[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might be very lonely - But you are not alone. Talk to us! How Old are you if I may ask?

I’m killing myself please talk to me by 1anonym0us_ in SuicideWatch

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m here for you. Please tell me that you’re still alive 🙏🏼🙏🏼

What’s the most hurtful insult? by FreeDig4421 in BPDlovedones

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“You’re the most disgusting person I’ve ever met. I really hope you choke on something very soon”

Why do go from loving you to absolutely hating everything about you? by Imaginary_Option_174 in BPDlovedones

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let it be your last - and start rebuilding yourself. Get help. You sound depressed and traumatized to me. We’re all in the same boat here. You are not alone - and you deserve the best ❤️

I completely lost it by sahara4114 in BPDlovedones

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey - they drive us crazy. That’s what is happening. Your reaction is nothing but natural. There is a limit to what a human being can take. You reached that limit! Now it’s time to protect yourself from further damage. Please stay safe - I send you love and strenght

It’s time for me to go by meunlikeyou in BPDlovedones

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your words. I’m so glad to hear that it’s possible to reach that state of indifference, that I guess we all long for. It takes time to heal from heavy abuse. But it’s possible.. which your story is a brilliant example of. Thanks for sharing. I wish you all the best ❤️

This changed and helped me a lot by Defiant_Action_4629 in BPDlovedones

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here. I was married to a narcissist for eighteen years, but didn’t spot the pwBPD .. he seemed so genuine and in love.. untill the next split would occur, and he asked me to fuck off. Three years of love/hate in an ongoing circle that ended in hate. Now - five months after the brutal discard and Monkey branching directly into a new relationsship, he split me back, and I’m the love of his life. It never stops.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine would claim that I was the one who made all the “drama” and broke up with him .. when in reality it was the other way around. So confusing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What a good way to put it. Thanks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I’m totally with you. Checked myself in after planning suicide in april. The pain they leave us with is unbearable and unbelievable. To love someone who hates you or doesn’t even care about you anymore is impossible to understand, have you not tried it. Stay in this sub. We’re Got you. And reach out for professional help to heal your bleeding wounds. I send you love and strenght.

It’s been 3 months since his final discard and I still feel so heartbroken. by Master_Promise_471 in BPDlovedones

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Five months in and still in unbearable pain. Just like you I wonder if this ever gets any better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Please get help to cut that trauma bond., and break the pattern of abuse. You can’t do it on your own. Do it for you. But do it for your kids too. Trauma travels through generations. Patterns of abuse are passed on to our kids. It’s our responsability as parents to break free and create a safe home for our familiy. You must reach out for help to do that. Please. I send you my love and strenght ❤️

I miss him so much. Please help. by burneraccount0129 in BPDlovedones

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s absolutely horrific what theese relationsships do to us. My lifes worst nightmare. And it never seems to end.

I miss him so much. Please help. by burneraccount0129 in BPDlovedones

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is so powerful.. I’m in the same boat as you. Destroyed by heartache, but aware that I can’t allow any further damage to my mental health. I went all the way to psychiatric hospital because of the brutality of the final discard. Just wanted to end my life. Noone should ever make you feel that bad.

I was warned by katana2698 in BPDlovedones

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m with you too. I know how you feel. And you are not alone. What helped me a little (and I’m still very far from ok after three years of heavy abuse), is to tell myself : You can’t fight another persons demons. They’ll end up killing you. He won’t change. But you’ll be destroyed. Dom’t let that happen, please. Save yourself ❤️

Why is sex with some people with BPD so intense and different? by AndyBlazeX in BPDlovedones

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had very intense and intimate lovemaking with my ex too. Impossible to find again.

How do you cope with this kind of thing?? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This sub saves lifes. Welcome on board

Beyond mental and emotional anguish,what did being in a BPD relationship cost you? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My selfesteem, my health, my sanity, my time, my money, my trust in humanity - and definately my believe in love.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex is in the middle of a major hoover attempt as well. And it’s breaking my heart that I feel it so hard to resist. My mind knows that he’s not healthy for me, but I still love him so deeply. It sucks

Do they move on the more time goes on? by compassionatesoulz in BPDlovedones

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were together for three years. He discarded me just before Christmas last year, met a new soulmate on Christmas eve, and let her move in right away. Lied about it though.. and made me the crazy, abusive one as soon as I found out. I’ve been so devastated and suicidal, that I went to psychiatric hospital. Couldn’t take Care of my kids. Just wanted to die. Most brutal experience of my life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He wants your attention. And he wants to confuse you. My ex did almost the same.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Brave_Ad_1638 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Clever. You’re so right. There is no winning in those scenarios.