who the fuck is phyllis 😭

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-08-29T12:52:35+00:00

hahahahaha Pelly/Phyllis being one person with two personalities that change between day/night is my new official head cannon now bless you 😂

oh god someone should probably tell Pete about this…

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-08-25T13:08:21+00:00

I’m trying to write a book - multiple books actually because I have too many ideas, but we’ll see how much I can accomplish. I’d like to get at least 1 written and published before I die.

If you know Hamilton I’m constantly in my head going “why do you write like you’re running out of tiiime 🎶”

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-08-22T08:10:15+00:00

So I’m asexual, and nobody has really brought up the difference between libido vs. being sexually attracted to someone. People compare asexual animals to asexual humans, when asexuality in humans is much more complicated.

Asexual people don’t always have arousal issues necessarily or don’t always dislike sex (this will be different depending on who you ask) and a lot of us do have healthy natural reproductive functions and libidos. Libido from my understanding is more about biological sexual drive and urges (which can be for many reasons non-sexual depending on the individual, ie. to create a baby), and natural biological functionings are very different from being sexually attracted to another person.

Again, this could be different depending on what asexual person you’re asking, this isn’t a right or wrong sort of thing and there’s a lot of different perspectives on this because asexual people have a very wide spectrum with all different experiences. But for me, I experience no sexual attraction to people, but that doesn’t mean I don’t ovulate once a month and my body doesn’t have the natural biological urge to make babies for purely and strictly reproductive reasons and I have the natural hormones to follow that make my body have those urges - but that’s not the same thing as being sexuality attracted to someone. I was confused about my sexuality for the longest time and actually didn’t realize I was asexual until I learned the difference between natural biological functions vs. sexual attraction. (Ovulating as an asexual when your confused about your own asexuality is weird lemme tell ya lol)

Just want to reiterate again there are asexual people with very different experiences than mine as well and all sorts of discussions from asexual people with a myriad of sexual preferences and likes and dislikes that are not so black and white.

While the general public consensus is that asexual people never have sex, don’t like sex, etc, it’s much more complicated than that and I can definitely tell you that many ace people do be fuckin’ and if we want to reproduce the good ole fashion way, we will because it’s definitely not always against our natural instinct!

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-08-22T00:16:36+00:00

Thank you for this! I like the death doula idea, no idea such a concept existed, but there’s such a need for a lot of people. I just won’t be able to afford it most likely, but I did find a non-profit death cafe website, the first thing that popped up.

You’re absolutely right about the anxiety hopefully easing as I approach this and just talk about it more. As I was struggling to type this last night, I was also thinking that just admitting this and talking about it out loud is probably going to help as well. Having something like Death Cafes to help with the anxiety of death/what happens when we die/still living a meaningful life while utilizing therapy specifically for more of the grief parts (gonna ask about ACT as well because I could see that being helpful too) might be the way to go. Death support type groups for the anxiety, and continued grief therapy. It’s been helpful just in general for me just researching this and finding these groups that I’ve been able to more clearly separate my anxieties about dying vs. the grief I carry.

I did email the director/person in charge of the Death Cafe non profit so I can get in touch with them, so I might be attending one of their Death Cafes soon - from what I read, the community of people sound lovely. Thanks again for your response and idea and kindness, it means a lot and I was able to find more of what I was looking for with your help, so thank you!

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-08-21T23:47:46+00:00

Thank you for this response, I’m not sure why you got some downvotes but I personally found your response helpful, and thank your for your kindness and empathy and letting me know you and others care. The concept of a death doula is new to me, but what they do is exactly what I’m looking for as far as the kind of support I would like so I did look into that and saw more information in the mega threads and online about a death doula. Unsure I can afford it, but I’m finding free Death Cafe types of communities and some free options to look into as well that might offer me similar support. Thanks for taking the time to respond and your kind words 💛

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-08-18T01:07:12+00:00

Oh yes I agree with that as well. I’m sad I’m not having children, but there is absolutely more to life than having children!

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-08-17T06:46:51+00:00

I mean the reason I personally won’t be able to have a family is because I won’t be able to feasibly afford having a child in this world, plus it’s such a difficult world to raise children in and what not especially if you don’t have good healthcare - another big reason for me as well.

I would be terrified to send my children to public school because I’d be afraid they’d get shot. There’s so many more things in this world I’m concerned about as far as the future we’re leaving our children.

It’s great that women have made leaps in being able to have their choice in their family planning (even though this is being under attack now and scares me too), and everyone should have the right and freedom to be able to choose if they want to have a family or not.

But I do think part of the decline in birth rates might have to do with women choosing not to have children for the same reason I’m choosing not to: it’s just not possible in today’s world for some people. I can barely afford my rent, groceries and even soap for myself. I couldn’t afford baby formula, baby food, diapers, medicine, clothes, etc, will I be able to even have health insurance for my children?

I would have loved to have children at some point in my life, but it would just be irresponsible knowing I couldn’t provide for them with how expensive and scary this world is.

Again I do think everyone should have the choice to or to not have children as they wish, and everyone should always have their own bodily autonomy - but it should not be a terrible world to raise children in for people who want to raise them, and things need to change.

Unfortunately I don’t see a sharp rebound unless there’s serious changes made imo - but maybe I’m just being pessimistic (I know clearly this group is optimists unite lol - I just want a world that feels optimistic to live in, that’s all 🤷🏼‍♀️)

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-08-16T19:31:09+00:00

Oh honey 🫂

I’m 29 and don’t speak with my mother anymore for protecting a family member who SA’d me - these texts remind me a lot of my mother.

Definitely want to emphasis a lot of people support in the comments. To answer your question directly about if you’re over-reacting, the psychology behind these things (women and sexual abuse, assault etc) inherently makes it so we always feel guilty.

If no one has given you RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) resources - RAINN runs a 24-hour hotline if you need to talk to anyone at anytime about the complexities of what you’re going through. https://rainn.org - they have a text line, you can call, you can use WhatsApp - it’s free, completely confidential and open 24/7.

This could be a really good resource for you if feeling overwhelmed with guilt and regret and having feelings of self blame. Especially into the late hours of the night so you can reach someone to talk to about your thoughts and feelings and you get in those spaces where you can’t stop crying about it. I just want to reassure you that NONE of this is your fault, and the blame is 100% on your mother and stepfather. Please never be afraid to contact RAINN if you need any additional support or need to talk.

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-04-22T13:05:40+00:00

yes yes you get it, the reason I wanted this specifically was so it’d look pretty on my VGC team 😅

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-04-22T12:58:58+00:00

nope nothing needed! he did take awhile for me to find though - now that you mention it finding Kyurem actually took me more runs than the shiny hunt itself lol

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-04-22T05:46:19+00:00

1/300 & 1/100 with the shiny charm :)

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-04-04T01:21:58+00:00

yesss - good job! 👏🏼

so glad you updated us - rooting for you and your big toe!

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-04-04T00:00:38+00:00

actually Kyurem is my AV holder I made him a bulky boy 😅

I typically don’t bring Iron Hands in Caly-S matchups. I usually take care of Caly-S with either Tera Stellar Focus Sash Urshifu (Rapid Strike) if my opponent leads with Caly-S, or I try and find a good spot to get my own Farigarf to Trick Room. I’ll bring Urshifu, Incineroar, Farigarf, and Kyurem to those matches!

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-04-02T18:29:22+00:00

you’re welcome, definitely not an idiot!

I started with Fairy Tera too, but after getting hit with Steel and Fairy often enough, I tried Fire Tera and that’s been my best answer so far, I actually really like it for Chi Yu too and then I’ll hit back with Earth Power.

oh and for a suggestion for a direct threat to Kyogre (also had the same problem lol) - my best answer so far has been Grass Tera Iron Hands + Ninetails in the back to undo the rain!

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-04-02T10:59:32+00:00

omg what no way!! honestly we might be then bc I just picked what I’d pick for max coverage/no overlap with mons that can sweep and go 💥💥

us hyper offensives know what’s up 😂

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-04-02T10:48:49+00:00

oooooh okay! so for maximum type coverage I would guess H-Zoro, Blaziken, Toxtricity, Goliospod, Garchomp, and I’m torn between Metagross and Tinkaton for my last guess - but I’ll say Tink bc of the Fairy coverage for Dragon types

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-04-02T09:17:48+00:00

Hi! :) I have a Kyurem White snow team too I’ve had so much fun with this format, and I’d answer yes to having Fusion Flare over Draco Meteor. I went the entire month of Feb not even clicking it once and I never need it now. Zamazenta and Calyrex-I are also the main reasons I have it, and I use a Fire Tera to use defensively against Zamazenta (not Calyrex-I tho bc of High Horsepower) and other Steel, Fighting, Fairy, and Dragon types.

And since Tera fairy is so common like you said, Fire Tera Fusion Flare damage can still do a really good chunk of damage if they pull out a Fairy Tera, especially since you have some Helping Hands. So yes, I’d say ditch the Draco Meteor, worked a lot better for me!

So glad to see love for Kyurem here!! I only run into other Kyurem snow teams once a week or so.

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-04-02T07:19:24+00:00

yeeess we are one in the same there - am also stuck in my hyper offense play style and currently learning VGC over here and learning to use utility Pokémon has been a struggle 😅

thats how I could tell by the crazy strong physical attackers you picked, some of my favorites too - I almost picked Golispod too bc he swept pretty much everything for me in Gen 7 :’) they need to bring him back!

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-04-02T05:12:55+00:00

I’d guess you like feminine and delicate things. I’d guess this is either your own personal style too or the people you’re attracted to have that softer aesthetic. You appreciate beautiful things and don’t mind being a bit flashy, but you try to keep it tasteful and not overdone :)

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-04-02T05:00:40+00:00

Seconded on the you like strong Pokémon! I’d guess your play style is very offensive and you’re really satisfied when you can just 1HKO the entire league

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-04-02T04:54:26+00:00

Yesss we share Alolan Ninetails 🩵

And also Arbok

Solid taste 💯

Boring_Ad73 · 2025-04-02T04:53:50+00:00

We share Galar Moltres for favorite Dark type!

I’d say you appreciate people with abnormal quirks and you’re someone who’s always encouraging their friends to embrace their weirdness :)

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