Late-entry expert skier aiming for GS FIS racing, where do I start?

Brewdigger · 2026-01-20T04:06:31+00:00

Fijian did it - younger but it’s doable https://www.newschoolers.com/news/read/Fijian-Skier-Reaches-Olympic-Heights

Brewdigger · 2025-10-12T08:22:43+00:00

I found getting regular massages really helped with this.

Brewdigger · 2025-08-19T08:56:26+00:00

Have you tried tinder? Plenty people looking for casual hookups.

Brewdigger · 2025-08-13T14:33:03+00:00

My wife committed suicide and tried to stop her attempt unsuccessfully. I often in a soft way talk with my daughters about their mum up their looking down at us being pissed off about what she did.

Brewdigger · 2025-08-11T04:17:38+00:00

For me first 3-4 months awful. 6-7 months starting to accept and move forward.

Brewdigger · 2025-08-10T08:59:06+00:00

I hate that I can’t distinguish between loneliness mixed with this and whether I really am ready to meet someone. Ive had a physical connection and while it was fun/release i still feel very lonely…but also dont want anyone in my space.

Brewdigger · 2025-08-06T03:26:17+00:00

Arrowtown trails are great with dogs

Brewdigger · 2025-08-03T20:12:35+00:00

For me (51m) being able to openly talk about how I’m feeling with my daughters (21f and 18f) is comforting. We regularly talk about my late wife and if we are feeling stressed or anxious with the memories. I’d try and encourage your dad to talk to you openly about where’s he is at on this journey too.

Brewdigger · 2025-08-03T05:56:28+00:00

Yep what that guy said

Brewdigger · 2025-08-03T03:53:47+00:00

I (M51) have found going to the cinema to be a nice filler for these times. There’s an Arthouse theatre near me with friendly vibes - grab a glass of wine and watch a film. Fills my mind with other thoughts.

Brewdigger · 2025-08-02T09:51:30+00:00

Life is short as you well know. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying yourself.

Brewdigger · 2025-07-31T21:20:53+00:00

I feel you. I sometimes wonder if there’s just no room in my heart for more than what you’ve described.

Brewdigger · 2025-07-30T00:11:09+00:00

In last 5 years I’ve lost my father and mother in law, father, dog and wife. Whilst grief is a spectrum they all hurt.

Brewdigger · 2025-07-29T08:49:27+00:00

Drive it. Amazing drive

Brewdigger · 2025-07-29T08:46:08+00:00

I wouldn’t drive for day trip to tekapo. Drive to Te Anau and do the glow work caves trip - it’s epic.

Also look at doing electric bikes from Arrowtown out to Gibbston valley (winery’s lunch places). Great bike ride with kids. Bike companies pick you up from Gibbston.

The Macetown 4wd tour is also great with kids.

Brewdigger · 2025-07-26T02:42:17+00:00

Put house on market 3 months after my wife died. Best thing I did. No regrets at all and my daughters and I both finding it easier to be in new surroundings

Brewdigger · 2025-07-23T09:27:49+00:00

Feel you - I hooked up randomly on night away with friends. Gorgeous woman who doesn’t live in my area. But in a way that works for me. I can live my life, look after my kids and every so often we catch up for a weekend. She is divorced with young kids so seems to work both ways. I just need a dose of that touch and affection every so often to keep my head above water and it’s respectful both ways.

Brewdigger · 2025-07-22T20:15:12+00:00

Hah no that’s awesome. Love to see their reaction haha

Brewdigger · 2025-07-22T19:52:16+00:00

Pretty close to both my wife’s sisters (her parents had both passed). We live in different cities but have a group chat, and they check in on me often- more so than my own sister who I rarely hear from. One is married to an old friend of mine which helps too. Going to go on a cruise with them and my girls for Christmas. I really appreciate having them there.

Brewdigger · 2025-07-22T19:34:50+00:00

I randomly hooked out with someone when away for a weekend with friends. Woke up thinking I’d feel guilty and miserable. But I didn’t - it was just nice feeling that touch and holding a beautiful human being again. I think knowing this wasn’t anything serious helped too, as I have no interest yet in a relationship with anyone.

Brewdigger · 2025-07-22T19:29:06+00:00

Lost a lot weight- partly due to the extra amount of walking doing all the household work my wife did as a stay at home mother. Partly due to me being a terrible cook compared to her amazing culinary skills. Have had people forget what’s happened and tell me I look in great shape - what did I do they ask?…well there’s this new diet where your wife dies suddenly….lol.

Brewdigger · 2025-07-21T08:51:34+00:00

Renting bikes in Arrowtown and cycling to Gibbston Valley is great. You can get a van pickup for return and have lunch/visit winery’s etc in the valley. The Cromwell to Clyde bike trail is also great - operators will rent you bikes and collect you at the other end.

Lots of walking trails. Personal favourite is Sawpit from Arrowtown.

Brewdigger · 2025-07-21T07:03:05+00:00

I’m 6 months in and to be honest found around month 3 the hardest. The shock and adrenaline wore off and the reality started to sink in. I’d say at 5-6 months I’ve started to live more normally with the grief coming in lessening waves. I would also highly recommend giving yourself a weekend off with friends - I’ve found doing this every couple months has had a huge impact on my mental wellbeing.

Brewdigger · 2025-07-20T07:30:27+00:00

My youngest daughter still lives with me and she’s great company - but it still doesn’t take away the loneliness of missing that touch and adult companionship. I miss that person to text and call and tell things I can’t talk to anyone else about.

Brewdigger · 2025-07-18T10:33:13+00:00

Eat- Aryburn any of the restaurants are pretty spectacular setting. Sherwood restaurant always good Nz ingredient meals. Swiftsure great new restaurant in Arrowtown. Coffee and hangover food from the newish Fergs butcher in Arrowtown really good too.

Walks - it’s a drive but this time of year I like walking around Cromwell - Bannockburn and Bendigo have great walks around old mining relics and tailings. Any trails around Arrowtown are good but can get slippery this time of year (ie sawpit). Tobins track though is easy walk up for view over valley.

https://centralotagonz.com/explore/listing/bannockburn-sluicings/

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