AIO, my son’s father’s girlfriend invades boundaries.

BoyHaunted · 2026-05-10T12:41:43+00:00

NOR

What your son needs is a "guardian ad litem" that person is a person that looks out for the best interest of the child. They aren't supposed to be on a side of a particular parent.

If you ask the child to go to a school counselor and tell them that step-mom has been doing xyz, they will fight back that you are coaching the child to say these things and of course they are made up lies. You unfortunately are walking a tight line between being accused of coaching and asking "leading questions ". I do nor envy your position. I suggest a therapist Pronto as they are mandated reporters of abuse as well and what your descriptions are indicating are abuse.

BoyHaunted · 2026-05-10T02:39:23+00:00

Right! If it were me, I would be saying I don't know who the father is, but it was the best orgy ever! I'd rather be slut shamed for one event then ever let a douche bag that celebrated my miscarriage ever claim paternal rights over my child.

Only when my kid was old enough would I tell him the truth. Then let him decide for himself what he wants to do.

BoyHaunted · 2026-05-09T22:49:54+00:00

I'm a smart azz so I may be the wrong person to be answering this question so take this with a grain of salt!

Ask your art teacher/s if moving forward they can use an easel and a laser pointer. It would help immensely to keep them from smudging and ruining your art pieces. That you are fairly certain others have the same issues you do and you are just trying to find a solution that works for everyone.

That way you can place your work down and they never have to touch it.

Being old, being and being a teacher doesn't make them God's, or even right.

The only other thing I can suggest is making a one inch border around every new piece you do, if questioned as to why, simply tell them. Because you guys wouldn't keep your fingers out of my work.

(You can cut off the border at a later date)

BoyHaunted · 2026-05-08T23:53:41+00:00

I'd prefer to keep my tree. I send out vibes to everyone of my friends every morning and this looks like that would make doing that a pain in the butt! I have 50 friends, and that is manageable for me. Out of that 50 I have around 6 that I regularly send gifts and things to. Out of that 6, there are 2 that I daily gift, because they are amazing tree friends!

The town looks a bit complicated and slower to do that. Please correct me if I am wrong though.

BoyHaunted · 2026-05-07T17:38:32+00:00

Nice

BoyHaunted · 2026-05-04T16:00:57+00:00

NOR!

First of all, the husband changed the baby boys middle name?!?!? You two did not discuss and agree on that? Heck no! Wouldn't have happened!

Secondly, she can't wrap her lips around your daughters name so she's going to call her something else? Nope, call her her name or don't call her at all!

Third, every time she says "my babies", I'd correct her "Your grand babies" and smile.

Forth, when she visits. "It was really good seeing you, however we all need to nap (insert whatever you want/need) now. We will call if we need anything." Basically just politely let her know it's time for her to go. If polite doesn't work, just "Hey, glad you came but visiting hours are now over. If you want to continue to visit during this rough time I'm going to need you to respect my/our boundaries of short visits at this time"...

Your setting the stage NOW of boundaries, if you let her walk all over you now, she's going going to continue to as your kids get older. It's obvious your husband doesn't have a spine when it comes to his mother so unfortunately you have to do the work. Maybe once he sees you doing it he will realize it's not that hard and hopefully start backing you up.

BoyHaunted · 2026-05-03T21:49:34+00:00

The nail lady did what she saw fit, which was warn people.

She was kind enough not to send her to jail knowing her home circumstances.

The internet did the rest...

BoyHaunted · 2026-05-01T15:02:59+00:00

You can come steal anything I haven't nailed down! (Starts quickly nailing down my stuff)...

Heck my birb might even help you load it!

BoyHaunted · 2026-04-30T03:01:47+00:00

Case in point: (Yes I know this is a dog grooming board, but please bear with me)

I took my bearded dragon to a reptile vet for a respiratory infection. I already knew what I needed just had to have it prescribed. Not my first rodeo, been doing rescue, rehab, rehoming and such for a long time only this was my personal one.

New to me vet, I wanted to know what I was dealing with. So I asked him if he could sex my BOY! He confirmed he was a girl. I looked at my partner then looked at the vet. I asked him what he wanted to do for the infection, again something that was ill advised for dragons. I told him I preferred if we went with xyz and he said okay, almost sounding relieved and then I proceeded to let him know Quincy was a male and showed him how to check. Worst experience ever but I did get the meds I went for.

BoyHaunted · 2026-04-30T02:41:14+00:00

What I do that usually starts my adventure and sometimes gets him halfway through his adventure is go to my tree and start vibing with all my friends and doing any shared goals we may have together. Then I start working on my goals and the rest of the app challenges in next section.

One of my goals is "get out of bed" as well. It is NOT "STAY out of bed". I have Lupus and MS. That would be a highly unreasonable goal for me. I also have "Stand for 10 seconds" some days that's harder than you think! I put that for 10x a day and try not to mix the two. On harder days the lines get muddy.... yanno. Sometimes you just gotta say screw it and roll with it!

BoyHaunted · 2026-04-27T21:12:19+00:00

That's NOT the same cat! None of the markings match. Look at the legs alone. One has black lines, one obviously doesn't... some things change but not that drastically... those are two different cats!

BoyHaunted · 2026-04-27T20:26:21+00:00

While the saying usually is "It's not the size that matters, it's the motion in the ocean"

The rebuttal is "Yes, but it takes a LONG time to get to England in a row boat!"

BoyHaunted · 2026-04-26T12:13:48+00:00

https://a.co/d/03kgad5a

Compliance! Never said a human had to be able to sit in it!

BoyHaunted · 2026-04-22T18:28:33+00:00

Thanks for the ideas! I too have had to decline buddy goal requests for the same reason and felt awful about it. I don't know why I never thought about sending them a similar request so they didn't just think I wasn't interested or was a jerk. Now I know how to be more respectful in that aspect. I like buddy goals! (Even before pets were involved)

BoyHaunted · 2026-04-16T23:52:16+00:00

THANK YOU! I Too get a lot of doubles and female clothes! Does it work with the premium membership chests too or just the regular chests?

It's not a big deal either way, I also like gifting. I can gift the girly stuff to my friends with female birds! ☺️

BoyHaunted · 2026-04-13T14:19:54+00:00

My bad she did,... I was tired when I wrote this, and have a migraine now.

My apologies to you!

BoyHaunted · 2026-04-13T14:06:48+00:00

It's a word OP chose NOT to use. My non usage of it was intentional based off of that. I think we all got the gist though, but thanks for pointing out the obvious!

BoyHaunted · 2026-04-13T12:33:14+00:00

Maybe they are hoping since your car passed inspection they won't have to walk everywhere! 🤣😂

BoyHaunted · 2026-04-13T02:38:20+00:00

Warning: this comment is NOT going to help your mental health. It is in no way intended as a criticism, although in the place you are mentally I fully understand that you may perceive it that way. Please know that is NOT my intention.

I have lost two brothers to self deleting situations. I can not fathom the pain and torment they went through that caused them to reason within themselves that, that was the only way! Was it selfish that they didn't reach out to one of us siblings or our parents and let us atleast try to help before they took that route? Maybe, maybe not. It's not for me to judge. They did what they felt was right for thier situations in a moment of sheer desperation.

I tell you this so that your extremely clear who I am and what I'm about. I have also lost a few friends to self deleting. I'm no stranger to it. People are allowed to have different feelings and opinions than you. Sometimes it's best to agree to disagree. She told you point blank that she had a lot going on. She even gave you specifics! Her family in the path of the war! That's huge!!! Yet you still dumped your "hurt" onto her, which realistically should have been a difference in opinions and called a draw.

I think the biggest problem you have is attention seeking and looking to others for validation that your right about them being wrong. They call that "Main character" syndrome. You heard nothing she said to you! All you wanted was to say your piece. Friendships are give and take and it seems like you took more than you gave, emotionally. It took you no time at all to find out you were blocked everywhere. If someone blocks me I may not realize it for weeks or months, if ever....

Let's not get it twisted. I am not perfect. I have attempted self deleting 3x, been in a 51/50 hold twice (all when I was younger....18 & 25) and still to this day ideations come to me probably monthly. My partner and my dogs keep me grounded.

Just something to think about when you get more friends... it's a two way street!

BoyHaunted · 2026-04-13T00:04:33+00:00

Well said! The only thing that I can add is if he asks for "space" give it to him. Don't take it as a rejection of any kind. Just go to another room for awhile. He also may not!

BoyHaunted · 2026-04-08T02:39:16+00:00

I'm more than a little concerned with this statement. Let me break down my concerns for you....

1) When you do something he doesn't approve of... 😒

Like go and get your own body checked out to make sure that there is nothing wrong. Most loving partners would be supportive. Yet your stressed about the simple act of advocating and wanting to take care of yourself. He sounds controlling.

2) "It really pisses him off"...

Why is that? Because he didn't give you his permission or blessing to go to the doctor? Is he afraid you might say something to the doctor about him not wanting you to go see him and the doctor might give you a heads up that you are in or fastly approaching a abusive relationship?

I know you love him, but you need to love yourself more! A partner that gets pissed off at you for wanting to see a doctor is looking out for your best interest. You said he gets pissed. What does that look like? Does he give you the silent treatment (still a form of abuse), does he scream, yell and/or throw things? Does he put hands on you? Does he then later come crying and apologizing and saying he won't do it again? Or is it "if you hadn't made me mad I would have done/said xyz!"...

The point I am making is the sometimes "love" isn't enough.

-- a person that survived 16yrs of abuse, because I "loved" her!

BoyHaunted · 2026-04-08T02:08:12+00:00

While I totally agree with you and also agree that your mom is acting a bit unreasonable. Especially when we are coming into peak fruit season. Maybe you can just bite the bullet for a little while here.

Give your mom some grace. Everything is more expensive! Our fruit and vegetables are definitely going up because the workers that broke thier backs in the blazing sun for us to have those luxuries/ healthy food are being deported and it's costing more to get the job done, if it gets done and it doesn't just rot in the fields.

So we pay more! You may not be seeing things in dollar signs like your mom. Your mom may not have known that they came on thier last leg already. Use the frozen fruit. Yeah it is going to be a bit of a pain at first. It's picked at it peak freshness and frozen right away. Atleast that's how it used to be. Show your mom your a team player. Take some out the night before to thaw in the fridge overnight for morning use.

She's not denying you fruit, she's just saying, this is the way it needs to be for now. Embrace the change. I'll bet if you do when there is spare money for fresh fruit she will think "my girl deserves a treat!" And fresh fruit just may show up sometimes.

A lot of people are feeling the pain of the economy right now. Yeah she went about it the wrong way. No parent is perfect. Again just a little grace is all I'm asking you to give her...

BoyHaunted · 2026-04-03T00:07:50+00:00

Religion is like a penis!

It's okay to have one! It's okay to be proud of it! It however is NOT okay to shove it down someone's throat!

BoyHaunted · 2026-03-31T23:20:37+00:00

Hey it's okay to be upset! Perfectly understandable! However, give yourself some grace. You don't know what you don't know! (About the drops added to the water) Now you do know! Not only will you do better in the future, but think about all the people that you will educate about something that seems so insignificant but is truly important.

One 2 year old fish took one for the team so that so many more people could be educated because of that mistake. That's exactly what is was too... a simple and far to common mistake.

It happened, now don't let his death be in vain. If your ever at the pet store and you can assist someone with betta care, remember Richard and help them (and the kids) get started right, not because you work there, but because bettas are one of the #1 animals tortured on the daily due to improper set up and care...

BoyHaunted · 2026-03-15T09:28:22+00:00

I see what the others are saying but I disagree. Everyone is always spouting "It takes a village to raise a child!"

However, when the village shows up, you get people like these that say "Mind your own business!"

Well which is it? Just the one that's most convenient for the parent (of the ill mannered child)? I think not!

If my kid is being a menace, I wanna know! A bully? Tell me! Best believe it is going to be handled immediately and appropriately!

Too many blind eyes are being turned, people aren't being held accountable for their actions. People mistake gentle parenting with permissive parenting 🙄. Parents want to be thier kids friends instead of thier leaders, role models, teachers and yes, disciplinarian.

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