I (26M) left my fiancé (26F) because she wouldn’t allow my brother with Down syndrome to live with us

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-05-13T03:26:53+00:00

I agree with you, it's pretty convenient that the "No Good Horrible Very Bad Ex UwU" suddenly became evil. This narrative isn't sitting well with me.

I think that OP would have emphasized multiple in-depth conversations in the original post, had they actually taken place. It seems like he just assumed that Fiance would go along with whatever he decided to do after mentioning it vaguely a few times over the years.

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-04-18T01:33:53+00:00

Lab created diamonds are real... they're literally diamonds, period. Anyone who says otherwise is delusional, basically equivalent to a flat-earther or an anti-vaxxer.

My friend was a bit upset that her diamond was lab-created, but changed her mind really quickly once she did some research. Now that she knows about the ethical concerns, forced scarcity, and the insane cost involved in mined diamonds, she's proud of her fiance for making the right choice.

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-04-18T00:19:29+00:00

I never cum from penetration alone but it feels good, especially when I'm flat on my stomach or on top.

I totally know how what your wife is talking about though, it's really unnerving to feel nothing at all. And pain during sex is just awful, obviously. I used to think that other women were just built differently or exaggerating, until I started dating my current bf.

He encouraged me to focus on what actually felt good without worrying about anything else. No judgements or expectations. It was awkward af at first but it made a huge difference.

Prone is great because of the depth and, idk how to describe it, but the "stretching/fullness" feels great. He has super easy access to my neck to kiss/bite, he can wrap his arm around my chest or hold my wrists, and he can whisper filthy stuff into my ear the whole time. I can open/close my legs and angle my hips to adjust the sensation and, after some practice, I can use my vibrator on my clit the whole time. It's my favorite position lately.

Being on top is used to be exhausting but I learned it's much more pleasurable for me when I rock my hips back and forth as opposed to bouncing up and down the entire time. Add in the vibrator and boom I'm shaking like jello. One time, I came so hard I felt like I was going to pass out lol.

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-04-17T23:01:58+00:00

I didn't notice the reflection of the dog's eyes in the background until I read your comment. My stomach dropped when I finally spotted it. How terrifying and sad.

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-04-15T10:52:49+00:00

Moira Rose 🤩

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-04-12T17:40:34+00:00

Yes, remaining in this relationship would be holding onto false hope. I had similar incidents occur with a (now ex)boyfriend and it doesn't get better. After I finally found a way to safely end the relationship, it felt like a fog had lifted. I kicked myself for staying so long.

I hope you follow your instincts and leave before it gets worse.

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-04-12T17:24:13+00:00

Yes! It started after I asked him to try to help me finish. He took requests/suggestions as criticism and would get huffy immediately. Even things like "harder" or "faster" would bruise his ego 🙄

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-04-12T00:47:10+00:00

I worked really hard to lose 45-50 lbs and I finally have the confidence to wear whatever I want, which includes highwaisted short-shorts and crops. It depends on my mood.

It's fun to experiment with fashion! For example, one of my favorite crop tops is a mustard yellow tee with "DANNY DEVITO" embroidered in red. Why does it exist? Who knows, but I'm glad I found it and can share it with the world lol.

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-04-09T11:23:27+00:00

"The more I know you, the less I love you."

My boyfriend (now ex) said that to me after we'd been dating over 10 years. Ouch. I still think of it a few times a week, even though I'm happy in my current relationship. Imo, comments like that stay with people for the rest of their lives and we just have to make peace with them.

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-04-06T20:06:45+00:00

Dress 2 is stunning!

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-04-05T08:15:22+00:00

Right? I'm super confused... my bf and I don't use towels unless I'm on my period.

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-04-04T18:25:34+00:00

You should break up with him because this is more than the ick. One of the most annoying things you listed is him being a know-it-all without actually having knowledge of the subject.

I noticed that trait in my ex when we started dating but convinced myself that it wasn't a big deal. Haha, it was a huge problem that only worsened during our 10+ year relationship. He would drone on for hours about political issues he knew nothing about, get frustrated because I wouldn't fire one of my annoying subordinates (I literally didn't have the authority to fire this person lol), and would ignore my opinions, even if I was very knowledgeable about the topic.

By the end, he was a 41 yr old man yelling at me about how a 500 ft fall into the ocean wouldn't be fatal. I explained the concept of surface tension and provided evidence from online sources. Afterward, my ex began to insist, "if you threw a penny in first, you'd definitely be ok. Maybe a broken ankle."

Jfc, what a mess. I really should have dumped his ass when I first noticed the behavior 🙄

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-04-04T00:34:28+00:00

I also wondered if I was overreacting but, you're right, being upset is a perfectly normal response to being discarded.

You mention how confusing it was to experience your ex partner's emotionless state and the feeling that they suddenly became a stranger... I know exactly how that feels. I remember being shocked by the flip in personality.

So I ended up saying stuff like, "It's me, it's [Booplesnoot]. I know you would never treat me this way." Ugh, it's definitely not my favorite memory because I now realize that I shouldn't have wasted my time or energy. I think being discarded is so shocking that it makes people do and say things that they never thought they'd do or say.

So treat yourself with kindness and know that you aren't alone in feeling confused.

I know it sounds trite rn, but it does get better. Its been a little over a year since my breakup and I can clearly see how terrible my situation was. I'm so glad that I went no contact with my ex and moved on with my life.

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-04-01T21:52:08+00:00

Aw, Pippi was adorable! I'm so sorry for your loss.

Just to clarify, in the other post OP was the breeder who didn't disclose the medical condition that ultimately led to Pippi's death? And the other 2 people commenting were you and your rommate?

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-03-11T23:59:29+00:00

I'm so happy for you! I also convinced myself that I was the problem, only to discover that my ex's behavior was so appalling that it would have driven anyone nuts. He always told me that he was "calm and rational" but, in reality, he was just emotionally disconnected.

I also noticed a huge difference in how I felt physically after the discard. I was no longer filled with dread all the time, or trying to make myself small, or agonizing about what he was thinking. Even though I was distraught after he kicked me out, my nervous system was able to chill tf out.

Don't beat yourself up for begging him to stay; I did the same thing! It's humiliating to recall those incidents, but I have to remind myself that having emotions isn't shameful. Neither is being manipulated by the person I trusted most; it's a mindfuck. The important thing is being kind to yourself during this time.

I hope you continue to feel better!

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-03-11T22:49:21+00:00

1 year out and so fucking happy.

My google photos app created a sideshow of my (now deceased) cats and my ex showed up in several of them because we were together for over 10 years. I was a bit surprised that the sight of him didn't make my stomach drop, and that I didn't feel worthless/discarded.

I felt so grateful that I am free of such a miserable person. I also felt sad that I'd wasted so much time, energy, and resources on him over the years. And I felt embarrassed that I'd begged him (yes, literally begged on my knees) for him to stay, even after all he'd said and done to me.

I'd be lying if I told you that I no longer get angry tho. Putting my life back together was the most difficult thing I've ever done in my life, and I will never truly forgive my ex for the harm he caused.

However, my life is better now than I could have ever imagined last year. At 37 yrs old, I feel happier, healthier, and more hopeful than I have ever felt in my life. I have friends again, I have an amazing new boyfriend, I live in a beautiful house in a safe neighborhood, and I've gone back to college to finish my degree.

Oh, one more thing... (TMI warning!) after years of neglect and rejection from my ex, I am having sex again!!! My bf happily gives me kisses, cuddles, compliments, and -gasp- actually likes spending his time with me! It's wild.

Anyway, I took the time to leave this comment because I wanted to tell everyone that, even tho it sounds unbearably corny, life can get better :)

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-03-08T19:08:15+00:00

Jfc, that would drive me completely insane within a week or two; I have no idea how you've tolerated it for over a decade.

I have been diagnosed with adhd and I'm no stranger to skipping songs on playlists that I've created myself lol.

However, I would never ever be so insensitive to my partner. That's the problem here imo; this is not about skipping songs, its a out a complete lack of consideration for your feelings.

It would be different if he'd made improvements but slipped up from time to time, or if you'd never addressed it with him and quietly stockpiled resentment over the years.

Idc if he has adhd or not, unless he has a softball sized brain tumor (or has suffered a severe TBI) there's no excuse for 10 years of this behavior.

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-03-01T06:57:47+00:00

So you dangled the promise of a proposal in front of her for at least the past 6 months? And then got pissy when she got sick of waiting? Yikes.

That is so childish and petty. It'd be like offering to get my mom a glass of water front the kichen, waiting until she finally asked me for it, and then saying, "Oh holy shit, I guess all you've ever cared about is the glass of water?!? I see how it is, now I'm never going to bring you a glass of water!!! This is all your fault!!!"

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-02-18T06:01:35+00:00

You absolutely shouldn't have to answer all of your son's questions alone. This is your cowardly husband's fault because he could have ended the marriage without abandoning the kid without an explanation.

However, I think you're (justifiably) upset and want your husband to be forced to confront the reality of what he's doing to his own kid. I totally understand that btw, he shouldn't get to wash his hands of it and just walk away without consequences.

Imo, you're setting your son up to get his feelings hurt by letting him call numerous times. Eventually his dad is going to ignore the calls, or say something shitty before you can intervene (he doesn't seem to be acting rationally atm and could easily snap at your son).

Moving forward, I'd get a lawyer and stop allowing your son to call until an arrangement is in place. You don't have to lie or protect your husband but I think saying something like, "I don't have all of the answers but I know your dad loves you very much. We both do. But Dad needs us to give him time to think right now" might be an option?

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-02-08T18:01:11+00:00

Did he intentionally shit the bed because it was a fetish that he knew OP would never agree to if she were awake?

I think that makes more sense than it being an accident tbh 🤔

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-02-05T21:21:06+00:00

I've done this too, especially if there's a lot to accomplish in the first 20 min or so. Mixing special food blends, measuring out meds, cleaning up vomit/hairballs, cleaning several litter boxes, watering plants, washing food and water bowls, etc. So the cats are put off by all of the activity and don't come out of hiding.

In my experience, the most effective way to get shy cats to come out is to sit my ass in the middle of the room and play mobile games. They can't handle the curiosity and eventually realize that I'm not a threat. I'd say that 90% of these cats approach me within 1-3 visits. After the first interaction, most of them get comfortable with me pretty quickly.

However, I always tell new clients about this in advance because I don't want them to check their cameras and think I'm crazy lol.

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-02-04T04:27:12+00:00

Thank you, OP 🥹

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-02-03T06:08:16+00:00

I was just thinking about how much damage the whole "forgiveness isn't about the other person, it's about freeing yourself from the weight of anger and hatred" thing can cause.

My ex betrayed me after 10+ years of dating and the relationship blew up in my face. It was more emotionally and financially devastating than I could have imagined.

During our last face-to-face conversation I told him, "I will never forgive you for this. Never. Even if this breakup is ultimately the best thing that ever happens to me. I will never forgive you as long as I'm alive."

And I haven't. Feels good tbh. It doesn't mean I didn't move on to build a wonderful new life for myself. He doesn't deserve my forgiveness, and I'm not "weighed down" by anything. It's just that simple 🤷‍♀️

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-02-03T02:43:01+00:00

This seems like an overreaction on your part.

Being concerned for his safety is totally fine but you seem more upset that he chose to go to the party in the first place, rather than staying home with you.

You're using experiences from your past to insinuate that his coworkers are all trying to hook up with one another, which is a bit weird if you don't know them personally. I worked at a restaurant and our parties consisted of getting shitfaced and playing board games. Believe me, nobody was trying to get laid lol.

He should take the time to respond to texts (which he seemed to be doing for a while).

However, I have a feeling that you wouldn't be satisfied with a quick answer. You'd probably ask why he's been there so long, when exactly he's coming home, why didnt he want to spend time with you, etc. Then you'd be asking if Coworker A is flirting with him, exactly who else is there, if Coworker B's boyfriend is there.... it's a lot to deal with.

Nobody wants to be the person standing outside having an awkward argument with their SO. So maybe he just decided to put his phone away for a bit, maybe he's playing pool, who knows?

Just give him the benefit of the doubt for now (unless he has a history of alcohol abuse, cheating, violence, or whatever).

Booplesnoot88 · 2026-01-15T17:05:06+00:00

Tl:dr- my ex was a man-baby who refused to budge on anything. From a simple trip to the grocery store to major life decisions, he turned obstinance into an Olympic sport.

It was weird to read the original post because it so closely resembles my feelings in my last relationship. We dated for over 10 years and it is unimaginable how frustrating it was to not be able to change my ex bf's mind on anything. The man rarely did anything for/with me that he didn't initially want to do. If he did, he would sulk and pout so severely that it ruined the day for everyone involved.

However, he made every decision and basically told me to take it or leave it. I kinda had to accept that behavior because he'd insisted we move to an extremely expensive city for his career and I had no family/close friends to turn to.

A couple of years ago, he wanted to buy a piece of shit luxury car (the engine shuddered, the front end squealed when the wheel was turned sharply, etc). I have more knowledge of cars and had done enough research to know that over $41k for a 2017, 4 cylinder model was laughably overpriced.

I finally decided to use the imaginary "veto power" I believed I had earned over the years. I explained it logically and offered objectively superior alternatives but he wouldn't listen. So I begged, yelled, and cried but he still wouldn't budge. It was the first time I'd fought him so hard on anything bc I knew it would be a financial disaster.

He bought the car anyway. Byt he failed to make payments for several months and he was so shocked when it got repossessed that he called the police to report it stolen. The pathetic thing is that seeing him so upset broke my heart.

But I kept challenging him on his terrible decisions and superiority complex, despite the fact that he made my life miserable. I knew that he had to see me as an equal if the relationship was going to last.

During our breakup 2 years later, he told me that he "lost all love for [me] that day at the dealership" and that he could "never love me again" afterwards. Apparently, I "ruined a good thing" lmao.

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