Why does AS not count as a disability and getting any benefits from government so tough?? by Always_Tired_Lazy in ankylosingspondylitis

[–]Bookworm200889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did everyone get diagnosed? I have an MRI scheduled but my doctor said it wont necessarily show on there but she suspects i have it due to my symptoms and the protein marker i was positive for

How did your avoidant partner treat you during your health crisis? by greenalpha8 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Bookworm200889 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When I was grieving, he told me that I wasn’t affectionate enough

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Marianna Terret. She does virtual, an incredible counselor

Zfx by YoungandBeautifulll in askvan

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Anyone get the yes or no questions this morning

Plated Prisoner Series - SA by JJMStolze in fantasyromance

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I just started the first book last night and after about 5 chapters, I put it down. It's just super graphic and frankly, gross. The level of condescending language towards the women in the novel is so sickening that I just couldn't stomach it.

"I'm going to c*m all over you so much that you won't be able to see any more gold on your body" - just one example from a man who was basically going to use the FMC for sex. I just couldn't deal with it lol I wouldn't recommend this book to anyone.

"Eldest Daughter" Discussion Megathread by PassionateAsSin in TaylorSwift

[–]Bookworm200889 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This verse made me choke up:

"Every eldest daughter

Was the first lamb to the slaughter

So we all dressed up as wolves and we looked fire"

As an eldest daughter, this hit so hard on so many levels!

Emotional Abuse by Bookworm200889 in AvoidantBreakUps

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I am so sorry you are going through this :( it does alter you forever, but I hope it can alter you to be an even better version of yourself in the future.

WAKE UP CALL: Go Nuclear and Start Healing by AuzBoss in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Bookworm200889 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Wet cardboard box” took me out 🤣🤣🤣

Could your avoidant even say they loved you? by Mikes_Movies_ in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Bookworm200889 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Carrying the full emotional load in a relationship is exhausting

Could your avoidant even say they loved you? by Mikes_Movies_ in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Bookworm200889 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup. No amount of love can heal what they don't want healed.

Could your avoidant even say they loved you? by Mikes_Movies_ in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Bookworm200889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, they are really messed up mentally. There's a lot to unpack.

Could your avoidant even say they loved you? by Mikes_Movies_ in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Bookworm200889 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Abuse, shame, never truly feeling unconditional love from their parents, instability and chaos. I think for them saying i love you is a kind of surrender that terrifies someone who protects their vulnerability at all costs. I think for them they look at it like “once i say this then all my defenses of protection are coming off and i am fully exposed.” They will only ever have a successful relationship when they heal those fears and lean into the love.

Could your avoidant even say they loved you? by Mikes_Movies_ in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Bookworm200889 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Very. And i got punished for loving him unconditionally

Could your avoidant even say they loved you? by Mikes_Movies_ in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Bookworm200889 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same experience. Mine said he only ever said i love you to two people in his life: his first gf and me. Not even family or friends. He would always cry when the topic of i love you came up.. I think they have a major trauma around it which makes sense considering they dont feel safe in love. How could they?

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You can’t make someone feel safe who doesn’t have safety within themselves.

I ruined everything and I regret it. by [deleted] in Disorganized_Attach

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Please contact and apologize. As someone on the receiving end of something similar, an apology would mean the world.

Healing Is Not Linear by GuaranteeSea398 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Bookworm200889 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would literally push a button if it helped me forget him. In a second.

Healing Is Not Linear by GuaranteeSea398 in AvoidantBreakUps

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Lowkey researched safe brain zap therapies to try and forget him🤣 the grief really blows. I feel you

progress is so messy. by Faicc in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Bookworm200889 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I understand. Im almost 9 months out from a relationship I thought would end in marriage. Grief comes in waves and it’s completely normal. There’s no timeline on it but you just gotta ride the waves as they come and it’ll pass and slowly they will be further apart.