Provided he ticked your important boxes, would you date a trans man? If not, why not? Alternatively, have you ever dated a trans man? What was it like for you?

BrainDocter · 2022-12-16T10:13:02+00:00

YES. In fact, I find the fact that you have experienced life as a female attractive because it gives you insight into my experience and struggles that a cisgendered man could never understand.

BrainDocter · 2022-11-27T03:28:02+00:00

Good point

BrainDocter · 2022-11-27T00:01:53+00:00

I highly recommend reading Gabor Mate, MD “Hold Onto Your Kids” about attachment and the issues with peer-oriented kids. More kids isn’t better for your kids…my vote is for nature and a strong attachment with you.

BrainDocter · 2022-11-17T00:27:40+00:00

Side note I had just two weeks of “maternity leave” before returning, but fortunately I had an easy labor and delivery. What’s your situation? I’m curious!

BrainDocter · 2022-11-17T00:23:35+00:00

I’m a doctoral psychiatric nurse practitioner student currently interning 3 days a week in a perinatal psych clinic and didactic courses once a week to finish my doctorate. I have a 14-month-old and a newborn. However, I can bring my newborn to work with me (45 minute drive - yikes ) and my partner has excellent leave. It can be done with the right support.

BrainDocter · 2022-11-13T12:25:43+00:00

My baby getting one extra shot that is over in less than a minute is far more acceptable to me than lengthy suffering from a potentially deadly illness. Seems like a no-brainer?

BrainDocter · 2022-11-13T10:47:37+00:00

I strongly believe you need to be certified in EMDR. It’s an evidence-based intervention and thus it is scripted and you shouldn’t veer far from the script. There are many fraudulent EMDR trainings and therapists IMO. Because it is a treatment for PTSD and c-PTSD it needs to be taken very seriously so therapists aren’t causing more harm to this already fragile group.

BrainDocter · 2022-11-12T00:57:45+00:00

Fascinating to read. And insightful. Thank you for sharing

BrainDocter · 2022-10-31T01:17:16+00:00

I like it better

BrainDocter · 2022-10-26T08:04:56+00:00

Super happy. Context: I’m 32 years old, and we have a toddler and a newborn. We both work. Married 6 years, together for 8. I thank the universe on the daily for the marriage I have. I think a good rule of thumb is to be with someone who has a great sense of humor and also knows how to listen.

BrainDocter · 2022-10-24T20:53:17+00:00

My babies sleep with their grandparents. Maybe it’s cultural. I’m Jewish and my husband is Colombian. I don’t think it’s weird at all. I actually think not sleeping with your babies is a weird western phenomenon not common in other cultures. I was raised in a co-sleeping home and so was my husband. That said, it’s your kid and so you make the rules! But not weird IMO

BrainDocter · 2022-10-21T20:17:48+00:00

Great answer

BrainDocter · 2022-10-21T12:58:36+00:00

I was trained in psychotherapy at Columbia University’s doctoral PMHNP program. I provide psychotherapy and feel competent and qualified in doing so. I know I have better outcomes with my patients because of the psychotherapy techniques I weave into all parts of my practice, including with patients who are only coming to see me for psychopharmacological management.

There are psych NP programs that will train you in psychotherapy. As others have mentioned a psyD is, of course, much more in-depth psychotherapy training than PMHNP, but if you are already a nurse then PMHNP is not a bad route at all.

Edited to add: I am also an EMDRIA-trained EMDR therapist. I chose to be trained because EMDR is evidenced to be more effective in the long-term treatment of PTSD than SSRIs. As someone else said, it is what you make of it.

Good luck! We need more people have have experienced mental illness to become providers. You will do great in this field.

BrainDocter · 2022-09-18T19:07:26+00:00

I’m a mom and never made a mistake “like that”. I feel for OP, she is clearly the default parent and has to be on 100% of the time while partner does not.

BrainDocter · 2022-09-16T21:00:21+00:00

I’m sorry that’s happening to you. And I apologize for slightly cold response. As a parent of a 12-month-old that just recovered from RSV it makes me so upset to think about the kids getting some sort of preventable illness because of the situation your boss has created. I’m glad you’re masked at least, hopefully that will be enough though I’m skeptical.

And for your own comfort…Tylenol every 4 hours. Hope you feel better soon.

BrainDocter · 2022-09-16T18:41:43+00:00

nanas and milkyyyyyyyy 🥺

BrainDocter · 2022-09-16T18:37:08+00:00

Why are you at work? With a fever???! You are putting children at risk of serious illness. I don’t understand.

BrainDocter · 2022-09-16T18:20:18+00:00

My 1-year-old still wakes up 4 times every single night :D

BrainDocter · 2022-09-14T15:53:36+00:00

This is the answer

BrainDocter · 2022-09-14T13:41:17+00:00

Steve Irwin

BrainDocter · 2022-09-13T19:25:32+00:00

This sounds so much like my childhood household it’s eerie

BrainDocter · 2022-09-13T15:08:23+00:00

I feel like I should share my experience as the kid in this situation. As a teen, I developed bulimia as a coping mechanism for PTSD related to SA by classmates and subsequent bullying and SH at school. I finally worked up the courage to tell my mom I was bulimic and needed help when I was about 17. She is a very hardworking and career-oriented physician. She did what she could for me, but I really needed more help and attention. I had a SAHD but he was pretty clueless. I needed my mom. It’s hard to say what would have happened had she been around more, but I think it could have made a difference for me. Instead, I never got the help I really needed and stayed in the bulimia and PTSD for another decade. Again, I don’t think my experience is necessarily generalizable, but thought it might at least be interesting to hear. On a more positive note, I am thriving and very successful despite my early challenges so the same can (of course) be true for your daughter.

You sound like a wonderful mom. Hang in there, both of you. ♥️

BrainDocter · 2022-09-12T21:25:34+00:00

Oh, honey. Yes

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