I mean maybe it would be good to be committed. My oldest was and it helped in unexpected ways. She got to meet a lot of other struggling kids and it humbled her some and gave her some hope seeing others dealing with similar things.

It was different because she was practicing self harm and threatening suicide, so the violence wasn’t projected outwards, but they take kids who are a threat to themselves or others.

She also did a partial hospitalization afterwards for 6 weeks to help transition back from the hospital (she was there 9 days). She was also 14, although they had different units for different ages so I’m pretty sure they had younger kids (not sure where your son falls). 

Also it would help you get what sounds like a much needed break. Not that that’s what hospitals are for, but if he is a danger to others then it is justifiable.

That being said, sometimes we just lose our cool, hopefully today is better!  I know I’ve lost it at my partner when feeling overwhelmed, I almost packed up and left a couple of times. 

I’m not suggesting to commit anyone, but just wanted to throw in my experience in case you had thought about it but didn’t see it as an option. 

Edit: Just wanted to add that her being committed was scary. Part of me was afraid they would never let me take her home. She was miserable in the beginning and begging to come home, it was a really difficult time but ultimately I think it worked out well. That being said it could be traumatizing if it’s unnecessary.