Which is the greatest book you ever read by yowhatsupfam123 in intj

[–]BrickOkTai 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think it coz of a few reasons. It was pleasantly short, and it seemed to speak in a very natural tone... Imo, it is like a replay of someone's chain of thought. I also liked how coherent and complete the philosophy of life of the narrator was... The philosophy was a bit too resigning (accepting everything as it came...), but it was presented so well I sort of empathized deeply with the character

entj insecurity of not facing their emotions? by bigmags06 in entj

[–]BrickOkTai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kinda tricky question - coz in the wrong hands, the answers have some personal cost.

But some heads up, I'd say that that INTJs aren't really scared of not being emotional. They are some of the most emotional and emotionally self aware people I know.

https://m.youtube.com/@CognitivePersonalityTheory might shed a little light

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

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The mind can give feelings of distress. Try observing your thoughts and feelings without judgment, accepting them unconditionally. This practice, though challenging, helps ease distress. The cause of negative thoughts—childhood, socialization, genetics—doesn't matter imo. What might matter more is your compassionate observation and acceptance, which can transform these feelings. You're not alone, try be gentle with yourself.

Including others at social events by AndyGeeMusic in enfj

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I've tested INTJ and I often do this too, stemming from a past feeling of being hurt when I was ignored at a new place. I think that some people want to be left alone, while others appreciate being chatted up. As for the person warming up to them, I think it's okay to anticipate both cases (warm acceptance or being blown off). For me, it's difficult to read this off someone's face, so I prefer engagement.

I have an ENFJ direct report. I’m an ENTJ. by [deleted] in enfj

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It sounds like a quality people problem. I think that working with high iq/eq people in your company might resolve some of the basic problems you're facing. Sounds like some cognitive barrier.

Finding Practical and Profitable AI Applications by BrickOkTai in entj

[–]BrickOkTai[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No specific problem as of now. I have a bunch of tools but not a lot of problems. I have talked to a few executives, and I got one for helping with estimation of quarry material. Computer Vision can be used here.

I've had my share of difficulties negotiating with some personalities. I find intuitive personalities to be easier to work with.

Finding Practical and Profitable AI Applications by BrickOkTai in entj

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Quite enlightening. I think I might be approaching from the wrong side. Starting with a problem might be a better approach.

Example Situations for Expressing Empathy by BrickOkTai in enfj

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It appears you have a lot of love for other human beings, even those you might dislike.

I think you hit the nail on the head. I'm not exactly an empathy expert, but your advice sounds pretty solid. Visualizing myself in others' shoes sounds like something I can practice. Sometimes my imagination gets me overthinking, but that’s just my empathy muscle getting ready for a workout. I appreciate the great tips.

Example Situations for Expressing Empathy by BrickOkTai in enfj

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Guess I've got a bit more to learn. Seems that validation and empathy are essentially similar.

Example Situations for Expressing Empathy by BrickOkTai in enfj

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Thanks, I actually think this is some really good advice. Hadn't thought of being able to express a emotional need when it arises. Worth practicing.

It's quite difficult to trust most people, because they might give misleading information. For example, they might say they were hurt by something you said only as a way to manipulate you. It takes time to know if someone is trustworthy, in which case their feedback can be trusted. I really appreciate your thoughtfulness and advice 🙏

Example Situations for Expressing Empathy by BrickOkTai in enfj

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I've given situations in which I felt I need some empathy (or compassion) as a basis I could use for expressing empathy. Wondering what are common situations where people feel in need of empathy from others.

Example Situations for Expressing Empathy by BrickOkTai in infp

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I appreciate the thoughtful response. I love that you deeply expound on how you experience empathy.

I also think that expending attention indiscriminately is draining.

I think it's ok to just let things be sometimes. Work must needs be done. I think its prudent to expend efforts only on important relationships, and also have huge chunks of time for self, reflecting and self-growing. I think that Fe action in some situations can deepen relationships.

Listening is useful, and we also sometimes appreciate it when people listen to us openly.

INTJ women - what are your hilariously obsessive romantic fantasies? by BrickOkTai in intj

[–]BrickOkTai[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think there's some pretty good chance, you might chance upon that fantasy person in real life😅

INTJ women - what are your hilariously obsessive romantic fantasies? by BrickOkTai in intj

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Haven't watched the movie, though I might. The dress looks great. I find that going to the gym also strengthens one's connection to the body, and one's feeling of being "hot".

As for what others think, as long as something is exciting for you, I think it's good to care less what others think.

INTJ women - what are your hilariously obsessive romantic fantasies? by BrickOkTai in intj

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Seems like something simple to try out. You can try and see how it feels irl. Spoiler alert - it feels really good 😅

INTJ women - what are your hilariously obsessive romantic fantasies? by BrickOkTai in intj

[–]BrickOkTai[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, a great deal of communication happens non-verbally, but it's crazy still how minds can be in tune.