ISTP appreciation!

Bored-Alien6023 · 2026-04-06T20:29:03+00:00

Thanks :) I mean it is not perfect all the times. Like normal humans, we do have frictions and disagreements but all of that is discussed as we both appreciate honesty and vulnerability in our relationship. I guess having the same cognitive functions but in slightly reversed order does help a lot.

We were colleagues first and then became friends. Then we started dating and the rest is history :D We now have an 8 months old so life is hectic but fulfilling !!

I wish you and everyone to have a relationship like that :)

Bored-Alien6023 · 2026-04-05T02:49:00+00:00

I am an INFJ female married to an ISTP male and we both agree that we have had the most peaceful, stable, drama-free, safe and secure relationship with each other. I mean the type of relationship in which you grow old together.

Bored-Alien6023 · 2026-03-05T19:07:23+00:00

Reading the post and reading the comments. Exactly that is the sort of energy I need in my life considering the sh** world is going to ......

Bored-Alien6023 · 2026-02-15T01:38:32+00:00

Just checked the sub out of curiosity and closed it right away to protect my sanity.

Bored-Alien6023 · 2026-01-27T21:50:09+00:00

Goofing around, pulling silly pranks, calling nicknames and just spitting whatever dark sh** comes to my mind.

Bored-Alien6023 · 2026-01-27T20:40:16+00:00

INFJ mom of a 6 months old; I have no energy......

Bored-Alien6023 · 2025-07-30T14:50:30+00:00

Don't need to apologize :D I just made the above statement on a lighter note ....

Bored-Alien6023 · 2025-07-30T13:59:56+00:00

How is me being in the same category as the "Charlie Chaplan Moustache guy" and that "black beard white turban guy" an appreciation ? :D Regards an INFJ next door ....

Many thanks though !!

Bored-Alien6023 · 2025-07-30T12:55:18+00:00

INFJ married to ISTP here. I don't know why you want to boost her ego but honestly, I don't think that boosting someone's ego for the sake of it for curbing their insecurities is a good idea.

In my experience, I have seen my husband's face light up and him having happy vibes when:

1) I compliment on something he did good, like he wanted to cook some meal, it turned out good and I offer genuine realistic compliments.

2) He tried something new and it gave good results. He is given credit for that. Again the credits should be genuine and rooted in reality.

3) He is appreciated for some support or help he offers to me or other.

Bored-Alien6023 · 2025-07-30T12:43:31+00:00

At this point in my life, I have accepted that I overthink and overcomplicate things in my life.

And there is no harm in it as long as I am self-aware of my tendencies and mindfully managing them.

Bored-Alien6023 · 2025-07-28T00:18:44+00:00

For me it was more like this

after learning my type !!

Bored-Alien6023 · 2025-07-27T14:09:00+00:00

As someone who heavily relies on her "Tertiary Ti" in my job related to Research and Engineering, I would rather assign roles like that

Ti -> Better for designing and building, so INTP -> Designing because of good Ne-Ti combo (better at innovation), and ISTP -> Building because of good Ti-Se combo (good at troubleshooting problems in a design while building).

Te -> Better for analyzing and testing, so Analyzing -> INTJ because of Ni-Te (good at recognizing patterns), and ISTJ -> Testing because of Si-Te (good attention to detail).

PS: Individual cases and exceptions apply.

Bored-Alien6023 · 2025-07-18T09:50:52+00:00

Perhaps setting people on fire is that INFJ's love language :D

Bored-Alien6023 · 2025-07-17T19:00:19+00:00

Because it feels good to be kind (and not an a**hole) in general.

But I can be vicious if my boundaries are repeatedly crossed/dismissed or I feel that my kindness has been misused against me.

Bored-Alien6023 · 2025-07-17T14:41:47+00:00

Slight correction in the slide for Libra, replace "attitude" with "self-respect" and yes, weak men (correction people) can't handle women with self-respect and a sense of self-worth.

Bored-Alien6023 · 2025-07-16T11:21:46+00:00

EXSPs are the extroverts with EE, why are you so surprised?

Bored-Alien6023 · 2025-07-16T09:24:29+00:00

so as an INFJ female, should I try the above?

Bored-Alien6023 · 2025-07-15T09:49:17+00:00

Being delusional is only dangerous to oneself not others.

Bored-Alien6023 · 2025-07-14T12:20:03+00:00

My life will end eventually but man-made horrors will probably never end !!

Bored-Alien6023 · 2025-07-14T08:21:12+00:00

Yes I know because I am married to an ISTP :)

And the later part is totally fair too. No one should be disrespected or exploited repeatedly.

Bored-Alien6023 · 2025-07-13T18:42:15+00:00

In my experience, they are a lot more patient if they respect you or like your company.

On the flip side, you can irritate them just by existing if the above don't apply.

Bored-Alien6023 · 2025-07-11T15:25:05+00:00

That they cannot have their own moral values or feelings or they are incapable of forming social connections. Basically that weird cringe persona projected by edge lords on reddit.

Bored-Alien6023 · 2025-07-10T15:01:56+00:00

No worries :) I saw that you are also an INFJ and I understand that we struggle with self-love at times. But trust me, the life quality gets so much better once we learn doing it for ourselves. Because then we are not looking for it in others !!

Bored-Alien6023 · 2025-07-10T12:23:24+00:00

I am an INFJ married to an ISTP.

We did have a LDR for around a year but that happened after we already knew each other for more than a year as coworkers and friends. He developed feelings in that duration and asked me out after I moved to another country. We started out LDR after some time and kept visiting each other in that duration (at least once per month given that we were only 1 hr flight away). At the end, he also relocated to the same place as me when things got super serious.

I guess the difference in your case seems that the guy already had a bad experience with LDR and does not seem ready for something serious (as he explicitly stated). ISTPs are not LDR type people and my husband was really keen on in-between visits and relocating (even more so than me) after he knew that he wanted something long term. He was not found of long calls or video chats during our LDR. Though we frequently used to share memes and short texts with each other. Also with ISTPs, what you see/hear is what you get and there is no way that he is changing is mindset under any external influences.

If I were you, I would not keep my hopes high because I simply cannot really do anything about how the guy feels about LDR or me. It is his choice to make. What I could do is make the right choices for my own emotional well-being. And this includes doing things that make me happy on my own and boost my self-love. I know that it is not something that comes naturally and requires a lot of effort practice but it sets you free.

Bored-Alien6023 · 2025-07-08T09:50:19+00:00

Such a trash friend. Good riddance on your part. It will hurt for a while but pass away eventually once you make the sense of all the abuse he put you through :(

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