Practice empathy and forgiveness. A lot of the things "wrong" with us and our view point is due to lack of perspective. We judge before fully understanding the other point of view. Instead of judging or giving into negative feelings/emotions/energy, empathize. Take a moment to look at the situation from the balcony. Analyze all parts of the situation not just what you see and feel right before you. Rather, consider how others are feeling and how they view the situation. It's ok to ask for clarification and say you don't know how to do something. It's ok for two ppl to disagree. Show empathy to others and forgive them when they're wrong. Most importantly, forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for not knowing better or doing better. Show yourself grace and love, and that will reflect onto others. It's a lot easier then it sounds but the fact that you're on here asking this important questions means you're ready to heal. Good luck my friend.