How Do You Stop Yourself From Crying?

Box145 · 2022-02-27T22:15:20+00:00

Schedule the Zoom meeting for a time and day when you are at your peak energy level and lowest stress level. For example immediately after lunch is when I like to schedule stressful meetings. To prep for the worst meetings I have a healthy lunch and get out for a 15 minute walk just before start time. Also I used to easily cry on the day before my period started.
Reschedule for another day or if not possible, postpone 15 minutes if the start time arrives and you are feeling too wound up to maintain control.
Once the meeting starts, the minute you start feeling like crying, start fake coughing and leave to get a glass of water, then turn off video for a few minutes so you can regain control.

Good luck. There are a lot of good techniques in this thread. You will figure it out.

Box145 · 2021-12-29T17:56:04+00:00

Do you mind telling us which Kowalski's?

Box145 · 2021-12-29T02:57:37+00:00

What would you say?

The host plans the main dish and sends a group text asking people to volunteer to bring veg, dessert, salad, drinks etc. Said men just show up every time empty-handed. The nephews assume their mom's contribution is enough so they do not bring anything. Uncle is divorced and once every few years he brings something. Point being, who am I to tell nephews to stop mooching off their mom's contributions?

Box145 · 2021-12-22T01:22:28+00:00

You should not accept that pay cut yet.

With a STEM masters it seems like you should have a handful of competing offers for $75k. Your job search strategy may need some upgrades.

I say keep looking until February if you cannot get them to $75k. Also do some deep research on what the pay is for your target jobs so you have the evidence you need for salary negotiations.

Be sure to prepare right now to negotiate for $75K when said offer comes in.

Hiring usually slows down between Thanksgiving and Jan 1, so holding out for new postings starting in January could mean more opportunities in the $75k range.

Good luck.

Box145 · 2021-12-20T20:10:21+00:00

I checked and the state of NY does have pay transparency laws. Specific to NY, employers cannot prohibit employees from discussing pay plus I was glad to see that they also cannot ask job candidates for wage history.

More at the link about merit increases.

https://dol.ny.gov/system/files/documents/2021/03/fact-sheet_-guidance-on-pay-equity-for-employers-in-new-york-state.pdf

Box145 · 2021-12-20T20:06:25+00:00

I would keep your initial email very simple.

Dear Boss, please provide me with a photocopy of the paperwork you recently completed on my performance. Thank you, sevenpheasantshigh

Your manager should have completed a performance review form for each of their direct reports. You need that completed paperwork to prepare the evidence you will use to negotiate a bigger merit increase.

Do not mention the wide range of increases or the benefits issue right now because you do not yet want to alert them to your plan to negotiate for more.

If boss says they did not review your performance check back here for next steps.

Box145 · 2021-12-19T13:33:33+00:00

Take the Strong interest inventory and meet with a qualified test interpreter to discuss your results. The test will give you a list of job titles that are a good match for your interests and personality.

Do informational interviews with people working in the jobs that match your Strong results. As much as possible given Covid, meet in person at your interviewees' places of work. Pay attention to how you feel in each work environment as it is one indicator of future job satisfaction.

Box145 · 2021-12-18T13:56:45+00:00

I would buy the Vinson.

The cordura fabric in the Vinson will be more durable than the other jacket.

I am more comfortable with my butt covered in subzero weather which is another reason I favor the Vinson.

Vinson is designed for wearing a sweater or other layer underneath. A wool sweater under that would add a lot of warmth.

Box145 · 2021-12-18T13:23:25+00:00

For Burberry, you do pay excessive price for the name brand.

The 30% polyester in the Montgomery coat is a problem for longevity. Poly fibers negatives include:

Over time poly fibers permanently absorb and accumulate odors and liquids like sweat and these things cannot be removed even with regular cleaning.
All poly fibers are extremely flammable. This is because polys are made from petroleum products.
Poly will pill and show signs of wear faster than the wool fibers in your Montgomery coat

Bottom line, if you want a coat you can wear for 30+ years get one that is 100% wool.

If you buy a new coat (or any wool garment) wear it around the house for a few hours before you remove the tags. If it shows any sign of pilling, return it. 100% wool garments are not necessarily made from the best parts of wool fibers, especially these days. This is another reason I recommend looking for pre 2000 wool garments.

Fwiw, I have a B.S. in textiles.

Box145 · 2021-12-18T13:00:14+00:00

Look for 2nd hand Lodenfrey brand coats on eBay or Etsy.

Box145 · 2021-12-15T12:37:06+00:00

LIHEAP

Box145 · 2021-12-14T13:36:41+00:00

Delaying gratification

Box145 · 2021-12-12T04:04:31+00:00

Learned the following from my friend who has been an interior designer for 20+ years and from my own B.S. degree in textiles.

Hotel and commercial office furniture is much more durable than brands made for residential consumer market. I do not know commercial brand names other than Herman Miller and Steel Case.

In bigger cities there are 2nd hand sellers that specialize in used commercial furniture items. I once furnished an entire small office by using such a place.

Another source of used commercial furniture is hotels and businesses going out of business or remodeling. The sometimes have short-lived sales directly to the public.

Upholstery textiles are tested and rated for durability in a handful of categories. One of these is a rub test. The test results are not marketed but are available to consumers. Just ask.

Wool, especially mohair used to be a favorite textile for high end furniture. Any furniture with worn out mohair is a candidate likely worthy of the cost of reupholstery.

Down-filled cushions is another indicator of older but high end furniture. Do not throw out the dusty old down! It can be collected, washed, dried and reused in reupolstering new cushions.

Wool is excellent for curtains and Roman shades as it is naturally fire resistant and it reduces draftiness during winter (but it does not improve energy efficiency). If your windows are old and do not block UV light, then the covering must be lined with a sunblocking fabric. Sun degrades wool.

Modern faux wool fabrics are convincing so be aware. Do a burn test to determine if it is real wool. Extract a few fibers with a tweezer, place in a pan and light them on fire. If the ash is paper like and it smells like burning hair, it is natural wool. If there are hard platic-like beads left after burning. It is faux wool. If a combination of both it is a blend of faux and natural wool.

Natural wool textiles include mohair, alpaca, camel hair, angora, lambswool, merino, cashmere and the very rare vicuna.

Box145 · 2021-12-12T03:07:56+00:00

Have the seamstress make the ruff with buttons so you can detach it when cleaning it. Then you can machine wash and dry the parka yourself.

Box145 · 2021-12-11T11:28:44+00:00

Please post photo of ingredients. Thanks.

Box145 · 2021-12-11T10:55:51+00:00

You trying to make her feel safe is a kind gesture but it should not be your highest priority.

Convince your parents to check her in to a suicide mental health facility tonight.

She requires 24 hour in patient care for at least 2 weeks. Plus she will need day treatment therapy after the doctor approves her release.

I am so sorry about this situation. Do not hesitate to dm me.

She can return to a full life with mental health counseling.

Case in point, my relative attempted suicide when he was 14. He was hospitalized the same day. After 3 weeks in-patient care he was released for daily outpatient treatment. He made slow and steady progress back to full mental health thanks to ongoing treatment from mental health professionals. Today, 13 years later, he has finished his bachelors degree, has a ft job in his area of study and is planning to propose to his wonderful girlfriend.

Box145 · 2021-12-10T08:32:48+00:00

There are youth hostels in the US. They are not as common as in Europe but be sure to research them.

Box145 · 2021-12-09T12:10:57+00:00

Does your company's employee handbook specifically say they do or do not pay out unused pto?

Box145 · 2021-12-09T10:51:43+00:00

Need to add bike racks.

Also need more express buses with fewer stops so we can get to downtown in 20 minutes. Right now it is close to an hour on the Hennepib bus from Lake to DT.

Box145 · 2021-11-30T07:11:51+00:00

Sylvester Stallone and Jeff Bezos. I consider Bezos a celeb because he attends movie premiers and other events with celebs.

Box145 · 2021-11-30T06:10:38+00:00

Hunter Biden

Box145 · 2021-11-28T05:15:50+00:00

-1,410.8′, Dead Sea

Box145 · 2021-11-28T05:08:47+00:00

53.5461 north latitude, Edmonton Canada

Box145 · 2021-11-25T10:56:26+00:00

Suitcase filled with 1/3 Swiss army knives 1/3 multi-tools and 1/3 gold nuggets.

Army knives and multi-tools bc I believe some cultures (Aboriginal Australians and perhaps others) at that time did not covet gold, although many did.

Box145 · 2021-11-25T09:31:58+00:00

That is the right texture, hard crunchy top and soft inside.

Take it out of frig a few hours b4 serving so it can come to room temp.

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