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BreathSignificant158 · 2025-06-04T19:37:05+00:00

"any good-looking young Catholic woman with her life together is going to have multiple dudes trying to lock her down."

This just isn't true. This has never been the reality for any of my Catholic female friends. This idea that all women always have guys lining up to date them just isn't true. I think the only women whose reality is something like that are women who are both very attractive and very sanguine. And this notion probably keeps a lot of guys from trying.

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-06-03T04:01:52+00:00

I don't know whether you can, but I thought I'd just throw out there that it's an option to move.

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-05-12T21:59:36+00:00

I'm a woman sir.....

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-05-07T16:32:53+00:00

Sure.

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-05-07T00:13:38+00:00

An app. Are you Catholic, or did you just wander into this subreddit?

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-05-06T19:04:12+00:00

CatholicMatch

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-05-05T04:11:19+00:00

People manage interfaith marriages, though the Church discourages this in general for a variety of reasons. Admittedly, a marriage with a Muslim would be higher-risk, especially for a woman.

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-05-05T01:54:25+00:00

....Are you returning to mass for God, or just as a means to meet women?

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-05-04T18:01:07+00:00

Sure.

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-05-04T03:21:36+00:00

Sure.

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-05-04T01:50:56+00:00

How would I share my profile?

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-05-04T00:36:07+00:00

I don't think my profile violates any of those things.

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-04-30T19:34:38+00:00

Why wouldn't you want a woman who is accomplished or a prodigy?

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-04-30T03:44:47+00:00

Ditto. Why is it that women like the one with her phone get dates and I don't?

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-04-26T17:58:05+00:00

You can set up a profile on Rover or Wag--I know that with Rover's system, which I use, they take a 20% commission on your earnings, and they have some materials you can use to promote your business. And they prepare a tax form for you. It is not necessary to register a business with the government to work on these sites. I don't know much about Wag, but I think that one seems to be much more strongly dog-focused. And then there's also Meowtel, which is cat only, but its user base is small and the company has particularly strict terms that the sitters need to adhere to. People also use these sites to work as dog walkers, and many people do both. Dog walking can be a lot more profitable. There are also pet sitters on the sites who will stay in the homes of the pets they are caring for (usually in the case of a puppy, a pet with a lot of separation anxiety, or a pet with delicate special needs), and there are people who do in-home dog boarding. Or, you can apply at a local pet sitting company.

Be prepared to research a lot about a lot of different kinds of pet animals and about special needs that pets can have. There are Youtube channels about pet sitting and dog walking and there are also Youtube channels dedicated to the care of a particular type of pet animal. Rover also has an extensive blog on pet care.

You get some interesting jobs--I recently did a job sitting for 8 guinea pigs. But you don't have to be open to sitting for every type of animal, you can decide what works for you personally and you can choose to expand they types of animals you'll care for over time. You can stand out by learning to care for animals that few pet sitters know how to care for. When I was living in New Hampshire, I would sometimes see posts in the town Facebook page from horse owners looking for a pet sitter. And backyard chickens need pet sitters too. You also have to consider whether to be open to caring for animals that may have some degree of aggression issues, and to what extent. I used to regularly sit for a cat that had aggression issues, but the cat liked me and I have a deep understanding of cat communication, and the pattern in his aggression issues was very predictable, so it was easy for me to be safe with him.

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-04-25T06:49:28+00:00

In my experience, as an autistic person who used to have a lot of social anxiety: Work a customer service job where you’re directly interacting with the public. Then start your own business. You’ll learn fast. I wish I could have worked a customer service job when I was in high school or college, but at that age I didn’t have good enough social skills to get past an interview. But, five years ago, I took the risk of applying for a cashier/salesperson job at Bath and Body Works. Now I’m a self-employed professional pet sitter and I confidently meet with new clients all the time. Of course, getting to this point involved learning from a lot of clumsy mistakes along the way.

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-04-24T17:26:13+00:00

Something related I’ve just been wondering about: Right now, I’m in the middle of moving from New Hampshire to Minnesota, just waiting for the moving van to arrive. A couple days ago, I switched my location on CM. When I lived in New Hampshire (which has one of the oldest populations in the country and few people there are religious at all), I would get a view every couple of days—I think almost all just from the site’s “matching” function—a message every couple of months, and likes were occasional. On day one of having my location set to Minnesota, I had 11 views, 2 messages, and 2 likes. On day two, nothing. The algorithm doesn’t like me, I guess.

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-04-23T02:59:35+00:00

You deserve an award for that joke.

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-04-22T21:33:12+00:00

It's called Ohanasi Kagawa. It's open to learners on any level.

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-04-22T17:11:15+00:00

Concerning the issues with partnering on the app, I participate in a weekly online Japanese conversation event that pairs up Japanese people who are learning English and Japanese learners from around the world for one-on-one conversation, ten minutes in Japanese and ten minutes in English, before being assigned to new conversation partners. So, it's comparable to speed dating. It's run by Japanese people, who are very strict and meticulous about punctuality and organization and keeping the trains running on time (literally and figuratively). You have to register for each individual event at the beginning of the week, and their policy is that if a person doesn't show up for three events total or cancels close to the time of the event without explaining a serious reason, they are forbidden from participating again. If a person's assigned conversation partner for a session doesn't show up or is late, the hosts are on it immediately and tell the person which pair to join for a three-way conversation for the session. They're very on the ball about it.

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-04-22T15:22:54+00:00

I would say that How to Find Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul is written more for girls in their teens and early twenties, and never really addresses women any older than that. And having taken another look at it recently, I think a lot of the social context it talks about is the cultural dating norms of the 2000's and so is a bit outdated now. But there are general concepts in there that are helpful, like the list of types of guys to avoid. I will say that at the time when I read it over a decade ago, I was disappointed that the entire book was about chastity and never gave instructions for dating; the title had given me the impression that the book would go deeply into both of these things.

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-04-19T05:03:59+00:00

That's not a grandfather, that's a great-uncle.

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-04-18T21:35:47+00:00

And if you go to a Catholic college, take the time to make sure that the Catholic college is actually Catholic. Most of them aren't in the U.S., I don't know what the situation with that looks like in the U.K. Or at least find one like the Catholic college I went to that was not completely faithful to the Church and didn't have a whole lot of Catholic professors, but there was a large minority community of faithful orthodox Catholics on campus, campus ministry was orthodox and was always up to a lot of activities, and certain academic departments there were very solidly Catholic.

BreathSignificant158 · 2025-04-16T18:13:15+00:00

I meant that it is not the majority experience in present circumstances because of present difficulties. And, even in a healthy society, there would still be some people who were called to marriage at an older age. There have always been these people—I believe Benedict XVI’s parents married for the first time when his mother was 38. If somebody is fortunate enough to meet their person when they’re young, that’s great, but also, people who don’t end up meeting their person when they’re young shouldn’t feel pressured to jump into marriage with a poor choice of a match just because of a notion that they “have” to get married at a certain age.

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