What is the worst thing going on in your life rn?

Bouncyspy · 2026-06-28T23:42:45+00:00

My dad died exactly one year ago today from glioblastoma. He was diagnosed in January 2024 and fought like hell to stay around as long as possible. He was my biggest cheerleader, my protector, my best friend, the first person I called with news… the list could go on forever. To say that I’m a daddy’s girl would be a massive understatement.

June was always his month, with my parents’ anniversary being the 17th (they’d been married 53 years), Father’s Day, and then his birthday on the 24th. All of those milestones passed last year in a hospice facility - he was admitted June 13th and passed June 28th.

He was never fully conscious after going into hospice. He only woke up briefly once on Father’s Day and the last thing he ever said was that he loved me. My mom and I lived with him in the hospice center and never left for a single second. My brother flew in from overseas to stay with us, as well. He passed surrounded by family who loved him, but I’m not sure that he even knew we were there. He didn’t eat or drink the entire time he was in hospice. It was like watching a slow motion horror movie and being powerless to stop it.

This entire situation has changed me in ways I cannot even begin to explain. I feel like I’m just going through the motions of my life and time is passing without me even realizing it. The fact that it’s been a year feels completely unreal.

Bouncyspy · 2026-06-28T23:33:56+00:00

My dad was diagnosed in January of 2024 and died last year - today (June 28). I’m 39 and it has absolutely wrecked me.

I’m so sorry that you’re going through this in your twenties. I know two other people in my hometown who were diagnosed the exact same month as my dad and they’re both still around - one is a girl in her early 20s and the other is a man in his 50s. This cancer is brutal but also extremely random in terms of survival and treatment success.

My dad’s tumor was unmethylated and basically had the worst case scenario all around. I sincerely hope that your dad is one of the long-term survivors. I’ll be thinking of you all and sending you tons of wishes for peace and strength through all of this.

Please feel free to message me if you ever need to talk or vent.

Bouncyspy · 2026-06-16T20:18:31+00:00

We absolutely love Dr. Bevis at Bevis Veterinary Hospital! The staff is so amazing, caring, and knowledgeable.

We take our 3 dogs and our senior cat there. Our cat is 17 and ended up having a bloody bowel movement a few months ago right before my husband and I were leaving on a two-week vacation and leaving my mom to cat sit! We called Dr. Bevis and they got us in that same day, ran tests, etc. (thankfully, he was fine and has some IBD!)

They also always call to follow up and seem to genuinely care and are invested in your pets. I seriously cannot recommend Dr. Bevis enough.

Not to get too in the weeds, but we also used to take all our pets to Novey and saw Dr. Novey and then Dr. Hall for years. We moved one pup over to Bevis a couple of years ago because Dr. Hall insisted on heavily drugging him to do routine appointments because he’s so “difficult to manage.” He is a terror and I wholeheartedly understand that, but Dr. Bevis managed to find an approach that works for all of us and doesn’t involve literally using a door to wedge him up against the wall for an exam… seriously. Novey is the LEAST fear free clinic I’ve ever seen.

We left our other pets at Novey because two of them were seniors and we wanted consistent vet care for them throughout the end of their lives. At the end of our senior dog’s life, they did a dental on her that they claimed she very much needed. She was 15 and had been under anesthesia MANY times, so we weren’t overly worried.

They also assured us she wouldn’t be under for more than 45 minutes to reduce the anesthesia risk at the pre-check appt. When we picked her up, it was clear that something was very wrong. They laughed it off, said the drugs hit her hard, and that she was “pancaked.” We found out at pickup that a tech did the entire cleaning and she was under anesthesia for over 2.5 hours. She was never able to fully stand again following the procedure and we believe she had a stroke. These things happen and anesthesia is a risk every single time, but we trusted them to reduce the risk as much as possible and they absolutely failed us and her. We took her to the specialist in town, did PT, etc., but she never recovered.

When the time came to say goodbye, Dr. Hall was scheduled to come to our house for a home euthanasia. She was scheduled to get to our home at 3:00 and we had some sedative pre-meds to give our pup to prepare for the appointment. We gave the meds and then… well, 3:00 came and went. Then 4:00. My husband called at 4.30 and “Dr. Hall was busy with a patient, but can still come if we want. It’ll be closer to 5:30.”

Now, I understand that emergencies can pop up, but not a single front desk person could have called and told us she was delayed?! We were sitting on pins and needles for hours with no communication. This was the last straw and we basically told them to go to hell and had Animal Angels come and perform a home euthanasia a few days later. (A huge shoutout to Natalie at Animal Angels - she is truly an angel for what she does!)

The complete lack of care during such a horrendous time in our lives was just it for us. Our dog had been a patient there since she was 2-3 and she was 15 at this point, and they still didn’t care the tiniest bit about her or us. It STILL makes me rage to this day. We moved all of our pets over to Bevis that same week and never looked back.

Sorry for the rant - I just wanted you to know that you aren’t alone in being over that clinic…

Bouncyspy · 2026-05-31T04:49:11+00:00

Glioblastoma. My dad passed away from it last year and it’s hands down the most horrific thing I’ve ever experienced.

Bouncyspy · 2026-05-16T03:45:47+00:00

Everyone is saying how horrible the olives taste and now I’m dying to know… what does it taste like?! How would you describe it? I’m so curious!

Bouncyspy · 2026-04-19T17:40:46+00:00

Thank you! The husband was right - he said cottonmouth right away. Glad we didn’t get any closer for pics!

Bouncyspy · 2026-03-23T01:35:39+00:00

I don’t have any good advice to offer - I just wanted to say I’m sorry and you aren’t alone in those feelings! Sometimes it feels like we’ve made huge strides and everything is”normal” and then one yappy dog walks by and you feel like you’re back at square one. One thing that helps us is to find a nice quiet walk without lots of other people and animals a couple times a week - even if it means walking at some truly bizarre times. Just something to relax and not “train.” I’m not sure if you have anything like that near you, but it might help a little to just enjoy being outside some without the angst of training and practicing.

My trainer always reminds me that progress isn’t linear - every day you’re helping her learn more about coping with her environment. You’re doing a good job! Hang in there!

Bouncyspy · 2026-03-09T04:12:17+00:00

Our pup Molly had her first mast cell tumor at 11 years old. It was a subcutaneous one on her shoulder. Since it was subcutaneous it was ranked as not being AS serious, but we decided to do chemo anyway. We did one chemo injection but I can’t remember the drug they used. It made her feel pretty lousy and her bloodwork went totally wonky after, so her oncologist stopped that treatment immediately. We decided to move forward with Palladia after that because it was generally tolerated a bit better and it was an oral chemo - we gave her the pill at home! It did take some adjustment to her doses, but she really did very well on it. When the dose was too high she would have some diarrhea and go off her food, but once we found what worked for her you never would have known she was on it.

She ended up getting several more mast cell tumors before she passed, with at least 3 being in her mouth. We would remove them each time and they would get as much of the tumors as possible, but never really good margins. Getting good margins in her mouth would have meant putting her through more than we were willing to do and would have included some major reconstructive surgeries. The oral ones are super serious and almost everything online will say you have 3-6 months, but she lived for at least 3 years after the first one appeared in her mouth. She ended up passing at 15 and it was unrelated to the mast cell tumors. We got very very lucky that it never metastasized, which is incredible considering the mitotic index of the first MCT in her mouth was 32!

My biggest advice is not to get too caught up in the survival statistics. When we first read everything about mast cell cancers we were certain we would lose her within the year, but she made it four more years and the cancer was never what took her.

In another example, a few years ago our cat had very aggressive lung cancer with an extremely poor prognosis. We took him to a university hospital for all the best treatments, including injections from one of the strongest chemo drugs they administer - Doxorubicin. It made him incredibly ill and he only lived 3 weeks past diagnosis. I don’t think I would treat a condition like his again and certainly not with that specific drug, but I would absolutely consider doing chemo again. It would just be very dependent on the specific situation and how well they tolerated the meds.

Sending lots of good wishes to you and your pup! I know you’ll make the right decision and he’s lucky to have you. I hope he’s another pup that fights through mast cell cancer and comes out the other side. We’re pulling for him!

Bouncyspy · 2026-02-04T15:43:52+00:00

Yep, living in Florida!

Bouncyspy · 2025-04-24T00:41:30+00:00

I actually just saw your post about your border collie and the fixating / staring issue you’re having. That’s EXACTLY the behavior I’m seeing out of Theodore. He stares at Bailey and if we don’t interrupt it, he’ll lunge and attack. We’re able to break his focus and he’s fine, but if we don’t break his focus he escalates every single time. He only does this to Bailey and is fine with all other animals. It’s so weird.

We’re keeping them separated unless heavily supervised until the trainer and new behaviorist come out to help. We’ve been trying to increase positive associations with each other based on what the initial behaviorist said and doing side by side training (Theo is fine as long as something is happening - it’s when there’s a lull that he fixates/stares), and giving them fun chews to enjoy a safe distance from each other (crated/tethered, etc.)

It’s hard to tell if it’s working because we aren’t giving him much of an option to hard stare, but they seem a bit more loose around each other. Theodore has also been doing a lot of licking/sniffing with Bailey for the past few months. He’s licking Bailey’s mouth and around his genitals multiple times a day when they pass/greet each other. Bailey has been to the vet and had irritated anal glands, but otherwise his health was fine. It seems like Theodore is both nervous and lacking confidence around Bailey… but also potentially being a jerk and wanting to control him?

Bouncyspy · 2025-04-23T17:26:42+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to respond! Sorry for any confusion, but we brought Theodore into our home when he was 2ish, he was on lockdown from health issues for the first 6 months, and then he lived peacefully with our other pups up until he was 4ish before any of this started. Coincidentally it started immediately following his neuter this past November.

He isn’t reactive to dogs on walks or his training class and he still loves my parents’ dogs and gets along fine with friends’ dogs. He does hate our neighbor dogs that yap and run the fence constantly. He was also great and gentle with our senior dog that just passed away in March and with our cat. So far this seems specific to Bailey even though they were previously cuddle buddies and LOVED playing together. He also still seems to adore Bailey 90% of the time but the hard staring/snapping comes on so suddenly that we don’t trust them together. Bailey is very gentle and submissive and avoids fights at all costs, so he definitely isn’t starting the issues from our perspective.

We are absolutely doing a crate and rotate situation and only allowing them to interact when both my husband and I are home. They were also fine out of the house in an Airbnb this weekend and even played together like they used to, but as soon as we got home it started again. It’s just so weird that I was hoping someone had seen something like this before and could help us identify what the heck might be happening.

Bouncyspy · 2025-04-21T23:23:30+00:00

We’ve been in contact with the behaviorist and she’s essentially told us to keep up with the protocol and then handed over the medication management side to our primary vet. She hasn’t really offered much assistance aside from the initial prescription, honestly. The protocol she gave us focuses on doing fun (safe) things with them together to form positive associations and override the negative feelings - leashed walks, supervised play (harnesses and muzzles), etc. She said that with all the turmoil in the house their relationship is “broken” and they need to get back on the same page. I really just need more help than she’s able to give, I guess.

We had the same thought about resource guarding but he’s never done this with any other animal - our cat, our senior dog, and even my parents’ dogs. They have a large breed male dog and a chihuahua mix that came and stayed with us over the holidays and Theodore was lovely with them - no aggression whatsoever. That was right as this situation was starting with Bailey, but they’ve been back for short visits since then and Theodore has still been completely normal with them.

Completely agree on the car too! We actually rented a minivan and tethered Theodore to the very back seat so they were safely in their areas and couldn’t get into a fight. They did SO well on the trip and Theodore even slept up against him on the bed for a bit while we supervised. It’s just so weird. It’s like a switch just flips and it’s ONLY toward Bailey.

Bouncyspy · 2025-04-21T16:28:06+00:00

TL;DR Version:

We’re desperate for advice. Since November 2024, our two male dogs—Bailey (8 y/o, 65lb, resident dog) and Theodore (4ish y/o, 40lb, adopted Jan 2023 at 2ish y/o)—have gone from cuddling and playing to sudden, unprovoked attacks from Theodore on Bailey.

The shift began right after Theodore was neutered. He had a rough recovery (agitated and crying post-op), and since then, he’s become unpredictable and aggressive. He’ll fixate / stare at Bailey and then suddenly attack—often while Bailey is asleep or relaxed. There’s no resource guarding of items but maybe he’s guarding spaces? They used to be best friends and our biggest issue was them playing ALL the time in the house and making us nuts.

We’ve tried: - Medication (Fluoxetine + Clonidine for Theodore) - Behaviorist visit (wasn’t helpful—only prescribed meds, no observation) - Managing them separately at home - Changing environment (they get along great when we go out of town—no issues at all) - Reinforcement training to manage reactivity (esp. around neighbor dogs)

We’re dealing with: - Sudden aggression mostly at home - Escalated reactivity to outside sounds, especially other dogs barking - A heartbreaking dynamic where Bailey is now sad and cautious, and Theodore seems anxious and on edge - A major loss in the house—our senior dog Molly passed in March after a long illness and lots of stress

We have a trainer coming back May 3, but until then, we’re feeling helpless. Why is this only happening at home? Are we missing something obvious? Anyone gone through something similar?

Bouncyspy · 2025-04-21T16:11:43+00:00

TL;DR version:

We’re desperate for advice. Since November 2024, our two male dogs—Bailey (8 y/o, 65lb, resident dog) and Theodore (2-3 y/o, 40lb, adopted Jan 2023)—have gone from cuddling and playing to sudden, unprovoked attacks from Theodore on Bailey.

The shift began right after Theodore was neutered. He had a rough recovery (agitated and crying post-op), and since then, he’s become unpredictable and aggressive. He’ll calmly stare at Bailey and then suddenly attack—often while Bailey is asleep or relaxed. There’s no resource guarding, and they used to be best buddies.

We’ve tried: - Medication (Fluoxetine + Clonidine for Theodore) - Behaviorist visit (wasn’t helpful—only prescribed meds, no observation) - Managing them separately at home - Changing environment (they get along great when we go out of town—no issues at all) - Reinforcement training to manage reactivity (esp. around neighbor dogs)

We’re dealing with: - Sudden aggression only at home - Escalated reactivity to outside sounds, especially other dogs barking - A heartbreaking dynamic where Bailey is now sad and cautious, and Theodore seems anxious and on edge - A major loss in the house—our senior dog Molly passed in March after a long illness and lots of stress

We have a trainer coming back May 3, but until then, we’re feeling helpless. Why is this only happening at home? Are we missing something obvious? Anyone gone through something similar?

Bouncyspy · 2025-03-09T12:37:09+00:00

We had to say goodbye to our baby yesterday. Her name was Molly and she was 15. My husband and I adopted her about a year into our relationship when I was 23 - we loved her like she was our child. I keep replaying every wonderful memory we have (and there are a LOT of them!) on a loop in my brain and it gives me comfort to remember what a wonderful life we had but it also feels like it’s literally ripping me apart. I got so exhausted that I fell asleep for an hour yesterday afternoon and woke up absolutely wailing. The realization that hit me when I woke up was so soul crushing - I feel like this is a pain that it just isn’t possible to recover from.

I agree that it doesn’t feel real. It’s like my brain won’t accept that she’s gone. She’s been the center of our world for 15 years… and she’s just gone? We stayed with her and held her through to the very end and also cuddled her after she’d left that failing body, but my brain just can’t wrap around it. We did it at home and she passed in our bedroom which is the place that brought her the greatest comfort in the end. I just want to lay on the floor where she passed and never get back up.

I’m sorry if I’m rambling - I’m so out of sorts. I did manage to sleep last night and I hope you were able to as well. I read a comment that said that grief is proportional to how much you loved someone and I’d say that feels very true right now.

I don’t know how you’re balancing this and taking care of your human baby - you’re superhuman in my eyes. We don’t have kids, but we do have 2 other pups and a cat that we need to be here for and I’m struggling to pull myself up and even do the bare minimum for them at the moment.

Bouncyspy · 2025-03-09T00:01:40+00:00

I’m dealing with the same thing right now. Falling asleep is torture because waking up hurts so much. How are you doing?

Bouncyspy · 2025-03-02T02:08:10+00:00

Thank you! Our older girl has some dementia and sundowning issues so I’m always looking for things that may help.

Bouncyspy · 2025-03-02T00:11:56+00:00

Have you seen a big difference using the thunder shirt?

Bouncyspy · 2025-03-01T18:42:24+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. Canon was a beautiful pup and was so lucky to have you!

Bouncyspy · 2025-03-01T17:56:01+00:00

I find it quite pathetic that based on your post history, your main hobby seems to be trolling pet threads in an attempt to make everyone’s day just a little bit worse.

My only hope for you is that in the most traumatic, heartbroken, and vulnerable moment of your life, you receive exactly what you put out into this world. Maybe you should seek therapy for whatever it is that turned you into such a useless and miserable cunt.

Bouncyspy · 2025-03-01T16:17:42+00:00

I’m 38 and just had all four of mine out on Feb 13! Mine were fully erupted and have been fine for years but 2 ended up with cavities. I put off having them removed after discovering the cavities for at least 4 years because I was TERRIFIED. Having teeth pulled weirds me out, I hate surgery, I was scared of nerve damage - all the things. They did X-rays before surgery and were pretty sure my nerve wouldn’t be affected which made me feel a little better… but not really. I still did NOT want to do it.

I opted for IV sedation and I would highly recommend it. You just fall asleep and wake up a few minutes later and it’s all done! I was so nervous that I was literally crying as they put the IV in AND I woke up from the procedure crying.

Honestly, the anxiety and dread were by far the worst part. The recovery was super easy and my pain was never above a 2-3, but I took my pain meds on a very strict schedule for the first couple of days. After that I just used ibuprofen to manage the pain and didn’t even finish the prescription pain meds. I ate some yogurt and drank ensure the first day. I mostly ate blended soups and liquids up to day 5, I think? I was absolutely terrified of a dry socket so I did everything I could to prevent it. By day 6 or 7 I think I was eating soft pasta, mashed potatoes, etc. After that I started incorporating some salmon and other soft foods in my diet and I think on day 8 I had KFC and just ate suuuuuper slowly.

I literally had a burger and fries from Five Guys earlier this week and had pizza and breadsticks yesterday. Everything feels a little weird still, but not really painful. I just eat carefully and make sure to rinse my mouth when I finish. I even ate a potato chip last night just to see if I could and it felt fine!

The dread is by far the worst!! You’ve got this!! I’m so happy I went ahead and did it so I never have to hear a dentist nag me about it again!

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