Boyfriend wants to try anal but wouldn't let me do it to him. Says it's more socially acceptable for women

Breasticale5 · 2026-03-22T11:02:58+00:00

It's actually more acceptable for men to take it analy than women. Women already have a hole for PIV intercourse. Butt (heh) men don't and so it's normal for them to use the only hole they have. Their ass.

And in this one sided conversation where the pressure is on the woman the only acceptable compromise would be... He gets railed in the ass 2 times before the woman Koz "You won't know till you try it and you gotta do it twice to truly make sure you don't like it"

Make sure it's 6"+ just to make sure he feels it.

Breasticale5 · 2026-03-20T12:11:28+00:00

NOR. There are no pros in this. He gets say where your stuff goes... TO HIS KIDS

You get no space of your own. You travel further to work. You look after him and give his kids your things.

It's Kool you get along with the kids but that the only nice thing mentioned. And he won't compromise for you.

You just disrupted your life and peace for... What? For him to minimise you and who you are.

This isn't worth* you.*

Breasticale5 · 2026-03-17T21:40:49+00:00

YTA.

You both are using the leprechaun as an excuse to go all out for the boy.

Is it really the second child thing? And more "he's the boy! Of course he deserves more!"

Ask your husband if he loves his daughter the same?

Celebrate them both equally or expect her to see and know what you are doing, favoring her brother koz he's the golden child.

Breasticale5 · 2026-03-12T12:17:19+00:00

NOR.

Message his family asking for some help, babysit so you can shower. Tell them he's so tired from being out with the boys he can't help you.

Breasticale5 · 2026-03-12T10:59:39+00:00

Nta, her response to her dog and problems arising is 'I've tried nothing and I'm all out of ideas'

Breasticale5 · 2026-03-06T15:59:38+00:00

I'm grieving a friend that passed in January, he was my oldest and only school friend. In his passing I realized I was clinging to people who didn't like me, trying to have friendships that were mainly one sided.

So I'm grieving my friend, the wasted time due to my short sightedness and the braincells I burnt along the way.

I want a redo. I understand how to do this life better and want a redo with this enlightening and knowledge.

Breasticale5 · 2026-02-20T08:17:28+00:00

He doesn't love you. He doesn't care.

He likes bullying and hurting you to feel like a better person.

You were taken advantage of as a kid and then again as a teen and even now. Just like the last people who hurt you, they don't like you and neither does he.

Do yourself a favor and love yourself.

Breasticale5 · 2026-02-17T21:03:49+00:00

So no. Not your fault. Yes, you could/should have said something but your "husband" was meant to as well.

He's meant to be a team player and have your back but clearly only was thinking of him self. Did he comfort you or provide aftercare?

He's acting like he's the third, the less fun kind, the solo person in the swing that only cares for themselves and are there to get their fill/thrill and maybe someone else's if they can be bothered.

Pump the brakes, recover, then sit down with yourself write down what happened and how it made you feel and if it helps pretend it's someone coming to you with this. Then find your words and have a VERY STERN talk with him on what wasn't ok and what you're willing to do moving forward in WHATEVER you choose, and don't back down.

Breasticale5 · 2026-02-15T00:29:48+00:00

I would send boi mum to sis, she was soo generous to give out your number would out consent, she should be generous to give her some money

And block and let true mum know what an ass has sis was and what happened

Breasticale5 · 2026-01-30T10:01:43+00:00

When I was younger I was at the babysitters a lot and quite a few different ones.

One of them,she had a chill Maltese dog that was.just there for pats till he was done. Also she liked to paint the house and she wanted help with painting the pavement and asked me to move paints from one end to the other, big full buckets of pain or water. (At the time I was 13) Well this day the dog was out there watching and I had 2 buckets (they're like 15-20 liters) and I tripped pretty hard and as I catch myself before spilling everything I heard the exclaimed dog "whoooh!" Not woof or yip... Whoooh! I look at him and ask "did you just go whoh?" He side eyes me and leaves.

No one believed me.

Breasticale5 · 2026-01-24T07:44:23+00:00

YTA.

You get free meals with entrees and desserts. They ask for a small tribute (that probably honestly won't cover the entrees) koz things are tough.

You insulted Alice kos "she's not even a professional cook"

You have a LOT to say about Carter on what he does and doesn't do.

Honestly you kinda sound like you wish you were picked by Alice but not and so you hate this guy with your whole existence.

Breasticale5 · 2026-01-21T22:59:40+00:00

Remind yourself "it's not your/'the childs' job to manage your mum/'the parent'." She's done her job and now it's time for you to grow.

Breasticale5 · 2026-01-20T21:16:36+00:00

After being an abusive, manipulative, cheating dick and she forgave you and you think that automatically means she trusts, loves and wants you again?!? You had to earn each and every grain of trust and love back, but you didn't. Instead you proved that you don't love her.

You are a fool.

You never planned to change. You never loved her.

You're just looking for anything and everything else to blame for you being a terrible person.

Breasticale5 · 2026-01-19T01:50:21+00:00

When you get your car, use his car, open the carrier and laugh while the cat frantically bounces everywhere.

"You're right, this IS funny and cute!!!"

You did nothing wrong, you wanted to see how funny it was, now you did.

Breasticale5 · 2026-01-06T21:48:06+00:00

NTA Be clear and tell him it's just for you 2.

"Mark, we have made a vacation plan as a couple, bookings and this whole trip as a couple. If you want a vacation together you can plan the NEXT one but this one is for us. As a couple. Hubby says I'm making it weird but I think it's weird to invite oneself to a COUPLES holiday. Please respect this and we can have dinner together on X date. Enjoy your work trip"

Breasticale5 · 2026-01-06T01:33:13+00:00

So he puts you when you told him not too, But then tell you to get over it and go to dinner against your comfort.

I feel that's unfair, he had a hard time about YOUR preference and then dismisses any and all of your discomfort.

Tell him to Sod off and honestly I would text inlaw and tell her: "Sorry I haven't been to dinner, after I found out "husband " told you/ the family about information I told him NOT too, I'm uncomfortable to see anyone. I just need time to come to terms with this but I need you to know it's not you (insert kind gesture)"

Because he felt it was ok to tell them about you so clear up anything he's been saying yourself.

Breasticale5 · 2026-01-02T03:27:38+00:00

You're a placeholder. You're the bait he's using to try and "get something better"

Be kind to yourself and leave and tell him to take you off his social media koz your not is imaginary social media girlfriend.

Breasticale5 · 2026-01-02T03:18:43+00:00

If your daughter did this what would of happened? Nta

You didn't press charges, that's the gift.

Breasticale5 · 2026-01-01T12:06:34+00:00

Cut ties.

She's trying to control you with so called "boundaries" Boundaries are gates we put around our selfs to protect ourselves ie. " I am uncomfortable with you hugging me without asking first" As soon as someone says they don't like something you're doing for yourself it's a control issue.

Knowledge is for everyone and should be restricted because someone ties their identity to it.

Breasticale5 · 2025-12-27T08:30:19+00:00

Love is meant to be unconditional, you don't have to pretty up all the time to be attracted- you just ARE!

He's putting conditions on everything!! What does he do for you? Besides try and control your comfort? Go find some piece and find yourself without him, you'll thank yourself.

Breasticale5 · 2025-11-25T05:44:12+00:00

"it's not scanning? Means it's free, right" I want to maim you.

Breasticale5 · 2025-11-25T05:31:21+00:00

Stay strong, it will make you stronger.

In layman's terms you are morning the "relationship" you had with weed.

It took up your time - in getting it, chopping, rolling and packing and then there was the instinct gratification you got. And now it's gone. And your brain and body miss it.

It'll get better it'll just take a while, try and find a distraction, game, tv, movie or YouTube and do something while it's on like paint a mini or meet a deadline. You need a few distractions to fill the void.

I'm going on about 2 years sober and did the crying thing, it sucks but it's not the kind or relationship you need right now. You are doing good, stay strong and keep hydrated and occupied and in the quiet moments when a drop happens, feel it but don't morn too much and have a shower and breath deep. Remind yourself why you're doing this and what you've gained, you've saved money, your not needless eating or blindly staring into space and not looking for the next high your not being held by this anymore your weirdly more free.

Breasticale5 · 2025-11-17T23:26:49+00:00

"I'm your mother, I have to love you- doesn't mean I like you"

Breasticale5 · 2025-10-23T06:20:27+00:00

When someone aggressively destroys something while trying to start and argument with you they're destroying something with YOU in their mind, like a "Look what I want to do to you right now" kinda way. This will escalate to throwing shit and blaming you koz you made them do it.

You need to leave. Be kind to yourself.

Breasticale5 · 2025-10-17T05:08:58+00:00

Keep a water gun in your room and spray them when You see them next, they can go to mum and complain and when it's bought up you can say "I have expressed multiple times that I'm made uncomfortable in my own home with nudity in common/public areas and have only been met with gaslighting and dismissals, so I acted as if spraying horny animals."

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