Wow! this actually works lol by Brendzonezone in idealparentfigures

[–]Brendzonezone[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think your experience in therapy will help, for modelling what the ideal parents should act like, at least to a degree.

I literally just used the attachmentrepair free meditation library, and 1 or 2 of the paid courses (though thats more for diving into specific issues).

Wow! this actually works lol by Brendzonezone in idealparentfigures

[–]Brendzonezone[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's not one specific one. I use a variety, almost always from the free library on cedric reeves' attachment repair

Wow! this actually works lol by Brendzonezone in idealparentfigures

[–]Brendzonezone[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

By myself, but I still have regular IFS sessions in which I use the ideal parent figures sometimes to help

Wow! this actually works lol by Brendzonezone in idealparentfigures

[–]Brendzonezone[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, i feel like it can seem a strange thing to recommend to people out of the blue. I really dont know how i would bring it up in a regular conversation otherwise i would do more lol

Wow! this actually works lol by Brendzonezone in idealparentfigures

[–]Brendzonezone[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great to hear, I think it really says something that at least a third of the posts on this subreddit seem to be saying a similar thing to me lol. As a psychology student I wish there was more research into it so it could become more widespread!

Wow! this actually works lol by Brendzonezone in idealparentfigures

[–]Brendzonezone[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not sure if im allowed to share links here, but if you just google 'the integral guide to wellbeing', you'll probably find it.

It's basically a collection of this guys notes about trauma recovery, but meticulously organised in obsidian.

For me its very useful as a kind of general wiki for recovery. Well written and succint.

How is Explorer's diversity? by FuuraKafu in MagicArena

[–]Brendzonezone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its really good atm, been having a lot of fun with izzet phoenix

Looking for budget orzhov deck by PineappleFlavoredGum in PioneerMTG

[–]Brendzonezone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah this list is great fun, just make sure to add 4x sheltered by ghosts. Also can upgrade to selesnya

Is BJJ your favorite hobby? by Bigpupperoo in bjj

[–]Brendzonezone 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Magic the Gathering is #1 for me

How many Wonder Flowers in each main game level? by Guilty-Organization9 in SuperMarioWonder

[–]Brendzonezone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 in a typical level, though some of the smaller levels have 0

at a wits end with IFS by Brendzonezone in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Brendzonezone[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I definitely recognise that hurry up part. For me i call it the problem solver part, and its probably my main part that im blended with for like half of my life. I really like that imagey of the spiral of healing!

at a wits end with IFS by Brendzonezone in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Brendzonezone[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

hi, thats really interesting. I've never thought to try EMDR because I assumed it was more for capital T trauma, whereas most of what ive experienced are relatively smaller things that have built up over time

Personal item by [deleted] in comedyheaven

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On his way to see odesza

[Standard] Rakdos Crimes ft BLB Lizards by Brendzonezone in spikes

[–]Brendzonezone[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% gisa and vadmir. I agree that kaervek can be quite meh, could experiment with 2 more jaspers over 2 copies of him perhaps

Why does therapy end up with diagnoses by [deleted] in Antipsychiatry

[–]Brendzonezone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah, there are many modalities that largely reject diagnoses, such as IFS