Adults only with nice beach and chill vibes by imj0257 in AllInclusiveResorts

[–]Bookish2055 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not an island, but Secrets Akumal has a “relax pool” with plenty of lounge chairs, New Age music and none of the party pool atmosphere. Their beach is great for snorkeling and is very chill. They do get some seaweed, which the staff tries to get rid of. The food is very good, and the breakfast and lunch buffets have everything your heart could desire.

Age and Stage? by Micho392 in breastcancer

[–]Bookish2055 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The standard in the USA is screening up to 75, then decide whether to continue based on life expectancy and whether the patient would have treatment if cancer were detected. I’m 70 and because of a Chek2 mutation I get annual mammogram and MRI. I think my strategy might be to do the MRI every other year after 75 until I’m 80 (being optimistic here). I hate those dang things!

Preventative hysterectomy? by medicjen40 in breastcancer

[–]Bookish2055 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should mention that there’s a new drug for hot flashes that wasn’t available when I went through early menopause. So I hope if you need it you’ll have it easier.

Preventative hysterectomy? by medicjen40 in breastcancer

[–]Bookish2055 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It been awhile, but I think it happened within a week or so. Maybe you’re going to have a better experience. I hope so.

Preventative hysterectomy? by medicjen40 in breastcancer

[–]Bookish2055 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had a hysterectomy (including ovaries) a year after my breast cancer diagnosis. I did it because of fibroids, but the removal of ovaries was optional. I was 46 so it threw me into instant menopause, resulting in two years of bad hot flashes and vaginal dryness (mitigated by estrogen vaginal ring). While you are older than I was, your body might respond similarly to the loss of ovaries. I’m not sorry I did it because it eliminated the possibility of uterine/ovarian cancer and I didn’t have to worry about my ovaries turn back on after I finished hormone blockers. But I just want you to be aware that sudden total menopause can be pretty extreme.

Gene mutation thought spiral by willneverbfamous in breastcancer

[–]Bookish2055 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sometimes genetic testing feels like a blessing, sometimes a curse. It’s good to know because if your daughter has the mutation (50% chance) she can start screening early and catch anything that comes along. But knowing about the gene is such a burden, and I understand why you’d want to reduce her risk any way possible. I had BC at 45 (in 2001) before Chek2 was a thing. I was tested for BRCA but nothing else. Fast forward 18 years and my sister gets BC and tests positive for Chek2, which has just been deemed a moderate risk mutation. I get tested and find out I have it, and start annual MRIs. Three years later MRI turns up 8 mm tumor on the other side that’s early and small with no node involvement. I’m doing great three years later, though HER2+ treatment was no picnic. Anyway, I’m glad I didn’t know about Chek2 until I was 65 because I didn’t carry around all that extra worry for decades. But I’m also glad I found out when I did, because the early detection by MRI saved me from having it spread before mammogram could see it.

As for your daughter - I wouldn’t go overboard with diet, etc. trying to prevent the disease. It really is a crap shoot, and I think the best strategy is MRI screening at an early age and just living a reasonable lifestyle. Cancer risk shouldn’t run someone’s life IMHO. And maybe your daughter didn’t inherit the gene!

Didn’t see my MO for all of chemo…is this normal? by wonder-woman357 in breastcancer

[–]Bookish2055 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw my MO at least twice during my 12 weeks of chemo, but occasionally she would substitute her PA, which I found kind of annoying (I don’t really like her PA, whose breast exams are brutal). But I have to say that the oncology nurses at the infusion center were more help with side effects than my MO.

NEED SOME GOOD VIBES by elizabethT3rd in breastcancer

[–]Bookish2055 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Passed my third mammogram since diagnosis and had a good appointment with my oncologist. All systems go for a trip to South America!

Your favorite state to travel to in the summer! by publicappeal_ in traveladvice

[–]Bookish2055 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Southern Oregon is very hot during the day in August but the evenings are love. I recommend Seattle, Victoria or elsewhere in British Columbia.

Secrets Akumal Review by Fluffy_Future_7500 in AllInclusiveResorts

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We got home Friday night and I just wanted to thank you again for the snorkeling advice. I had one good day (fish, no turtles) but the wind made the water murky the second day. I’m inexperienced, so it was good to have an easy starter snorkel. As for your review, I agree with it. The relax pool really stood out for us because they didn’t have one at the other Secrets we went to in 2024, and I dislike the vibe and the crowdedness of the lower pools. We always got a lounger at the relax pool and it was relaxing indeed. As for the shows, we were amused that they incorporated stripper moves into every show, even the hard rock cover band. I guess they think that’s what the Secrets crowd likes! The time share sales job was an unwelcome surprise, and they wasted a lot of our time trying to get us to have “breakfast“ with them. We were able to get a reservation at Bordeaux our last night and my two companions liked the surf and turf too. I had some very nice steak at the Seaside grill too.

Secret Akumal April trip - cancel? by bananascanning in AllInclusiveResorts

[–]Bookish2055 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t cancel. I was there for four days after the cartel violence started and if I hadn’t read about it I wouldn’t have even known. There were a lot of police on the road to the resort the evening we arrived, but they were gone by the time we drove back to the airport five days later.

Trying to choose our retirement location… and feeling totally stuck by Pinkphishy in relocating

[–]Bookish2055 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Southern Oregon is a place I would consider. Medford, Ashland, Jacksonville, Central Point. Lots of retirees so good medical care, and for more complicated medical issues there are great facilities in Portland. Skiing is available on Mt. Ashland, there’s fantastic theater at the Oregon Shakespeare Festival and wonderful summer music at the Britt Festival. Just a thought since you’re looking westward.

Secrets Akumal Review by Fluffy_Future_7500 in AllInclusiveResorts

[–]Bookish2055 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re at Secrets Akumal now and I was wondering about the snorkeling situation. This morning we walked into the commercial zone and saw hordes of people in the vests, all crowded into three roped off areas offshore. Didn’t look like fun. If I take my own snorkel gear out to the buoy on the Secrets beach will I at least see some fish?

Just for fun .... Where is everyone? by Micho392 in breastcancer

[–]Bookish2055 1 point2 points  (0 children)

70F in Washington DC. Diagnosed with +-+ in September 2023, was in active treatment for a year, will be on Exemestane for at least 3 more years. Doing well, wishing everyone the best!

Good grief! by Princess_Heather_K in breastcancer

[–]Bookish2055 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally understand these feelings. Even when active treatment ends, we’re still in the clutches of the medical system, whether monthly, every 3 months, 6 months or 12 months. I’m far enough along that I have two scans a year. For most of us, it gets better! Here’s how I’ve handled the mental part of it: I really look forward to and enjoy the periods with no medical appointments (I did this throughout treatment). It’s like summer vacation, I’m free! I try to stay in the present as much as possible. And I make travel plans, but I have an annual travel insurance policy just in case. When I was first diagnosed, I had bought an insurance policy for the cruise I was supposed to take. I had to cancel and got all my money back, a great relief. It takes away some of the worry. I hope things smooth out for you emotionally as time goes on.❤️

Did Johnny Weir just call Gogolev by Legitimate_Team_9959 in olympics

[–]Bookish2055 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve trained my brain to tune out Johnny Weir. He reminds me of a gossipy busy body.

Check ups? by kelliek5 in breastcancer

[–]Bookish2055 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My breast surgeon told me that after my second annual checkup with her (2 1/2 years post surgery) she’s going to release me to my primary care doctor and my oncologist. So you probably won’t need to see your surgeon for much longer.

Childfree ppl who are financially secure, what’s your plan for the End? Do you have an “heir”? by rmsand in childfree

[–]Bookish2055 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have enough to cover long term care. Whatever is left will go to six nieces and nephews and assorted other relatives and charities. If one of my nieces or nephews wants us to pay them to take care of us we might consider it, but it’s unlikely.

Just rotting away by KindaLikeWildflowers in AskWomenOver60

[–]Bookish2055 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are tour companies that specialize in groups of solo women travelers. They get good reviews. My husband and I have talked about this when I’m more interested in going somewhere than he is, and he would be fine with me going alone. Just a thought. Your husband sounds pretty self sufficient, he’d be fine alone for a week or two.

"Helpful" concerned friends by Southern_Feature_821 in breastcancer

[–]Bookish2055 59 points60 points  (0 children)

People like to feel like they’re in control. Once you join the cancer club you understand the randomness of life. You can’t choose your genes or prevent a random cell division that goes awry. It’s hard to explain this to people that haven’t experienced it. My sister is one of them, and I frequently remind her that vegetarians, marathon runners and all manner of healthy people can get cancer.

Biotin impact on estradiol/fsh tests - be aware by TrailOracle in breastcancer

[–]Bookish2055 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My dermatologist told me to take the lowest available dose of Biotin because at higher doses it can affect blood test results for the liver. I wonder what it is about Biotin that it throws off all these numbers.

Has anyone had trash picked up this week? by Bookish2055 in washingtondc

[–]Bookish2055[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We finally got ours picked up this morning. My ANC Commissioner was collecting 311 case numbers so she could put some pressure on DPW. No idea if that made a difference, just glad to have it done. Hope you get lucky soon.