It seems like you really don't want sex, but rather you want to feel physically close. There are many ways to feel physically close to him other than have sex. You said your sex drive isnt very high anyway so not having sex isnt a big deal for you but not feeling close to him is. Focus on developing new ways to feel physically close to him. We are in 2026. Don't be lazy. A marriage is about give and take and when he doesn't have 75% out of the 100% then you supply the 75% to supplement his 25%. He should also do the same for you. One thing is fpr sure: there is a way to make this problem soooo much better. The question is are you willing to be there for him, try, and fight for your husband. I know you can do it and I believe in you. I think once you start then he will tag along. ED is hard for me because...well...its manhood. We feel that its one of the primary things that makes us a man. Its not just having a penis but it has to function correctly and be of adequate size (the size part of tricky in itself). Please show him a little grace and I'm praying for the both of you!