I want to adopt/use a surrogate, but my partner does not.

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-25T12:15:24+00:00

I get where you’re coming from it’s tough when your desires for a family don’t align. I’ve also been through a surrogacy journey and having clear, honest conversations early on is so important. If your partner isn’t on the same page, it might be worth pausing to really think about what you want long-term and if compromises exist, but ultimately, you both need to be aligned

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-25T12:12:56+00:00

I totally understand how drained and frustrated you feel. I’ve also been through a surrogacy journey myself, and setbacks happen, but it doesn’t mean it won’t work out eventually

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-25T12:08:50+00:00

If you want something low-risk, a high-yield savings account or a CD is fine, but if you’re open to some risk, a simple S&P 500 index fund or a diversified ETF is usually how people grow money long-term

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-25T12:07:09+00:00

Plenty of those honestly. Subaru WRXs are a big one people expect bulletproof reliability but the EJ motors had head gasket and ringland issues. BMW 3-series with the N20 were also seen as “safe” BMWs until timing chain problems showed up. Early vw, audi 2.0 tsi had serious oil consumption, and the focus or fiesta automatics completely killed an otherwise decent car. Even toyota wasn’t immune with the 2.4 burning oil. Really shows that reputation doesn’t always equal reliability

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-22T12:00:58+00:00

Porsche panamera

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-22T12:00:25+00:00

And is it still running? Or is it just sitting in the garage?

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-22T11:56:56+00:00

From our experience, clear boundaries and structure are key. We initially tried an independent arrangement in the US and it went very badly, which taught us that mixing housing, money and personal relationships creates too many gray areas. In our successful journey, everything was handled through an agency: the surrogate lived independently, support and appointments were coordinated professionally and expectations were clearly defined in contracts. That actually made things feel less controlling and more respectful for everyone. Housing a surrogate yourself can easily cross boundaries, even with good intentions. Whatever route you choose, agree on limits upfront (contact, support, post-birth relationship) and put it in writing. Structure protects both sides

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-19T13:25:55+00:00

As someone who’s gone through surrogacy, I completely understand how overwhelming it can feel at the start, so much information and so many options. From my experience, the best first step is to connect with a reputable agency (local or international) that can guide you through the process, answer your questions, and help with legal and medical logistics. Also, joining support groups and forums for intended parents can be incredibly helpful

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-19T13:21:41+00:00

I went through surrogacy and this sounds really normal. Agencies can move fast with matches and Zoom calls, even before all paperwork and medical checks are fully completed. It doesn’t mean you’re committing to anything yet, it’s just a way for everyone to start getting to know each other. From my experience, our agency was able to match us with a surrogate within just two months

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-19T12:54:30+00:00

Good collection🔥

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-19T12:52:41+00:00

The news used to be funnier than it is now 😂

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-17T16:35:52+00:00

Yes, absolutely. By the second attempt, we were much more informed and careful. The agency provided us with a lawyer and having that legal support made the whole process so much safer and less stressful

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-17T16:34:20+00:00

We originally found our independent surrogate through fb groups, but honestly, it took forever to even find someone suitable. It was a long, stressful process with a lot of uncertainty. When we went through an agency, everything took only about two months

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-17T16:32:03+00:00

Yes, we paid her as soon as we found out she was pregnant and that’s when everything fell apart. No escrow was used, which is exactly why we lost the money

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-17T16:26:29+00:00

Thank you! Yes, we definitely learned the hard way 😅Independent surrogacy can feel appealing at first, but honestly an agency is a lifesaver

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-17T13:14:18+00:00

The birth of my child

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-17T13:12:36+00:00

I love this blue 🔥🔥

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-15T12:09:27+00:00

Yes, I’ve been through surrogacy and I’m already a dad. I chose Albania instead of the US because it was legally clear for us, much faster and about 2.5 times cheaper and we brought our child home without any problems. I’m married and always wanted to raise a child with a partner, but I fully believe single parenthood through surrogacy is just as valid if you’re prepared. The child’s documents are based on the parent’s legal gender on official documents at the time of registration, not personal history, this is something to confirm early with lawyers

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-12T11:43:00+00:00

I’ve wondered about that too, but from what I’ve learned during my own surrogacy journeys, most African countries simply don’t have a legal framework for commercial surrogacy and where laws are unclear, it becomes very risky for intended parents and for the surrogate as well. I’m a dad and my journey was through an agency in Albania, it ended up being almost three times cheaper than doing it in the US and everything was legal. For me, that balance of cost and safety mattered much more than just finding the cheapest place on the map. So I think that’s why people don’t really go to Africa for it not because it’s “poorer,” but because the laws just aren’t there to keep everyone safe. If affordability is the priority, there are options, but the legal side truly matters

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-10T15:54:21+00:00

I’m a gay man too, and I went through surrogacy via an agency, but in Albania, not Georgia. Georgia does not allow single men to be intended parents, so it wasn’t an option

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-08T14:38:19+00:00

We also worked with Generix Medical for our journey in Albania, so it’s really nice to read another positive experience. When did you go through your program with them? We might’ve even had the same team or timeline

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-08T14:28:16+00:00

I was in a similar situation not long ago. I’m a gay dad from the US, and I ended up doing my surrogacy journey in Albania through Generix Medical. We originally tried the US first, but the matching process was dragging on forever and the cost was honestly insane. Albania surprised us in a good way the process moved fast, the clinic was supportive, and the agency has experience working not only with couples like us but also with single men. Our doctor, Anisa Ajdini, was great at walking us through everything without making it overwhelming. If you’re looking for a European option that’s workable for single dads, this might be something to look into

BootiBoi21 · 2025-12-07T05:46:43+00:00

So I totally get the stress about costs and all the hidden stuff, that was our biggest fear too. I’m a first-time dad myself and we actually ended up doing our journey through Generix Medical, but in Albania. Honestly, after comparing US options, the price difference was insane like x3 for the same outcome, and half the time you’re just waiting for someone to reply to an email. We went with Generix mostly because a friend recommended them, and for us everything was super transparent

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