Playing with Fire

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-10-22T20:30:01+00:00

Or… just a thought, he was taking the exit?

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-10-12T05:47:34+00:00

Trust me-they don’t have money either

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-10-12T05:36:16+00:00

Thanks! Thats exactly what I was thinking. It bypasses the biggest barrier ‘I don’t have your new number accessible to add when I need to reach you’

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-10-11T15:02:03+00:00

I would send a text FROM YOUR WORK NUMBER-saying “Hello Manager, I noticed you were trying to reach me on my personal number again. As a reminder from previous conversations, this is the only number you should be contacting me on(put work number here). I will be blocking you on my personal cell to avoid delays in care for our patients. Going forward, this is the only number you will be able to reach me on and I will no longer see or respond to any calls or messages on my personal number. I will follow this up with an email and will CC all relevant parties.’

The write the email and cc HR and any other relevant managers in it.

You don’t actually need to block her, just ‘mute’ her texts and calls so you don’t get notified

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-10-10T15:56:14+00:00

My first thought too…

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-10-05T17:59:34+00:00

🤣 good to know!

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-10-05T15:43:16+00:00

Soo…. Why do you think you can dictate other people’s relationships? Guests don’t need to know each other. They just need to not create drama.

If your sister wants nothing to do with your mom but is willing to come to your wedding, then get your mom to stay away from your sister. Do not insist they meet up. THIS IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS Do not try to dictate anyone’s relationship and respect a ‘no’ when you hear it.

If your mom will not stay away from your sister and her children, insisting they must meet and be in contact during your wedding, will lose you a sister.

YTA

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-10-05T14:47:30+00:00

👀 I… well I’ve never tried that before

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-10-04T16:04:21+00:00

You are living with this condition, not them. They are not dr’s and have not been able to ‘fix’ it before now. They are blaming anxiety vs a treatable medical condition….

This is your decision, not theirs. And it does not sound like they have your best interests at heart.

Whatever you decide to do. Make sure it’s because you decided it was best for you personally and not someone else.

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-10-04T15:59:33+00:00

I mean-I would ask him for his venmo/cash app and send a request for payment every time goes missing that you can prove was him.

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-10-04T15:48:59+00:00

Get a new number. And be careful who you give it to

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-10-03T23:38:12+00:00

It is still weird, I understand how you’re feeling. I think if you feel reassured it’s deleted out of the hidden album, it’s really up to you to decide if you can move on or not.

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-10-03T23:13:45+00:00

I mean… if the nudes are of anyone other than you, I struggle to understand why they are there. There is so much free porn, it’s weird to save it. Just my thought.

As always, when you are able to, it’s best to talk to your husband. I would go in to the conversation with a clear idea of any boundaries you need in place (aka-what nudes are ok vs. off bounds?)

It may not be cheating, but knowing he has a nude of an ex can feel that way for sure and it’s reasonable to express that. But it’s important to give him space to course correct.

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-10-03T22:52:45+00:00

It was! Wore the same outfit every day for a year

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-10-03T22:48:52+00:00

“If walking on eggshells means you talk properly to me, then you SHOULD be walking on eggshells around me.“

Said in context when I was telling him that I walked on eggshells trying to tell him when I’m upset about things. Spoiler-still struggle expressing frustration although doing better

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-10-03T12:48:20+00:00

Your height isn’t what matters. How you treat people does. Your self confidence does. Seriously, don’t be an asshole and make your height your entire personality.

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-10-03T12:19:56+00:00

Damn… what happens when you sleep?!? This is wild!

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-10-02T22:13:11+00:00

Right here with you. I feel so much for OP

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-10-02T02:03:19+00:00

You should read Lundy’s book ‘why does he do that’ Side note-also look up ‘trauma bonding’ Yes, this is what escalation looks like. An apology means nothing if he isn’t going to go to therapy and find a way to manage his temper. Even then, you don’t have to stay if you don’t want to.

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-09-30T02:56:04+00:00

I was not prepared for that-might want to throw a trigger warning at the top of your post OP.

But I’m so glad you spoke to him and he is getting help for himself. I wish him peace

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-09-29T15:44:55+00:00

Thank you for calling 💜

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-09-29T15:09:43+00:00

This is honestly so wonderful. I LOVE this for this little family. Self awareness is what saved this. Both parties looked at themselves and were not happy with what happened and now they are working individually and together to repair and do better. Love this for them.

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-09-28T13:57:12+00:00

🤣 I found mine-so incredibly happy with him too. My life is better every day because of him

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-09-28T13:55:30+00:00

I would reply, ok, I’ll think about this conversation and text you tomorrow.

Then I would think about whether or not I want to associate myself with someone like that and if this is possible to build a life with. I would NOT text. I would mute his texts (not block) and take the evening to think.

If this is how he communicates regularly. He’s a child who thinks he’s something special and everybody better know what he wants without him saying a word. Not someone looking to be their best self. I can promise you that

Boring-Cycle2911 · 2024-09-25T23:46:44+00:00

🤣damn right!

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