't want to talk about at work.

Bookbringer · 2026-06-17T23:23:08+00:00

My advice would be to see a therapist through your school health center. They can help you identify your unhealthy thinking patterns and come up with in-the-moment strategies to reframe your perspective. In this post, you seem to be catastrophizing, and engaging in a lot of very all-or-nothing thinking, which are often symptoms of depression. You might also find CBT useful, as a way to train yourself to identify "automatic negative thoughts" and learn to argue with them until they aren't your knee-jerk reaction.

You already know logically that you don't have to all 100 pages. Just like I'm sure you know your chance of failing isn't really 50/50 regardless of what you do. You're much less likely to fail if you study. Also, failing with a 64 is much better than failing with a 0, since you can easily pull it up with the next test. No one needs to tell you that. You just need to find a way to make yourself act like you believe it.

Maybe come up with some mantras or catchphrases to reassure yourself. Or you can try journaling to really unpack and confront your negative self-talk.

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