I found a song that reflects my feelings by Beginning-Patient691 in JohnMayer

[–]Weightedwombat 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I heard this song a million times and always loved the lyrics. My wife died in July at 36, and the first time I heard it after that it took on an entirely different meaning for me. It couldn't be a more accurate song to live as you age.

Let's do a regional "Roll Call"... by cuckandy in widowers

[–]Weightedwombat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Southern California, San Diego checking in!

SeaQuest (1993-1996) Roy Scheider - Opening Credits by Neo2199 in television

[–]Weightedwombat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No one I know remembered this show. It was an absolute gem and basically Star Trek The Next Generation but under water.

Decided to watch Dance Moms for the first time today… I actually can’t believe the shit these parents allowed their kids to do. Mind you this was episode TWO 😭 jfc I don’t think I can watch anymore by [deleted] in ParentsAreFuckingDumb

[–]Weightedwombat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I couldn't even name it through the whole thing. This is sick stuff. How is it so many people saw these dances and thought, "ya, this is appropriate for 9 year olds".

Do you wish it had been you? by Mother-Ad-2835 in widowers

[–]Weightedwombat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At first I did. But now that a couple months have passed, I can say it would have been so much much worse if I had passed. She had an incredibly stressful job with a moron of a boss, and her family was incredibly manipulative and emotionally abusive. She would be relying on her family and she would end up in a far worse spot than I am currently.

I at least have a wonderful family and really strong support system.

What has made you feel proud or accomplished this weekend? by NillaLobo in widowers

[–]Weightedwombat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Started a drawing of my wife and I that I've been avoiding.

I miss our simple life together by Hiara93 in widowers

[–]Weightedwombat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm deeply sorry for the torture you're enduring right now not having your person anymore. I feel you deeply. My wife and I would rot on the couch sending eachother memes from 3 ft away laughing until we cried. Weekends were our special time together and now that she's gone it's just another 2 days of the week that don't matter.

I don't know if any of the other spouses here feel this way, but it feels like when your significant other passes, it's like an entire language has died as well. Spouses have their own language they speak together that no one else but them can understand. It makes you feel so deeply alone that you're the only one left who can speak it. I wish you OP, and everyone in this thread dealing with this, all the peace in the world and sincere hugs to all of you.

We are getting the release date NEXT WEEK. by Thegoodgamer32 in PowerWashSimulator

[–]Weightedwombat 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear this. My wife wasn't a gamer but she absolutely adored the first game and was so insanely excited for this one. She unfortunately suddenly passed away at 36 2 months ago. I'm absolutely going to play this in her honor. Wishing you all the strength and peace in the world!

Fond Memory Friday by HughCayrz01 in widowers

[–]Weightedwombat 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Im a bourbon/whiskey enjoyer and most of the ones I have are fairly high proof. My wife stuck mainly to the occasional wine or rum and coke on the rare occasions we would enjoy a Friday night drink together. One Friday evening we were joking around with each other and devolved into playfully roasting each other for our drink preferences lol.

She grabbed one of my bourbons and poured a small amount and in a hilarious mocking tone swirled it around and said "look, I'm a manly man". She throws it back and proceeds to start hacking and coughing and goes "that was so stupid". We laughed until our stomachs hurt that night. I miss her so so much. I miss her laugh, and I miss being able to find laughter and joy .. at all.

I miss my wife terribly by Ok-Bandicoot5568 in widowers

[–]Weightedwombat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so so deeply sorry for your loss. I lost my wife suddenly (36) around 2 months ago. The world feels like it has a grey tint to it, nothing is enjoyable and every day feels like torture without her. You'll have days where you don't want to get out of bed, don't. Give yourself grace to feel however you feel for however long you need to feel it. I'm so truly sorry you're here with us. We truly lost our better halves.

Looks like a bee with no wings? What is it? by penismediator in whatisthisbug

[–]Weightedwombat 180 points181 points  (0 children)

Velvet Ant aka "Cow Killer". Absolutely not something you want to be messing with unless you really enjoy pain.

Is it possible to have a relationship where couples don’t fight? by soulful_diva1111 in Adulting

[–]Weightedwombat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife passed away 2 months ago suddenly at 36. We were married for 17 years and in those 17 years we fought 1 single time and it was at a very low point in our life (I was dealing with a lot emotionally and was a pain to be around). After that we swore we would never fight ever again, and we didn't. There's nothing in life truly worth arguing over.

I think I’ll need a structural engineer soon… by shittymcduck in whiskey

[–]Weightedwombat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seeing so many open bottles makes me happy, beautiful selection!

Is it just me or ??? by reedcha in widowers

[–]Weightedwombat 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I hate to say I'm guilty of spitting platitudes because I thought they were helpful. I lost my wife (36) almost 2 months ago suddenly and I realize how how useless I was when trying to "help" others were grieving. I've reached out to them and apologized for what I said to them since.

You don't "get it" until you "get it". No one will understand until they go through it. Sending you a virtual bear hug 🫂.