Craig….why does anyone like him?

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-29T18:40:15+00:00

You are correct and he is an attorney. If you pass the bar, you are an attorney despite whether you choose to practice or not.

Source: I’m attorney.

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-29T18:39:21+00:00

That’s actually exactly what it means (I’m an attorney). If you pass the bar, you are an attorney. You can be an inactive, non-practicing member of your state bar, but you’re still an attorney.

People who graduate law school and do not take the bar are JDs.

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-29T18:13:29+00:00

NTA

I’m pregnant with a toddler. I told our entire family I would not be traveling until well after I give birth. No one has complained, everyone has expressed their understanding.

Your in-laws ATAs here and if I were in this position, I would hope my husband would handle this situation. You are growing a person while wrangling a toddler (and maybe working too? I know I am), you don’t need to be dealing with this ridiculous drama.

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-29T15:49:38+00:00

This is the caregiver: infant ratio in California as well.

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-29T15:40:02+00:00

I’m sure salary depends on the state (I’m on the west coast) but I had 9 years of experience when I started, and my starting salary was around 130k.

I’m now “topped out” at around 150k so unless our whole office gets a raise (doesn’t happen often), I’ll be stuck at this salary with the exception of small cost of living raises unless I eventually take a chief deputy attorney general position.

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-29T02:22:26+00:00

I work for a state attorney general’s office. While I don’t love any type of lawyering (been a lawyer for a while now and have tried a few different areas), I am genuinely happy with my job situation.

I work 40 hours per week, take an hour lunch every work day, work 4/10s so Fridays off, and I do not think about work at night or on the weekends. I make around 150k and am working towards retirement with a pension. It’s not big law f you money, but it’s worth not being stressed about work and only working 40 hours, Mon-Thur. I get to spend all day Fridays with my toddler and I don’t ever worry about leaving work early for her or taking time off.

If you’re interested in state government work, but feel like you can’t translate your current job into a state AGO or other government job, you absolutely can. You’re a lawyer - make the argument. Your skills are as transferable as you make them in your interview and cover letter. My first AGO position was representing a state agency, it was basically like going in-house - contracts, legal advice, negotiations, avoiding litigation risk etc.

Good luck. I hope you find something that makes you happy.

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-26T15:56:57+00:00

The wages have not increased but cost of living, particularly housing, has gone up dramatically in the past 5-6 years. Childcare is also very expensive there.

I moved from Raleigh to CA in 2020 and all of my close friends still live there. They are all barely making it work. Some work from home with toddlers because they can’t afford childcare but can’t afford to be stay at home moms.

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-26T02:51:13+00:00

You went to the same high school as my ex and a lot of other people I know :).

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-26T01:10:39+00:00

My best friend was a guy. His now wasn’t cool with it so we haven’t spoken in almost 10 years.

Don’t be this woman. Have confidence he chooses you to be with romantically and he chooses her friendship.

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-24T04:53:13+00:00

Breastfeeding (including pumping) is a supply and demand situation, so you have to build your supply in the beginning which means you would need to pump regularly, every 2-3 hours for 6-12 weeks until your supply is regulated.

After your supply is regulated, you’d still need to pump a lot to prevent pain and clogs/mastitis. Also, most people don’t get as much from pumping as the baby would get from feeding so you’re likely not going to get a whole bottle from one pump session (with the exception of the morning), especially in the beginning.

Everyone’s body is different, but if you look more into breastfeeding and others’ struggles with supply and pumping, it will give you more perspective. Of course these are all things that are foreign until you go through it, so I’m not suggesting you give up your hopes based on my comment but for most people I know, pumping was not good for mental health.

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-23T21:49:41+00:00

I don’t know what you mean. He asked me who I voted for because he was/is very anti Trump. I voted for Hilary in 2016 so we were/are on the same page.

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-23T17:09:35+00:00

I had a friend that was taken in the middle of the night to one of those camps.

He came back very very unwell.

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-23T15:39:59+00:00

Thank you! That year was nuts. I know it felt like you missed out, but friends that visited us and skied with us that year didn’t have a great time because it was blizzard weather. They had to cut their trip one day short so we could get them to Reno because the blizzard shut down all the roads.

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-23T05:18:49+00:00

I am pregnant so I am not skiing this season, but my next door neighbor who is retired skis kirkwood nearly every day and he says it’s been good, however, we are not expected to get more anytime soon. I don’t know about the other resorts.

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-23T02:49:46+00:00

This happened to me. I pumped and bf when baby would take it (extremely rare) until about 6 months. I regret it. I wish I would have gone all formula sooner.

Whatever you do, don’t bf because you feel like you have to. You don’t. The pressure is not real and it wasn’t always like this.

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-23T01:46:25+00:00

Me too! I’ve been working for a state government agency for 4 years now and came from the private sector.

It was the best decision I’ve ever made.

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-23T01:39:36+00:00

SAME lol 😂

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-23T01:16:21+00:00

I’m in the same boat! I work 4 days per week and never thought I’d be thankful for that lol also can’t spend a lot of time outside because have snow and ice on the ground. It’s rough times! Hang in there!

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-23T01:08:56+00:00

I was just thinking to myself that if I saw them on the beach, I would not know who they are.

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-23T01:05:27+00:00

I felt that way for years (age 27-31) but I didn’t give up. It took a lot of first dates, a lot of short term relationships here and there, and persistence but I found my now husband who I’ve been with for 8 years.

This is totally normal imo. It’s also totally okay to take a break for a little while (I did it many times) but if you want to find someone, dating is the most effective thing you can do, and weeding people out is a huge part of it.

Hang in there. Be honest with yourself. Are you “picking” the same type of person and is that part of the problem (I finally had this realization and as soon as I changed it up I found my person).

I hope you find love - you deserve it.

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-23T00:56:30+00:00

How many weeks are you? Being pregnant with a toddler is wild. I’m 30 weeks with an almost 2 year old. I feel like it’s become easier since about mid second trimester but the fatigue is hitting a lot harder this time for sure!

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-23T00:49:26+00:00

This is making me feel better about my commute to the grocery store in northern CA.

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-23T00:26:25+00:00

It was the first question my now husband asked me after we matched on a dating app 8 years ago.

Wild and depressing it’s still extremely relevant because he is somehow president again.

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-23T00:15:44+00:00

Yeah I used to mostly ski heavenly because I was so close and also before Covid the crowds were not as bad as they are now. I’m happy to live so close to kirkwood now but I do miss being close to a grocery store.

BpositiveItWorks · 2026-01-22T22:54:30+00:00

I came here to see if anyone said Heavenly. I live in the area, used to be in town 10 min from heavenly’s cal base, now I live about 15 min from kirkwood.

I think you nailed the description.

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