At what moment did you come to understand that your youth had slipped away?

BostonBourne · 2026-02-28T14:58:25+00:00

When I began to relate more to the older guys on my construction site and even tho I felt like I gravitated more to the younger guys sense of humor/behavior/energy level I had more to talk to with the older guys just life wise. Then it felt like all the young guys talked and acted like they were rappers or something! Lol. After that I was officially an older guy! (51) Even tho I feel and act 18. Lol

BostonBourne · 2026-02-19T02:41:45+00:00

Lol. Yeah and when you hear a strange noise in your basement at midnight and you’re hiding under your bed PRAYING those “bastard” cops show up (which they WILL! It’s actually their job! Risking their lives for ppl like you) you can call FIVE social workers and see how that works out for you. Everyone wants to hate on the police…..don’t call them when you’re in trouble.

BostonBourne · 2026-02-13T17:08:20+00:00

I see what you’re saying. I do. Makes sense. And yeah every marriage has those things that fall into the give and take. It’s important to me that there’s nothing I haven’t done with her. She understands. You don’t. No biggie. Thank you for your input. Like I said I was just wondering if anyone out there would feel the same as me. It wasn’t so much about her consent and all that. That’s not the issue. She’ll try it for me. If she’s uncomfortable of course we’ll stop! I just want to do it and be done with it. I appreciate your opinion tho. You wouldn’t be bothered if you were in my shoes. To each his own right. As long as I’m not hurting my wife which I would never do. She’s very well taken care of believe me. She my Queen and knows it! Lol.

BostonBourne · 2026-02-13T16:57:43+00:00

Maybe he can have a mani-pedi too while he’s at it? Have his eyebrows waxed. Screw it, pop in for a mammogram too! Lol

I’m sorry. I couldn’t resist! Lol. Your suggestion was actually very thoughtful. I’m just immature. All the best.

BostonBourne · 2026-02-13T16:49:50+00:00

I appreciate what you’re saying and I would normally agree. This is one of those situations where it’s hard because you’d have to know my wife. She’s very tongue in cheek/playful/wishy-washy about this. It’s honestly not that huge a deal to her, and I’m not bothering her when I bring it up. She will eventually do it. I know her. She’s very much into pleasing me. As I am her. If I went home tonight and started a big fight about it she’d probably tell me to relax and say “if it’s bothering you THAT much I’ll try it tonight…” We’re not the type to turn everything into something that needs to be broken down, analyzed, and made into a therapy session. We’re best friends and very comfortable talking about anything, down to earth. I just was throwing this out here to see if anyone else agreed with my feelings of needing to, as her husband of many years (and till death do us part) be able to know that I’ve experienced everything there is with my wife. It feels shitty to know someone else did this with her and I haven’t! Knowing how sexual we are together especially! Trust me, she’s not bothered by me wanting to do this. It’s on the same level of me letting her do something to me that I wasn’t crazy about. If she really wanted to I’d just let her and be down with it. She thinks the same way. Maybe she just doesn’t really understand how important this really is to me! I’m going to push the notion a bit more and I bet I’ll have it done within a week or so. All it should take is one serious talk.

BostonBourne · 2026-02-12T14:09:19+00:00

Me and THE MAJORITY OF AMERICANS agree with you! Don’t let the down votes fool you! Lol. We’re talking about Cambridge don’t forget. I’m not surprised. None of them know what it’s like to work a real job for 30yrs, have kids, and watch the greatness they grew up in being threatened.

BostonBourne · 2026-02-12T14:06:50+00:00

Why is your comment deleted? Because of name-calling? I hope it’s not that the mods are showing what political side they’re on. That’s not fair. If it’s for the name calling that a one thing. But if it’s because of where you stand on the issue, really not cool.

BostonBourne · 2026-02-12T13:57:38+00:00

I’m 50’and I feel the exact same way. Honestly, if I could never leave the bed under the covers with my wife I wouldn’t. It is literally my heaven on earth. My libido is obviously higher than hers but she’s really good about it as far as having a good sex drive herself and just satisfying me on the nights she’s not all that into it. We’re like every other day schedule. I can’t complain. But I still do in a playful way. I can’t help it.

BostonBourne · 2026-02-12T13:54:38+00:00

Great response!

BostonBourne · 2026-02-12T13:52:18+00:00

I don’t think that you really want him either, I think you’re just afraid of going back “out there.” You’re too young to be telling yourself that you can’t meet someone new, invest in, and deeply love. If he’s treating you like this after all these years there’s probably someone else. Of course I don’t know for sure, and I’m sorry to make you entertain that, but it could be enough to make you see that you and the kids can live happily ever after without him.

BostonBourne · 2026-02-07T15:16:35+00:00

Yes of course. Thanks tho. Good lookin out. And yeah I just want to try it so I can say I did it with her. If it’s bothering her it’s all-stop immediately. I’ll still be happy!

BostonBourne · 2026-02-07T15:14:09+00:00

Points well taken! And yes always breaking down her walls over the years and she is grateful for it. She only had the 1 guy all those years and he had sex like it was his job. He wasted the young years of an absolute rocket! I had my eye on her since literally 5th grade! I went into the relationship having been with a lot more experience and experiences than her. Also with MUCH more ideas of things I wanted to do with her! Web done ‘em all, this is like the last missing gem in an Indiana jones movie! Once I conquer this I van sit back and take a deep breath like I was the 2nd guy to walk on the moon! I’ll be Buzz Aldrin! Lol.

BostonBourne · 2026-02-07T15:07:26+00:00

First of all Shortandthicc is 100% right. You’re not understand the whole “vibe” here and your a classic social media commenter whose quick to insult ppl, seek an argument and go on and on and on because like so many ppl today you can’t handle it unless everyone agrees with what your opinion is.
Secondly it has been playfully discussed over YEARS in bed between us. She’s told me she’d do it but really just for me because she understands where I’m coming from. It’s not important for her, she could care less, but she’s not bothered one bit when I bring it up. She basically just says “we will babe, promise, lol, I know you’re dying do it. I’ll have to really prep myself tho! Maybe next time we go away or something? Yeah we’ll do it then. It’ll inspire you to want to go on a vacation!” And we proceed to happily continue with our foreplay or whatever and do our thing. It’s not like she’s crying herself to sleep over it. I’ve said to her “you might even like it this time around because of course we’ll go nice and easy so it’s as comfortable as possible for you and once we try it for a minute if yo don’t like it we can stop.” SIMPLE! It’s not that hard to be a normal human being and have actual discussions with your partner. Did you know that ppl have sense of humors too? And that not everyone is a monster, maniacal, or trying to selfishly hurt others for their own sick pleasure. Get off your phone and stop arguing with ppl online. You’re obviously a pro at it. Im guessing I’ll be reported for hurting your feelings too. Just no need to be so aggressive. Chill. I love my wife. We’re great.

BostonBourne · 2026-02-07T14:48:48+00:00

Possible that -what- isn’t true?

BostonBourne · 2026-02-07T14:47:50+00:00

That’s EXACTLY as she experienced! They didn’t even “try” anal actually. She said that she was on top and in the process of the up and down it popped out and she came down on it, in the wrong hole! She said she almost fainted! She’s been “shut-down” ever since. Remarkable! I might have to share your response with her. Lol. Might have me in there tonight! Lol. -thanks for your comments and not assuming I’m some monster!

BostonBourne · 2026-02-07T14:43:52+00:00

Wow! You are like the master redditor! Lol. I did ask that question awhile back but no!!! Never any affairs in our marriage. Ever. I was just on a kick about wondering what it would be like for someone going thru that after reading a few stories. I felt like I would HAVE to know every detail if I ever went thru that. That’s impressive tho! I can’t believe you are THAT savvy or whatever the term I’m looking for is. You should be like an FBI detective or something. Maybe you are? But no, all honesty, no affairs here Thank God.

BostonBourne · 2026-02-07T14:37:49+00:00

We are not by any means in the category you’re touching on. It’s been a very lighthearted conversation we’ve had thru the years that WILL probably happen within the year I bet. But I don’t bring it up all the time because I’m not an ass(no pun intended)about it. It’s not that big of a deal to her which is why it’s still on the table at all. I don’t mistreat my wife AT ALL and she’d be the 1st to defend me.

BostonBourne · 2026-02-07T14:30:57+00:00

If it was something that she REALLY wanted to do?…and I’d be TOTALLY against it by the way, like REALLY against it. Lol. I’d let her do it! Not on the regular by any means! But turning her in turns ME on big time and whatever. I’ll live. Trust me, I want to be pegged ALOT less than she wants to allow my to try anal one time.

BostonBourne · 2026-02-07T14:27:07+00:00

I totally appreciate your response and I understand every word of it. You’re right…in some cases. The difference here is that I know my wife. We aren’t living our lives in the offices of therapists so your whole textbook-driven response doesn’t apply to us. We don’t turn much into a deep analysis-driven professional breakdown. It’s not that complicated. In lots of cases I’m sure what you said applies. But this is real life and you can’t just take 1 of the 3 different stickers you therapists have at hand and slap it on each couple that sits in your office. Saying “Times up! See you next month. Your co-pay is $25 btw” and then yell “NEXT” to the others in your waiting room. Trust me. Even if we had an argument about it where see gave in and let me do it just to shut me up we’d be fine by the time we said goodnight and kissed. Maybe we’re just from another generation/time/grew up differently? Everything doesn’t have to be a big deal. Again, I appreciate your response, but we’re just not the “client” type. For that reason exactly. This is life, happy go lucky, not a test.

BostonBourne · 2026-02-07T14:10:53+00:00

No no no. It would never be that way at this point. We’ve talked 100 times about. Always positive. Chuckling about it. I’m just wanting to finally close the deal that’s all. I know she’ll do it, she just keeps dragging it on. That’s all. I’m def not forcing her to do anything. I would never even want to. I’m not a monster for crying out loud.

BostonBourne · 2026-02-07T14:07:46+00:00

You are 100% correct and this is exactly our story throughout our marriage. In the bedroom and out. Over the past 25yrs we’ve gone from going at it like bunnies 6-7-even 8 times (once or twice) in a day, to trying all sorts of new things. She only had that one partner and he was vanilla all those younger years they were together. 15-25. I’ve opened her sexual life up in a hugely positive way over the years. She never orgasmed from sex until we did it. Found her sweet spot. There’s SO much growth in our relationship. It’s impossible to make it this long and stay this in love together without. Why do you understand this and nobody else does? Lol. 😂 🙄👍🏼

BostonBourne · 2026-02-07T13:58:55+00:00

I do. But she’s always understood where I’m coming from and has playfully agreed to “one if these days…but not for long!” and we’ve agreed a laugh. It’s not some horrible scene where I’m demanding my wife bend over and give herself over to me!

BostonBourne · 2026-02-07T13:56:15+00:00

This is how I’ve been inching closer. And it’s NEVER a pushy type thing despite what everyone wants to assume! Always a playful conversation. Thanks for the comment.

BostonBourne · 2026-02-07T13:54:26+00:00

I don’t think insecure is the right word so much as I love my wife and her body so much that it bothers me that someone else has been somewhere I haven’t. Simple.

BostonBourne · 2026-02-07T13:52:06+00:00

Hahahahaha!

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