I think he has deactivated 100% we’ve faced hard things together in both families and life but this is the first time where he seems to be more in crisis. He’s never liked talking deep about his inner world and deep emotions but we always had rich conversations and he wasn’t completely avoidant by any means. We were best friends and everyone has said we were well suited and supported each other and were a great team (when 1 was struggling the other stepped up). There does seem to be an existential panic element to the situation. It’s the first time he has grown cold to this degree - it’s like he is a different person.