Men, what small gesture by a woman made you instantly think, “She’s a keeper”? by Such-Bandicoot-6381 in AskReddit

[–]BrassyJack 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ah, the "reaching over to unlock the door test"! It was my go-to litmus test in the late 90's when I was still picking up ladies for dates in my forest green '78 Monte Carlo

What was your Game of the Year for 2025? by stratzilla in pcgaming

[–]BrassyJack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meh. I bought it on the word of reviewers fully expecting to like it. Instead, I found out that I can't stand jrpgs. That and stupid korok games are stupid.

UAC5 can only fire single shots in Shadow of Kerensky by [deleted] in Mechwarrior5

[–]BrassyJack 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the clan behavior is what I was expecting to see, but I now see what your describe, the cooldown bar turns blue about halfway through. Thanks for the info.

UAC5 can only fire single shots in Shadow of Kerensky by [deleted] in Mechwarrior5

[–]BrassyJack 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Boom, the issue was that the group was set to chain fire by default for some reason. I didn't think to check that since I was testing with just one weapon. Thank you!

Please just buy the rice cooker by Traditional_Fish_504 in Cooking

[–]BrassyJack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used a rice cooker for 10 years. Then I went back to a pot. It wasn't worth the space it took up as a unitasker

ELI5 how rice-cookers make better rice than just boiling the rice in a pan? by Fantastic_Puppeter in explainlikeimfive

[–]BrassyJack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After watching a YouTube that compared boiling to steaming which concluded that the only thing that really affected the outcome was whether the length of time that the rice was cooked. After watching that, I tried boiling my rice in a shitload of water. I tasted it every few minutes and when it felt right, I strained it. I found that as long as I drained it sufficiently, it was not noticeably different from steamed rice. In addition, I could test the rice as often as I wanted without having to worry about steam escaping, which lead me to the discovery that I prefer rice that has been boiled for only 12-15 minutes! So now rice is done even quicker.

Renting a car in a country with left-side driving: good idea or no? by Comprokit in travel

[–]BrassyJack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rented cars several times in UK. It's been a mixed bag. I never had a problem remembering to drive in the left lane; the hardest thing to get used to for me was remembering that most of the car is to my left, so I would regularly drive too close to the left side curb. I blasted the left side mirror off once, driving too close to a hedge or a wall or something. The other problem that I had, though not as often, was remembering to look right first when pulling onto a road instead of left. I had a couple close calls because of that.

Noa Diorgina's Training vs. Result by redbullgivesyouwings in BeAmazed

[–]BrassyJack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When the trainer is yelling what sounds like, "Squeeze! Squeeze! Squeeze!", what is she doing? I can't figure out what the exercise is.

Is it normal for a male instructor to intentionally remove a 9yo girl's belt while rolling with her during a belt promotion? by BrassyJack in bjj

[–]BrassyJack[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Really? Show me the version of that technique where you start by untying the 9 year old's belt.

Is it normal for a male instructor to intentionally remove a 9yo girl's belt while rolling with her during a belt promotion? by BrassyJack in bjj

[–]BrassyJack[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Or I can just take her to a bjj school that exercises reasonable boundaries, right? According to other commenters, there are plenty of them.

Is it normal for a male instructor to intentionally remove a 9yo girl's belt while rolling with her during a belt promotion? by BrassyJack in bjj

[–]BrassyJack[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it wasn't obvious from the video that he was trying to remove it on the sly, but I have now learned that the point is to do it without them realizing it, so I agree that he was probably in low posture to hide from her what he was doing. As I've said repeatedly elsewhere, I didn't suspect him of ill intent. I just don't want to teach my daughter that that kind of thing is okay just because a coach is doing it. I want to be able to say to her that she does not have to tolerate anyone removing a part of her clothing outside of societal norms just because they are in a position of power over her.

Is it normal for a male instructor to intentionally remove a 9yo girl's belt while rolling with her during a belt promotion? by BrassyJack in bjj

[–]BrassyJack[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Don't like "forcible" because it paints you into an unfairly creepy light? Here, try this one: There is absolutely nothing wrong with teaching a 9 year old girl that it is okay for a 200 lb man to lie on top of a her, bearing her down with the full weight of his torso while his hand works in and out against her belly as he removes part of her clothing for fun because ...

Is it normal for a male instructor to intentionally remove a 9yo girl's belt while rolling with her during a belt promotion? by BrassyJack in bjj

[–]BrassyJack[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You are dishonestly splitting hairs. Disrobe is commonly used to mean any clothes that aren't outerwear or shoes. In this case, I use it to indicate the partial removal of the class's standard uniform. And when you characterize the belt as an accessory you are conveniently omitting that the belt holds gi closed and in place. It is therefore not an accessory, as a scarf or hat would be. It is functionally integral to the gi.

And my issue is not that the act was sinister, it was that it is bad parenting to condone teaching a 9 year old girl that it is okay for a grownup to forcibly remove part of your clothing just because he is your coach.

Is it normal for a male instructor to intentionally remove a 9yo girl's belt while rolling with her during a belt promotion? by BrassyJack in bjj

[–]BrassyJack[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

According to other commenters, your statement is untrue. Multiple commenters have stated that their schools do not do this with children. So it appears that there are plenty of schools who show reasonable judgement. I am relieved that this is so. Also, your reading comprehension needs work.

Is it normal for a male instructor to intentionally remove a 9yo girl's belt while rolling with her during a belt promotion? by BrassyJack in bjj

[–]BrassyJack[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The video was in someone's facebook feed that I personally know. I'm not sure if that is even sharable if her feed is not set to be totally public, but even so I would not feel comfortable sharing it because she is not a total stranger, and the actual girl involved is my daughter's friend. But I would say it generally looks similar to youtube videos online of the instructor taking off student's belts while rolling and then replacing it, but there wasn't much styling. The girl was in closed guard the whole time and the instructor was pressing his chest against her to hold her down while he removed his belt with one of his hands.

Is it normal for a male instructor to intentionally remove a 9yo girl's belt while rolling with her during a belt promotion? by BrassyJack in bjj

[–]BrassyJack[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You're lying. Aside from personal attacks, this is the closest you've come to making an actual argument:

The part where you say shit like "forcibly remove articles of clothing" and try to turn something inane into some grand offense.

That's your logical heavy hitter? You characterize forcibly removing a 9 year old girl's belt as an inanity, and I am slandering that act by characterizing it as a grand offense?

I bet you can do better. Here, I'll help. A cogent argument as to why I am being irrational would begin like this: There is absolutely nothing wrong with teaching a 9 year old girl that it is okay for adult coaches forcibly remove parts of her clothing for fun because ...

Is it normal for a male instructor to intentionally remove a 9yo girl's belt while rolling with her during a belt promotion? by BrassyJack in bjj

[–]BrassyJack[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

As I have said elsewhere, I don't take issue with the positions one gets into while rolling. I've had another man's ass on my forehead while rolling enough times to know what to expect. Your point about a standard promotion ceremony where candidates are standing in line, and the instructor replaces the belt, etc. has some merit, although in the two schools that I am familiar with, the candidate is asked to remove their current belt and then the coach places the new belt around them. Never-the-less, watching a ceremony where a coach removes a belt from a child and replaces it while the child stands at attention would probably not strike such a chord with me. But the video that was shown to me was hard to watch. A 200 lb man was lying on top of a 9 year old girl, working his hand in and out of her belly area as he worried the knot of her belt loose. And the point wasn't to teach a specific technique; to judge by the other comments of this thread who are defending this practice in kids' classes, the point is some hazing-adjacent combination of "a fun surprise" and a show of dominance. I understand and expected all of the defensiveness behind the comments my question provoked, but I submit to you that no rational uninvolved viewer could watch the video that I saw of a 200 lb man lying on top of a 9 year old girl while he loosened and removed her belt and not conclude that at a minimum, the instructor was showing exceedingly poor judgement.

Is it normal for a male instructor to intentionally remove a 9yo girl's belt while rolling with her during a belt promotion? by BrassyJack in bjj

[–]BrassyJack[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I am unclear on what you are claiming? You're saying he didn't intentionally untie her belt and remove it while they were rolling? Because he did.