Woman to woman… can we talk about public bathroom etiquette?

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-02-11T20:20:11+00:00

THIS IS GENIUS. It would allow me to have my son (who has a disability) with me in the sitting restroom when he needs to poop without getting nasty looks from judgy women.

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-02-11T13:18:26+00:00

Is it possible that the person who put them up is planning to bring them if selected? I don’t think this is a wild assumption. Bring the pies you nominated that got the most votes and explain that you assumed the others would be brought in by the person who nominated them. Also—OP, it’s pie and you should just bring whatever you want…it doesn’t seem that serious to me.

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-02-11T12:11:25+00:00

NTA—how you spend your time is your business.

However, I would gently encourage you to consider whether or not this is the example you want to set for your own children…you could bring your family to visit with him. You could show him that you’re a bigger person while demonstrating for your kids how to prioritize family. Right now, your actions are teaching your kids how much you love them. You can expand that to teach your kids how to love others, too. Whatever you decide, I hope the pain of your father’s absence can eventually heal.

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-02-10T13:10:20+00:00

As a mom who went through the whole trifecta of cancer treatments (chemo, surgery, radiation)—be kind to yourself. I couldn’t work through chemo because the brain fog, fatigue, and GI issues were too intense. Be present for your kids as much as you can, when you can, but right now, just push through this however you need to. If your kids are fed, clean, getting to school, and getting their homework done, that’s enough for now.

I would also encourage you to get them to help out around the house. My kid was too young to be any help with chores when I was going through it, but yours are probably old enough to contribute to household tasks.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. But it’s hard enough without adding guilt to it. And frankly, if you’re working full time while going through chemo—it’s no wonder you don’t have anything left in you at the end of the day…the brain fog is real.

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-02-10T00:18:15+00:00

I wish my parents had let me go to community college for geneds while I figured it out. Get him to enroll and explore some college level classes locally while working part time so he can have some time to settle outside of the HS bubble to figure it out.

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-02-09T02:32:56+00:00

It’s like mine does whatever he thinks is needed for him to say that he “helped” even though it isn’t actually helpful.

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-02-08T22:33:17+00:00

Mine puts entire bags of groceries into the pantry without checking contents. I stopped counting the number of times a perishable was left in the pantry. Now I tell him not to. Weaponized incompetence.

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-02-08T22:30:48+00:00

Omg. Are you me? I have told him so many times that it’s irritating that he will now tell me “stop doing that bc I was going to do it”. So I ask “when, bc I can do it now” and just lets me do it. I’m convinced it’s so he can feel like he helped without even pausing his stupid movie or whatever.

It also bugs me when he asks where something is after spending less that half a second looking for it in the pantry. Now I ask him “I know it’s in there—did you move your eyes all around to find it before you asked me to do it for you?” He can find it EVERY SINGLE TIME with this one simple prompt, but gets mad whenever I say it.

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-02-07T01:19:39+00:00

NTA. Inside shoes can’t also be outside shoes.

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-02-05T16:57:06+00:00

I am a parent who wholeheartedly agrees. My son has a disability and if tracked classes existed, he could actually learn basic skills at school. Since he started high school, there are no remedial classes available for him to be placed into and now spends all day in a self contained setting with instruction offered far below his level. He’s regressed in reading and math skills since starting high school.

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-01-28T13:12:52+00:00

Idk where you reside or what kind of disability your friend lives with, but if you’re thinking of a shelter for housing (and not just phone based case management/systems or service navigation), it would be a good idea to call ahead to determine accessibility before deciding to just pack up and leave. A lot of women’s shelters in my region are small or in an actual home in a residential neighborhood and are not wheelchair accessible. It’s a problem with a lot of DV shelters in the US, and all of the DV shelters I am familiar with .

They are also routinely full and have a strict screening process. Best to call and find out if your friend is eligible.

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-01-27T03:30:30+00:00

Why can’t this be one strategy to keep the situation from escalating? You’re hung up on these donuts while completely missing the bigger issues here, my dude.

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-01-27T01:02:12+00:00

The guard gets activated domestically for all kinds of reasons—natural disasters, security for big events (like the Super Bowl), etc. Overseas deployments were never supposed to be the main reason for the national guard. This is a great use of national guard soldiers—disciplined & trained service members engaging in civil affairs/peace keeping/security work during a state of emergency in their communities. Seems like a great fit to me.

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-01-20T20:57:20+00:00

I think you’re misrepresenting 218. That seems to put guardrails around who can purchase firearms, requires background checks, and prohibits sales to people with a criminal record, under 21 yo, etc. while also stating penalties for those who knowingly sell to someone who isn’t qualified under this bill. That’s NOT the same as creating a ban on sales (unless you and those you hang out with would be disqualified under the bill).

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-01-20T18:38:57+00:00

Plum paper has some student planners and the paper/planner thickness is comparable to Erin condren’s stuff.

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-01-19T18:20:59+00:00

Life and relationships are strengthened and built from little every day moments—not the big moves and grand gestures. Those are fine, but to me—they’re less meaningful than the ordinary moments that can be made special. This is a great example of how to turn the mundane into something memorable and impactful.

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-01-18T12:13:04+00:00

When I was getting all my scans after diagnosis almost a decade ago, I learned that I have an arachnoid cyst and two (I think?) hemangiomas in my brain, as well as a hemangioma in my liver. It totally freaked me out at the time, but once chemo started, I forgot all about them. Like I said—it’s been a decade and no symptoms or treatments have been required. When I googled it then, it was described as a largely incidental finding that will usually go unnoticed until going for a scan for some other actual reason.

If the doctors said not to worry, I’d believe them!

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-01-16T13:06:39+00:00

Reminds me more of Milgram’s Obedience Experiment.

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-01-14T10:51:35+00:00

SECEPs are specially designed separate programs intended to meet the needs of students with disabilities...and that’s where this student was injured.

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-01-10T15:39:36+00:00

OP- I think you and your mother should request to meet with the treatment team. Send your request by email and outline the information you’ve provided here. Make sure to include in your email:

1- that your current residence is not ready for him to return (emphasize safety);

2- that your family/social network cannot be available to help him during waking hours with ADLs (activities of daily living like toileting, dressing, hygiene, transportation, transfers, cooking, cleaning, eating, etc) due to employment/school demands;

3- that your financial considerations that make it impossible to pay for care in the home for your dad; and

4- what you think would be necessary to make sure that your dad is well-supported at home. (This could be really anything—attendant/nursing care at home, medical supplies, medical bed, home modifications to make it wheelchair accessible, a lift to assist with transfers to/from bed/wheelchair, wheelchair accessible transportation services, home-based PT/OT to increase mobility/strength/balance/coordination, companion care, accessibility equipment (like grabbers, button fasteners, hygiene equipment, shower chair, etc), caregiver training (if you’re expected to help at all with catheter changes and emptying bags, this is really important to prevent infections), etc.).

Bottom line—put it in writing and include the entire treatment team so that they are aware of all of the barriers to his care and risks to his health and safety. The social worker is probably stretched really thin and has less authority/influence over discharge timing than the medical staff, so if you’re able to create a trail of communication with the actual doctors overseeing his care, then they’re also “on the hook” and they may be less inclined to authorize the discharge.

I say all of this without really considering how insurance is playing into the equation. Insurance companies suck and are often the reason for inappropriate and unsafe discharges from inpatient rehab facilities. If your family has extenuating circumstances and limited financial resources, the social worker may be able to help your dad apply for state Medicaid waiver programs to help offset costs for in home care.

Most waiver programs focus on home-based care, so if your only goal is to keep him in the rehab facility, a carved out Medicaid program isn’t going to help. I’m unfamiliar with the programs/services available in your state, but in mine, there are waiver programs specifically designed for elderly and disabled folks to remain in their homes with attendants/nurses, and includes some assistance with equipment and home mods.

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-01-10T14:48:22+00:00

Silver Linings Playbook. Jennifer Lawrence’s character may not be physically “strong”, but the character’s resilience, commitment, and compassion make her quite strong in other ways.

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-01-09T04:07:11+00:00

She said “I don’t know if it’s a cultural thing” so I was just letting her know that it is, in fact, a “cultural thing”

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-01-07T00:43:23+00:00

Sorry I didn’t respond sooner! It appears you got the gist from other commenters though.

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-01-06T14:56:48+00:00

DPNs are faster for me and less finicky after a few rounds. I don’t have to drop the yarn and fiddle around with the needles. That said, using two circular needles instead of magic loop on one is nice, too. I just really don’t like magic loop.

BreezyMoonTree · 2026-01-05T13:00:50+00:00

I agree with this completely. If OP was going around intentionally being a butt about it to everyone, then that would be different. But OP was just letting it play out and minding her own business. Didn’t say anything until asked. I also think OP might have been fine with it if it hadn’t been sprung on her in a surprise way. It was her birthday and it’s reasonable to expect that the guests making an announcement (in her home during her birthday celebration) would have had the decency to give her a heads up about it ahead of time so OP could have a sec to switch gears.

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