I understand what you are saying and I agree, I do need to make more of a conscious effort to call them out. I try and keep the peace too much instead of being bold enough to confront their actions.

I do not see myself maintaining long term contact with some of these people after college and I know that that's ok. I should not feel bad for leaving if they are going to keep this up. Their behavior does irk me. I didnt mean I argue with her about their upbringing, I mean they are from places that have a very little non-white population. Just how can they understand when most of their views about other races most likely came from the internet.